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I had my ex husbands last name still when I married DH so I knew I needed to change it either way. I wanted to take his, even though I really love my maiden name. I'm hoping to use it for a middle name if we have more children.

I took my maiden as my middle as well. It's been fine and I still have my maiden name gmail account, I can't let it go, lol.

We talked about it briefly, I viewed it as a decision both of us had to make, together, because we were changing our "structure" if you will. We were single people who became married (a new civil structure, how we pay taxes changes, etc) so we decided together that I would take the maiden as middle and add his name to mine.

At first I said I was keeping my own name. DH wasn't thrilled, he definitely wanted me to take his name, but he wasn't mad or anything. He said ultimately it was my decision but he'd like it if I took his name. In the end I did, dropped my middle name, and took my maiden name as my new middle name.

My DH didn't really have a preference so I kept my last name. There are several reasons why I wanted to keep mine and it was important to me. It's strange because I am fairly traditional in most ways, but felt strongly about this. I use his name socially (when we go to weddings, receive Christmas cards, etc. it's always Mr. & Mrs. His Last Name). Our children will have his last name though.

@Rubies: haha you said what my response would have been word for word!

We're both very traditional so it was never really a discussion. I added my maiden name to the end of my middle name, which is my Korean name... which makes for a REALLY long legal name. I kind of use my maiden name as my middle name.

In our parents' culture the woman keeps her maiden name. But that's with Korean names and neither of us ever goes by our Korean names.

It was important for both of us that everyone in our nuclear family have the same last name. I joked that he should take mine my father's family is a really large, strong family. But I'm glad to have Wagon Sr.'s last name because it's a strong last name that is rarely misspelled. Mine always got misspelled.