I just wanted to take a minute to remind everyone about some of the issues associated with bedrest so that the support offered can be as supportive as possible. I know that everyone usually has the best intentions when offering support, but sometimes it can actually hurt.

1) Please avoid saying anything along the lines of "If only I could stay in bed for a day." I understand where you are coming from, but bedrest is very serious, especially when someone is pre-viability or very far from term. It is not restful and everyone on bedrest would rather be exhausted and have a healthy baby than to be in such a difficult place.

2) Keeping in mind #1, avoid suggesting activities that have to do with the baby's arrival i.e. planning a birth announcement, working on nursery or registry, etc. It can be very hard to decide how much or little to prepare when you are in a scary situation. (I went on bedrest at 23 weeks, delivered at 25 and started working on the nursery a couple of months later...)

BUT...suggestions of shows to watch or books to read or ways to de-stress or manage the monotony and/or fear are always helpful.

Please add any other suggestions that I forgot.

(And please don't feel bad if you made a comment similar to the above. It was obvious that everyone meant well. I just want to help everyone understand the full picture.)