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Depends on the person. I have come to realize just how rude some people can be since I found out I was pregnant. I just try to look at everything with positive intentions...we might not know why people say what they say...but for whatever reason they do.

Toxic for sure!

I do not think that you'll have to cut the feet off? Weird!

I have a friend like this that Im only now trying to disance myself from. She is just very selfish, always has terrinle nasty comments, and frequently is a negative person. I dont saynanything back but I am tempted. Some people arent worth it, but sometimes the satisfaction of shutting them up already is!!

Have you told her that she is being constantly negative and to knock it off? Maybe she doesn't realize how negative and critical she comes across and thinks she's just being helpful with her "expertise" in all these areas.

I would just say something hinting at her negativity and see if she gets the message. I get how it can sort of seem like she's implying you're incompetent and how the comments can come across as pretty negative especially when you're excited. However, I think this might be one of those cases where she just doesn't realize how she's coming off. In the meantime I'd just see if I can find someone else to talk baby stuff with! Feel free to post your baby shoes here!

Is this a person you can avoid/distance yourself from? If not, I'd be up-front but polite, like, "I'm not sure if you realized this, but a lot of your comments about my pregnancy/baby/etc. are coming off pretty negative. It really makes it hard to talk about it with you." I'd be tempted to call her out in a rude way, but it's always best to take the high road while still not letting people treat you poorly.

That's annoying, especially because her comments aren't necessarily right. Why can't you have footy things in the pj's? My LO has them.... they keep her feet warm. I usually just try to kill them with kindness.... but if they go too far and don't shut up about it, I try to distance myself. Good luck!

It really sounds like thinly masked jealousy to me . . . as best possible, just kill her with kindness when you have to deal with her, and stay away from her as much as possible in order to give her as little to work with, i.e., to be negative about.

I understand where you are coming from. I have a great friend who because she is already a mother thinks she knows what is best in ALL cases. I think she thinks she is providing advice, to me it is her coming off as pushy/negative. I finally just said "I understand you are trying to help, but I need a friend not another one giving me advice. I have two pushy sisters for that already." And she has zipped her lips every since. I know she meant well but it was all rubbing me the wrong way, just because it didn't work for her daughter doesn't mean it wouldn't work for mine!