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My Dr ALWAYS used the pronoun from his previous appointment, so he was right 50% of the time . He was always very quick to say I don't actually know and it's just what the previous baby was. They don't even put it in the file if you're team green, so the US tech was the only person I would remind

Yes we were team green with our first and DW had PPROM so we needed an emergency ultrasound. The tech asked if we knew the gender and we said no and didn’t want to know. She said ‘ok so look away now because it’s VERY obvious!’ so we took that to mean obviously a boy. We had another ultrasound later that day or the next and asked the tech to tell us and sure enough, boy. At that point it was just a relief he was going to be ok and we didn’t care and were excited but looking back I’m still a little annoyed we waited 35 weeks to have it ruined instead of the moment during the birth we thought we would get! We found our with our second son at 20 weeks.

@LindsayInNY: oooo, I didn't have nipt done, so I don't know about that. I had like 12-14 US in my pregnancy though, so I was just hyper diligent, and I had the same tech the last 8 or so times and she'd turn off the big screen if she had to get around the genital area.

I didn't find out with my daughter. Most times the dr said lets find baby's heartbeat or lets find the hearbeat. I believe I heard a "he" ones that had me determined it was a boy, but like others had said it wasn't even on the chart.

@LindsayInNY: you need to start dancing (baby and otherwise), eat some spicy food, and bounce on a yoga ball

Get that baby moving!

No slips for us!
I don’t even think the Dr knew. She wasn’t in the Ultrasound (just the tech) and one of the high risk Drs looked at the images. I guess that’s just normal in their practice (I wasn’t high-risk).

At one point near the end I asked her if she knew. She said she did not. She said she could maybe dig through my chart to find it but it wasn’t readily available. She did ask near the end if we wanted to circumcise if it was a boy. That made me think she knew it was a boy, but maybe she just asks everyone that who’s team green?

DH was convinced that they listed LO as a girl on the screen at our last ultrasound, but I told him that it said "female" because *I* am a female. No telling whether I was right.

Looking back with DS1 I maybe should have guessed. My OB said something along the lines of wanting to send me for an u/s later in the pregnancy to check the kidneys as they measured large and some issue this could cause that was most common in boys. But I didn’t even realize what he said at the time and was pleasantly surprised.

DS2 we found out at the 20 week mark. But because DH couldn’t be with me the tech was good at keeping it from me.

I was TG with my first and my OB never slipped but I also reminded him a million times. He said at one point “i’m going to use male pronouns but that doesn’t mean anything.”

We were team green both times. With my son I was convinced that I saw them mark an ovary on the ultrasound so I was worried that I had actually seen that he was a girl. But actually they were just marking mine and in fact he was a boy. Second time around I had some issues towards the end that required additional ultrasounds. The first time around 33 weeks I thought that the ultrasound tech was slipping up to tell me that she was a boy because she seemed concerned that I would have two boys and I might not ever have a girl based on how she was talking about Her own children and family. At the very end right before I was induced one of the OBs started using female pronouns but then realized that she slipped up and said that she calls all babies girls because she’s tired of all the obs using male pronouns as gender-neutral pronouns. She had a good cover story but I think she had actually just slipped up a little bit as she did in fact turn out to be a girl. All the times I never really felt like I knew, though!

Geez reading about all these slip ups and cover ups makes me nervous! We are TG now and so far, no slips but we're only 15 weeks. Before the start of our ultrasound, the tech says she refers to all babies as he.

We've been team green twice and no one gave us any hints. The ultrasound tech just said, 'look away now if you don't want to know', and the doctor just alternated pronouns or called it 'the baby'.

I'll be going team green for the next kid too because I get such a kick out of annoying my family