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Pregnancy After IF Support Group #2

  1. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @Amorini: Mummyhood will bring a whole new kettle of worries - but once baby is here, you can breathe a sigh of relief that now, just now, the IF part is over... even if just temporarily.

    @agold: Absolutely - each baby is so special, no question. But they are so, so precious and so, so yearned for.

  2. Amorini

    persimmon / 1132 posts

    @jaguar: So true!

    agold: Thinking of you! You're getting so close!

  3. agold

    grapefruit / 4045 posts

    @Amorini: Thank you! you are getting close, too!!

  4. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    I'm wondering if anyone else on this board works in the medical field. Saturday I start a month-long rotation in the Pediatric ER, and am concerned about potential exposures to diseases I should not be exposed to during pregnancy (varicella, parvo, CMV, rubella and toxo).

    I'm getting tested on Friday to see if I have immunity to any of these, but in the meantime and in case I'm not immune, how did you all address not seeing these patients when you weren't "out" yet about the pregnancy?

  5. agold

    grapefruit / 4045 posts

    @yellowbeach: I don't work in pediatrics. But I think I would probably "out" myself immediately if I worked in that field. Fifth's Disease is also something I wouldn't want to be exposed to. Can you wear one of those face masks while you work?

  6. LoveHope

    kiwi / 689 posts

    Hi Ladies... Feeling ready to join this group now that I've had an ultrasound. We had our first u/s on Tuesday in which they were only able to see the gestational sac which had me worried. I was 5w2d. I went back this morning and we got to see the yolk sac too so I felt better.
    Although I'm over the moon about this bean, I can't seem to enjoy it because I'm constantly worried about every pain and twinge. I guess this is what 2.5 years of IF does to a person. We go in next week again for another scan so hoping we get good news then too.

  7. Ajsmommy

    pomegranate / 3355 posts

    @LoveHope: so so happy to see you here my friend!! I was following along with your story after the 6+ boards. Great news at your ultrasound and hoping for you that the good news just keeps coming.

    I have been struggling to not worry during this pregnancy but its so hard. It's great to have HB to come to and get support!


  8. NorthStar

    pear / 1881 posts

    @LoveHope: Welcome! You are not alone in the worrying and you will even see some of the ladies who are much further along who continue to have the same feelings. I've said this before, but IF does something to a woman. I myself am having such a hard time accepting this pregnancy and am 11 weeks today. I am sending so many good wishes for your next ultrasound and know that you are NOT alone.

  9. agold

    grapefruit / 4045 posts

    @LoveHope: Congratulations!! Don't worry... you will soon feel more excitement than worry. Or at least 50/50 of each.

  10. LibbyLou

    kiwi / 739 posts

    @yellowbeach: stalking this board but I'm in medical field and spend all my time in hospitals. Most hospitals won't let you work there unless you are up to date on vaccines. I dont work in peds but I would check the hospital's rules. You can get lab work to show you're immune then get vaccines to cover what you aren't.
    I'm not pregnant but I do wear a mask most of the time and wash my hands a lot. I've been fine with not even a case of the flu for the last seven years.

  11. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    Thanks @libbyLou!

    Also just got my second beta today, 356 up from 160. I plotted it on this chart I saw on another board and it seems high (note the line at the bottom about high risk of multiples. We only transferred one. Does anyone know if this is a reputable site or just hocus pocus?

  12. agold

    grapefruit / 4045 posts

    @yellowbeach: I don't know anything about that site. But I see your numbers as great, although I never thought "multiples" when looking at them. Good luck either way!

  13. NorthStar

    pear / 1881 posts

    @yellowbeach: I wouldn't worry about multiples. My first beta was like 350 and I only have 1. My guess is that you only have one in there. I've learned to not stress about it and just wait for the ultrasound. Easier said than done, right?!

  14. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    @NorthStar: I know! The waiting is killing me for sure. I thought the 2WW was difficult. Should have realized that the feeling probably isn't going to go away. Now it's just waiting for the 6WUS, then 8WUS, then 10WUS... I just remind myself this is a good problem to have and just make sure I'm not too distracted from work that I get myself fired or something

  15. NorthStar

    pear / 1881 posts

    @yellowbeach: yeah, it is really hard. I haven't had an ultrasound since 6/30 and it's killing me. I did hear the heartbeat last Friday, but it's not the same. Hang in there and we are all here for you!

  16. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @yellowbeach: What dpo/dpt were your numbers? I think they look perfect!

  17. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    @jaguar: 9 and 11

  18. Amorini

    persimmon / 1132 posts

    @LoveHope: Yay, you're "here"! When you're ready, maybe try to let go now and then and allow yourself to get excited and happy in small doses. It's a fun feeling!

    @yellowbeach: Yay for a great second beta! My betas were quite high but I just had one sac at 6w. There's a range... I checked out mine on betabase based on what others here were referencing.

    @agold: Hey, I always lurk on the August board and saw that you're visiting the OB 2x week. Something about standard procedures for IVF pregnancies? Are you having u/s both times, monitoring/NSTs and each visit?

    Starting Monday (31w for me but could have started at 30w if it weren't for my insurance changing) I'll have 1x weekly visits where they will do u/s biophysical profile and monitoring. Apart from the hassle of running around between work and OB, I am looking forward to the reassurance of extra care (at least, I hope it is!) and making sure my little kickboxer is doing well in real time! In my case, it's for my extra (haha!) AMA. No OB or peri I've met so far across 2 clinics said the treat IVF pregnancies differently.

  19. agold

    grapefruit / 4045 posts

    @Amorini: Hi! I love that you lurk. Okay, so for my twice weekly monitoring. I actually am totally not sure why I'm having that except for the fact that my pregnancy is an IVF pregnancy. I think I recall my OB saying that it was an insurance requirement and that she (OB) didn't think it was necessary. It was ordered on June 30th, but because of a July 1st insurance change combined with my own lagging on setting it up, I didn't start until July 22. It was supposed to be non-stress test monitoring twice a week (tuesday and friday) with an ultrasound on fridays that is designed to only check amniotic fluid. (its not a cute ultrasound where I get to see fun things about the baby.. although I usually see the back of her head, and always her spine since they check to see if she is "breathing". last friday, the nice nurse showed me the baby's hand! ) So the first ultrasound on the 22nd show low amniotic fluid (6 cm) and I mentioned how the PA at my last OB appointment told me I was measuring at like 30 weeks when I was actually 34 weeks. So those two things triggered an IUGR mention by someone and now I'm on twice a week ultrasounds, even though my amniotic fluid has now reached normal levels. ALSO... I haven't even had my third trimester ultrasound yet (getting it later today... i just lagged, again, on doing this) so the IUGR talk was really premature. And yes... like you, I feel like its nice reassurance to listen to baby's heart beat and whatnot each week, even if it is totally a hassle to have to go twice a week. Do you have to go to the hospital to have this done? For me, being at the hospital has actually been really easy, but getting to the hospital is the problem. Its at the end of a busy freeway. But the room I sit in for the monitoring has a fabulous ocean view!! So funny that you and I both dealt with insurance changes recently. And crazy you have to go through the monitoring because of your age.

  20. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @yellowbeach: Fantastic! x

    @agold: @Amorini: I kind of WISH I was being monitored a little extra, is that bad? haha. I guess I had my fair share watching this peanut growing across the first scary trimester!

  21. agold

    grapefruit / 4045 posts

    @jaguar: Its never bad to want to have your baby monitored, or to want to have any glimpse at your baby that you can!

  22. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    @agold: I completely agree - today I asked my RE for an extra 3rd beta to tide me over between now and our 6wUS just for some monitoring and to make sure things are headed the right direction.

  23. Amorini

    persimmon / 1132 posts

    @jaguar: Not at all bad! I actually feel kinda lucky to have the special attention! (If it were transvag scans or blood draws, something tells me I would feel less lucky... Been there, done that!)

    @agold: Oh wow, I'm glad the low amniotic fluid and IUGR issues seem like they are behind you. Twice a week seems like a lot because of the drive for you, but you're so close to the end so it's not forever (even though, I think you are hoping for a naturally long pregnancy--like me! My due date is 10/1 and I REALLY want an October baby!! Today they told us the babe is breech and measuring ahead of schedule! Can't complain but come on, baby! Work with me!) Anyway, starting today, I go to the OB office for the weekly biophysical scans/NSTs. They check fluid, practice breathing and some other things. Then I do the NST. It's on the hospital campus so it's basically the same as the hospital. No ocean view but they have this quiet room with a comfy Lazy Boy that's directly under an A/C duct and today it felt heavenly! I can deal with that. My OB said the extra monitoring for 40+ moms is based on new recommendations in the last 6 months, so I kinda feel lucky that IF / IVF and all the waiting made for some good timing after all... At least that's the way I'm looking at it. Very interesting that your OB does this for all IVF pregnancies! Glad that things are looking good for you and hope your little girl stays put for awhile!

    @yellowbeach: Yay! Glad you'll get some extra reassurance!

  24. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    Better be careful what you wish for...

    OB Appt today showed cervix open and funneling and I'll now be on hospital bed rest until 32 weeks. 18 days to go.😥

    Stay put baby girl!

  25. Amorini

    persimmon / 1132 posts

    @jaguar: Replied on our Oct board but sending some love here, too. Baby, listen to your mamma!

  26. agold

    grapefruit / 4045 posts

    @jaguar: OMG! That's crazy. I'm sorry you are going through this. Do they think the bed rest will help? Are they doing anything else to keep baby in? And what happens at 32 weeks? Why do they send you home at that point?

    @Amorini: I'm so glad I'm not the only one who ISN'T hoping that this baby will come early. I'd like her to come late, please! I asked the hospital nurse today why IVF girls have to come for monitoring. She said something like "oh, because its not a naturally occurring pregnancy." Ha. Thank you for calling my pregnancy unnatural. She's sweet and I took no offense. But still.... I'm so glad you get a comfy chair beneath the AC. It makes for a relaxing visit at the very least. My amniotic fluid is down to 7 today. Bummer. I'm honestly drinking gallons of water a day and doing essentially no exercise in hopes I can keep it up.

  27. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    More good beta numbers today

    14dpo: 160
    16dpo: 356
    20dpo: 2071

    I'm glad I asked for that 3rd beta. I feel much less anxious about things (for now) and feel like I will not go as crazy between now and out 6wus on 8/11.

  28. agold

    grapefruit / 4045 posts

    @yellowbeach: Fantastic third beta result!!

  29. GreenThumb

    pear / 1986 posts

    Just fair warning that if you have a vanishing twin like we did, you might get a false gender result on your NIPT (if you have it). MaterniT21 told us we were having a boy, but the anatomy scan this morning showed a little girl!! The craziness of infertility continues!!!

  30. NorthStar

    pear / 1881 posts

    @GreenThumb: oh my goodness! Did they tell you that was a possibility? Congrats on your little girl , but man, if you had starting buying for a boy, that would throw me for a loop!

  31. GreenThumb

    pear / 1986 posts

    @NorthStar: The doc we saw for our NT scan told us it was highly unlikely because the demise (I hate that word) of the twin was super early. Honestly DH is kind of pissed that they even offered us the test without greater warning. But after all, a healthy baby is the most important thing!! And I told my sister not to get rid of any girl clothes until the anatomy scan just in case !

  32. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    @GreenThumb: Wow! Here's to surprises! I'm sure you weren't expecting that news this morning. But it sounds like otherwise everything was as expected and progressing well, so congrats!

  33. GreenThumb

    pear / 1986 posts

    @yellowbeach: Thank you so much! After all the IF/IVF craziness over the last 4 years, I'm pretty happy that my biggest problem at this point is changing around my nursery design ideas!

  34. Mrs. Pickle

    blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts

    @GreenThumb: oh wow! I had a vanishing twin and was told that I couldn't do the NIPT because of potential false results.

  35. GreenThumb

    pear / 1986 posts

    @Mrs. Pickle: Exactly! The whole thing is crazy especially since we discussed the issue of false results due to the twin with the MFM who ordered the NIPT. His understanding was that if the twin demise was early on (we guess mine was at about 6 weeks) there would not be enough placental DNA to cause a false result. In the end, I guess even U/S are sometimes wrong (although I think the tech and the MFM we saw today were in total agreement about this little ). The genetic counselor that we saw today also said that gender is the least reliable for the NIPT and probably shouldn't be included because really anyone could have a vanishing twin. She assured us that the normal results that we got for the other chromosomal issues were in fact much more reliable. I'm done with tests!

  36. Mrs. Pickle

    blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts

    @GreenThumb: I don't blame you. Congratulations on your healthy little girl!

  37. Amorini

    persimmon / 1132 posts

    @GreenThumb: Oh wow! What a surprise! I love your attitude -- it puts it all in perspective! Whether she's really a she (and sounds like she is! ), I'm so glad to hear that all of your results were great.

  38. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    Ugh - DH and I got in an ~2 hr long argument tonight (over what who knows), and now I swear I have these increased cramps. Can stress cause exaggeration of your normal symptoms? No bleeding or anything or I'd be freaking out. Just wondering what to expect or if anyone else has had a similar experience.

  39. Amorini

    persimmon / 1132 posts

    @yellowbeach: Cramps early on are super normal, so long as there's no bleeding, etc. I'm sorry about your fight with DH. If it makes you feel any better, we got into some fights (1 doozy per trimester, it seems) and all's well with baby. I'm sure it's the extra hormone surge making me the Incredible Hulk kind of angry. Hoping things cool off and the cramps stop soon. Drink water and don't hesitate to call your RE or OB if you need reassurance!

  40. yellowbeach

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    @Amorini: Thanks for the reassurance. We sorted things out before going to bed, and I feel better today both physically and mentally. Thankfully I have my 1st US on Thursday where hopefully we'll see a little heartbeat.

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