Since my wee guy arrived I've been wondering how other families balance the philosophies / theories / principles of gentle / attachment parenting when dealing with more than one child?

What do you do when you're feeding a newborn and your toddler is melting down because you're not able to cuddle her? How do you deal with a crying child when all you want is for her to be quiet because you've got no energy left to pour in to her (and everybody's having a rough day and the newborn needs quiet to go to bed)?

Before our wee guy arrived I had all the time in the world for cuddles, "time in" and nurturing her through her emotional turmoils but sometimes i'm just not physically or emotionally able to do that now and it's something I'm struggling with.

How do you balance or reconcile the theory with real life?