We had a pretty rough evening with Evan last night. He was screaming/tantruming about pretty much everything, and ended up losing pretty much all of his nightly privileges (turning on the bath by himself, having toys in the tub, reading stories/singing songs, etc). It was rough, for all of us (I had to kick D out of the bathroom at one point because he was really losing his temper).

When we were tucking him in he stopped us and said "I want to talk." So we said "Okay, about what?" and he said "You and Daddy made me sad tonight." We were able to talk about his behavior that evening ("mom asked you to put away your blocks three times and instead you kept playing and then screamed when she started putting them away") and reinforce that his choices/behaviors have consequences. ("Mom told you if you didn't pick them up you wouldn't get to have any toys in the bathtub tonight") You do X, Y happens. He was happy when he finally went to sleep, and we felt pretty good, too.

I was really proud that he asked to talk about it, and we were able to explain why we took away his privileges. I think being able to calmly communicate like that (even after the fact) is so important (and something D and I have had to actively work on in our marriage).

Your kid do anything lately that made you think you're doing things right?