Is this something you say a lot? I hear it all the time at preschool and from my friends with toddlers. Does it work for you?
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We use it a lot, both to encourage DS' growing verbal skills and also to temper the tantrums!
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yep all the time!
My kids get frustrated and just cry or whine - so I have to tell them "I don't know what that means, use your words"
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i have found myself saying that because i hate whining. It doesn't work until i tell him what the words are and he repeats me calmly, then i give him what he wants and praise him for being able to ask for something nicely and calmly.
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Not as much as I expected I would. DD is pretty good at expressing her "needs".
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I've started finding myself saying it. When DD gets worked up, she starts to flap her arms and/or stomp her feet quickly, I know it is because she's getting frustrated and trying to convey something. I'll say "calm down, think about your words/use your words, and tell mommy what is wrong." I also use "take a deep breathe , okay now tell me what you need/want/ect."
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I use it a lot when she's tantruming and I don't k ow why. It does t really help right now but hopefully soon she will get it!
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I say, "Can you tell me nicely?" Because he will use his words but he will use them in a whiney way, or while he's crying/screaming.
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@hilsy85: I should try that too!
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Yes but her words are....not understandable, LOL
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Yes all the time. She is not very verbal yet so we say this when she is frustrated and it helps remind her to communicate with the signs she knows.
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Only when she's whining!
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I say it frequently and it helps! Sometimes D1 in the midst of an emotional outburst just cries and when I tell her to use her words because I can't understand crying, she tends to calm herself down enough to tell me what is the matter.
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I hear my best friend say it all the time to her 3 year old. I always used the line on my nieces & nephews, "I don't understand the language of whining, try again in English." It made them think for a second and seems to work.
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I don't say it, DD is never short of things to say
I do tell her to slow down and talk clearly when she is upset though.
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Yes. Mostly with our 7 & 10 year old. lol
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Yes but half the time I have no clue what she is saying and I feel awful.
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We used to say this often, but now that she's almost 3 she's better about expressing her feelings. In fact, we used to SING it
Oh, that Daniel Tiger has helped us so much.
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I feel like I say it constantly at the moment. Everything oozes out of my daughter as a whine right now (turning 2 this week). She is very verbal but she is just preferring the whine & tantrum. If I ask her to say something nicely she just replies "nicely."
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I'm not big on that term, but I do say, "can you tell me what's wrong? " a lot.
I do tell her to slow down and talk clearly when she is upset though.
Oh, that Daniel Tiger has helped us so much.
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