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The name I originally wanted to name our LO if he was a boy was vetoed quickly by DH. We ended up settling on a name we both liked which I am now super in love with! I wasn't so excited about it at first but it has grown on me.

I remember when we found out he was a boy I asked DH what we should name him. He said, "I thought we already agreed." I was like...."Yeah..I guess." BUT now I love it and wouldn't change it.

I guess you can say i in some ways settled on my daughters name. Both DH and I had a favorite name for her and we couldn't agree on one. We both liked the other name, but just wouldn't budge. We agreed that when she was born we'd pick one of those two names. When she was born, as soon as I saw her I knew one of the names 'fit' her better. It just so happened to be the one DH picked. Sometimes I'm like I wish you were (the other name), then I look at her and think, 'nope, you're so A'

@night cheese: can you guys do something like that? Go in with both names, and choose when the baby gets here?

Neither of our names were my #1 choice, but it was important to me that both my husband and I really liked the names and agreed on them. Now that we've been calling them by their names , I really really love them. They just feel right now. I hope that the name either grows on you or you can find another compromise. FWIW, both your names are great!

Just my two cents but I wouldn't settle! Not ever. I would keep looking. We both need to love it!

I was completely in love with the girls name Lois but DH vetoed it because he could only say it on the voice of Stewie from Family Guy. Man I hate that cartoon baby!! I begged and begged but he wouldn't budge! I thought I would have to settle with a name I liked but didn't love (Evelyn or Jaimee) but then I came across a name I loved... and DH loved it too! Phew! Now she's here I cannot picture her as a Lois - she's no Lois!! She really suits her name because its hers!

We picked a first name that I loved and DH liked, but I don't really like the middle name, but DH felt really strongly about it. It wasn't super important to me, so I figured I could live with it.

@Cherrybee: haha Dh vetoed a family name bc of Family Guy too. It wasn't really my favorite but I guess there is a joke about the worst name you can think of- my dad's middle name.

Neither of our kids' babes were my first choice. In both instances I had names that I LOVED but DH just didn't love them and I really wanted us to both like the names a lot.

Now that we've used the "second choice" names I'm really glad because they SO fit our LOs!

My first choice boys name was Beckett (he ended up being an Elliot) and my first choice girls name was Emerson (she ended up an Emery).

DH vetoed a lot of names I loved but I did the same to him. I think you should keep looking until you find a name you both love. FWIW, I love both of those names!

We totally compromised!! I wanted to name our daughter Jessalyn...& our compromise was Jessie Lynn. I intended on calling her by her first & middle name because it's so close to what I wanted but I usually call her Jess or Jessie. I definitely think it fits her personality (but she's only 3.5 months, what do I know? Lol) but I definitely feel like when we have other kids we will need to stick to more "plain" names because hers isn't super "fancy". All in all I don't regret it, I think her name is perfect for her

If we have another boy this is how it will be. DH agreed with me on one of my favorite names (which we already used) but hates the other. So while I haven't experienced it yet, while I agree that it's a bummer - it would be an even bigger bummer for your DH to hate his child's name, right? I wish we could just magically make them love it, but unfortunately not possible. Obviously, lol.

I'll be honest, I'm hoping we have a girl so I don't have to deal with this.

@swedishfish: Well, we'd narrowed it down to a "top three" that had my 2nd and 3rd choice names and Natalie, but after she was born he thought she didn't feel like either of the other top two, and didn't want to go completely back to the drawing board. And I actually like Natalie as a name, but my husband's name is Matt, and my reservation was that it would be confusing to have Matt and Nat. So, I agreed on the condition that she's Natalie, NOT Nat, and that hasn't worked out so much as EVERYBODY automatically shortens it, despite me constantly correcting. And then I dislike it more because it hasn't worked out that well, and my favourite boys name (Zachary) is now off the table for future babies because we definitely can't have Matt, Nat and Zach. So, I kinda feel like I (pre-emptively and possibly irrationally) got ripped off on both my #1 picks for each gender.

@night cheese: Aww, Henry is DS2's middle name, I love it DS1's first name wasn't really my first choice, but we actually just never found a name we loved, so his name was in a group of "we'll think about it" names up until he was born. But as others have said, once they're here you'll know what to do

@swedishfish: I agree!

Zachary is actually my DH's and my agreed upon name that I don't really love for if we have another boy, haha.

@Sapphiresun: How old is your daughter? If you and your DH always call her by the non-shortened version of her name and she refers to herself by that, other people shortening it may lessen in the future. That would annoy me too though.

@night cheese: my LO has my "second choice" name. Now that she is 2, I can't imagine her with any other name. Here is what happened: I had a favorite name that I lived and DH hated. He then found a name he loved and I hated. Every time I tried suggesting a new option, he would just say "no, I like [his name] better. Eventually I developed a strong second choice and DH agreed it was his second favorite too. We finally decided on this mutual second choice name but it took a while!

I know that many people told us to wait until the hospital but I know how stubborn we both are and knew that would not work for us. I could totally see the baby coming out and us both proclaiming that she looked like our preferred name!

Good luck! Out of curiosity, if DH was willing to consider Henry for a twin, what is his objection now?

I just posted this in another thread, but Evan wasn't even in my Top 5. It's a family name, and would have been used as a middle if not a first...that was super important to D.

We decided that we both had full veto power over names, though. His favorite boy (and girl) names got nixed because I wasn't crazy about them, and vice versa. Evan was pretty much the only boy name that met all of our naming criteria AND that we could agree on, so we went with it, even though it wasn't a first choice (for a first name) for either of us.

That said, admittedly it took a month or two but I LOVE his name now and couldn't imagine him being named anything else. He's totally an Evan.

We each had our favorites and compromised on a name that we would both be happy with. It turns out that by the time we got to the 30 week 3D/4D ultrasound, the compromise name ended up fitting the little boy we saw on the screen even better than either of our first choices. I can't imagine him with any other name now!

I had to work on my husband to warm him up to the name I loved for like five months. I was so convinced he wouldn't like it that I ordered a name decal with the other name before she was born. But when she got here, he agreed 100% with me that her name should be the one I loved.

My parents tried to compromise... It didn't work so well, lol. They ended up changing my name, legally, when I was a month old.

@cascademom: I LOVE the name Declan! My DH isn't into it either though