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My sister did. We were all very surprised, but happy for them.

One of my close friends eloped when I was younger, and it did sting a bit at the time (I never told him though). But having been to a kajillion weddings at this point, I view it now as one less wedding I had to pay to attend!

For the people that I know that eloped - it was successful for them. I think it's the way you tell people (afterwards) that's most important. It all depends on your relationships, of course, but I think you should tell your parents/in-laws first (and in person is best), then family and close friends, and then everyone else.

Two of my co-workers eloped but I wasn't here when it happened. It's just hear-say from other co-workers.

One of them went to Vegas but her family was there, she just didn't invite friends so it was a small wedding like 15 people. Then she sent an e-mail to the co-workers the next week and said btw I'm married now. I should mentioned that she basically engaged and married her husband in like 2 weeks so a lot of people didn't even know she was engaged.

The other one, everyone knew she was engaged and they would ask about when is the wedding and she said she's not sure. Then one day she took a half day and came in the next day and said I'm married, went to the court house yesterday afternoon. She didn't have any friends and family there but all her family lives far away and she says that her husband and her are not close to family or have any close friends which is why they did it that way.

Since they were co-workers everyone just jokes about these marriages as no big deal. I have talked to them and they said their friends took it rather well too, but their friends know the type of people they are and just weren't surprised how that went down. If that makes sense.

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Another story is I am in a friend group from high school. You know how friends pair off to best friends? So even if the group is like 20 people usually you are very good friends with one or two of the girls in that group even though you all usually hang out in a group. Well one of those girls eloped and none of us were really upset except for her best friend from the group. They made up though so that worked out. I think she ended up making her best friend the godmother of her first born so that patched things up between them.

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I think people that really care about you will be understanding of your choice even if they are little hurt at the beginning. They just wanted to be part of a big day for you and you can't really fault them for that.

Good luck on your elope! It sounds like you are doing what's right for you.

@Weagle: yeah I thought it was really weird/mean. She posted pictures to facebook with captions like "got married on mama's porch and mama didn't know! lol"

One of my BFF eloped, she called me right after to tell me, I was hurt as I was very involved in the wedding planning. (They then decided to fly out on a Tuesday and get married in Vegas.) Her parents watched it, but they were the only ones who knew about it because they knew her dad would not allow her husband in his home if they didn't know.

I would at least let immediate family know your plans!

My grandparents did. I love this story!

My grandma (moms mom) had two older brothers and one younger. She was 14 when she met my pap, who was her oldest brothers friend. He was 19. My great-grandparents forbid her from seeing him because he was older and because he worked as a butcher in town. His nickname was Butch.

They were in love and snuck around. At 16, she "slept over a friends house" and went to New Jersey to marry my pap. Thy didn't tell anyone and she continued to live at home, go to high school and sneak out to be with him.

They didn't get caught until my grandma got pregnant. My great-grandfather kicked her out, but they later reconciled.

My grandparents were married for over 50 years. My gram had four girls by the time she was 20. My grandparents did reconcile with my great-grandparents & they went on to all love happily ever after. My great-grandparents played a huge role in my moms (and her sisters) lives, and my great-grandma was very special to me-- this baby is getting her first name as her middle!

It's my favorite love story!

@Mrs. Jump Rope: that's so similar to my grandparent's story!! She was 16 Protestant, he was 21 Catholic and my great grandparents forbade them from dating. They eloped to New Jersey and then went back to their own houses that night. They revealed the marriage three months later when my aunt was on the way. Five kids, three continents, and 67 years happily married.

@Mrs. Jump Rope: haha! Mine said she lied about her age and wasn't sure if their marriage was legal.

@mrs jump rope, what a crazy and adorable story!!