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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: For me, personally, I think it's a fine line. Luckily DH and I do the same thing, so he comes to me with issues/concerns/etc. He has a male mentor in his boss and they do things like happy hour, etc.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Yep, DH has several close friends that are female, including his former roommate (and they lived together while we were dating) was a female. They don't refer to each other as "spouse/wifey/hubby" though
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Work mom, fine. Work wife, uhh no thank you! I would hope he takes a hard pass on that one
DH works with another man all day, so I guess if anything he would have a work husband.
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@dc yoga bee: I've been told opposite sex roommates are the best kind. My mom had a guy roommate in college. I lived with a girl and she was always in my closet!
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I'd like to be cool and say I don't mind at all, but honestly, I'm a bit leery of married folk having close friendships with members of the opposite sex. I think it can open the door to inappropriate things and maybe even cheating. I am my husband's opposite sex BFF and I don't see why he would need to confide in another. We talk a lot about his job and colleagues even though we're in wildly different fields. Familiarity breeds liking. Why take the chance, especially in the demanding high pressure field my husband works in, I'm glad that he has never had close friendships with other women! What can I say? I'm a little on the possessive side!
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Guys are definitely the best to live with. I only had 1 female roommate (plus dorm living on an all-girls floor); the rest were men. If I ever had to live with roommates again, I'd definitely live with dudes.
I don’t have a work husband, but I’ve only been here a year so I’ve got time to find one. They definitely seem pretty popular in my office; I see lots of “work spouse” pairs who take coffee breaks together, eat lunch together, etc. and are happily married to other people. I don’t think it’s a big deal. I trust myself and my husband. Friends can be friends, regardless of gender.
My husband had a work spouse, but they have different schedules now so they don’t see each other as often as they used to, which is sad since they are good friends. They would go to lunch or grab happy-hour drinks and talk about work. I think it was especially healthy and good for him because bringing his work issues/questions to me does nothing – besides being a soundboard and support system, I can’t really help, I’m not an expert in his field so what I can offer is honestly minimal. She however, is an expert and can bring really solid, constructive advice to the table.
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My Dh doesn't have anyone but I wish he did (male or female) I had 2 work wives, and they both left me within a few months of each other, it's been rough for me ever since.
And for the record, I have no issues with the phrase "work wife/husband" it's very common here and it never implied cheating to me. It's just a bond with someone else in a field you both are familiar with, it could be the same or opposite gender in my mind.
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Neither of us do. Neither of us work in fields where it is advantageous or encouraged to foster close relationships with coworkers. It will come back and bite you in the ass, guaranteed
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@Leah: I feel the same way. And I trust DH implicitly. We both have friends of the opposite gender. But I know I wouldn't be okay with him spending all day every day with somebody that he was that close to. Doesn't matter-- in our particular professions we only work pretty much with people of the same gender as ourselves.
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DH was my work spouse (while we were dating other people) and now he's my husband. So neither one of us are going to have anymore work spouses.
DH works with another man all day, so I guess if anything he would have a work husband.
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