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How ballsy!

We waited a few years after getting married to have a baby and then it took a while to get pregnant AND we're in our 30's. Got comments about how we were waiting so long/ "when are you having kids" which was pretty annoying

Yes! During a deposition, and in front of opposing counsel and the court reporter, one of my clients actually asked me whether my pregnancy was planned. Thank goodness we were not on the record! After the initial shock wore off, I just responded yes and moved on.

I think when people make comments like that they are (1) searching for something to talk about (my client then proceeded to ask about a birth plan and breastfeeding . . . during a break, I reminded her that the less she spoke the better *augh*), and/or (2) have strong feelings about the timing of similar events, or the lack thereof, in their own lives.

Sorry hun . . . ((hugs))

Wow... that's really rude. And, I think that your amount of time between wedding and getting pregnant is actually really normal, so I'm confused anyway! I don't think people you actually know will have the reaction, but if they do, then, they are very rude and are obviously projecting their own feelings/situation (and I hate when people say things like if they have a problem they are just projecting!)

I will admit that when people who got married around the same time as us or after got pregnant before we started trying, my silent initial reaction was often, I wonder why they wanted to do that so soon? Because we as a couple decided 2 years was a good time for us, it seemed like a good time for everyone, but it would be a split second and SILENT thought. Does that make sense?

I did get several people telling me I was too young to be getting married when we got engaged. I was like, um... I'm 29. Isn't that pretty normal to old around these parts?

Yuck.

I got a lot of these comments about baby 2!

@Mrs squirreld: I know people who were 2 or 3 months pregnant on their wedding nights! The only person who said anything to my friend was her grandmother, who apparently isn't good at math and said, "I didn't know you had THAT much fun on your honeymoon!"

It kinda sounds like she was teasing, in a socially-awkward way. I mean, my husband I and *just* got married in September, stopped "preventing" in late October, and got a positive test just 2 weeks later! So, we were REALLY FAST.

We've had some funny comments like, "boy, you guys don't waste any time", and "he must have really strong swimmers" (yes, MY brother in law said this no less than 3 times at Christmas when we announced, in front of my mom, cousins, everyone! Um....embarassing?), but so far I haven't really been offended at any of it.

I just laugh along and say, "some of us are lucky to get what we want immediately" or "we're just lucky, I guess" or if I'm trying to be funny, "us oldies don't have the luxury of waiting" (we're 32).

Grrr. I would have laid into her.

This isn't exactly the same, but I have a friend who just had her second baby and her first is about 2. We were at a party together and this really annoying lady I can't stand was chatting my ear off about something, and the friend with two kids was standing not that far away, maybe 10 feet away, getting her baby settled, and this woman talking to me goes, "Don't have them so close together like *SHE* did" -- not even very quietly! I found it so awkward and the tone of her voice was so disgusted. And this lady only has one child, so how would she even know?!

How irritating! I thankfully haven't had anyone comment on that, though we got pregnant about 10 months after our wedding. I did have a co-worker ask in front of our boss if we had been trying or if it was a surprise. That was awkward.

We fell pregnant 9 months after getting married, but no one has really commented. But, We're 30 and 31, so maybe people are easier on us? I had my first son when I was 25, and I got a lot more comments from people then, cause I looked (I still do, but I guess not as much) really young. People just don't have a filter around pregnant women, lol.