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Both pregnancies I feel like DH stepped up more once I was visibly pregnant.

I had a much harder second pregnancy so I think that made him more helpful the second time. At the same time, I limited myself less when I felt okay the second time so I didn't ask for as much help. So it was kind of mixed but he was super helpful both times.

DH was busy with LO1 with my second pregnancy. The house was not as clean and there were no foot massages or coffee in bed treats the secon time around but DH gave LO1 all his baths and took over bed time and lifting when I needed him too.

I'm not sure if he was less helpful or there was just more to do the second time in account of the toddler, but I definitely felt like my husband took less off my plate the second time around. He told me he kept forgetting I was pregnant because I wasn't complaining.

About the same empathy wise, more helpful second time because he had to be. I just couldn't do some stuff so he had to really step it up, especially with dealing with our toddler. He basically did all night time wake ups the entire time, and did all bed times in the first trimester and essentially everything the last few weeks when I got SPD so bad I couldn't walk.

Yes, I think so. Or maybe I was just feeling way worse because DS shared all his day care germs with me.

He's the same amount of helpful this time, or maybe more helpful-- I can't really remember, but I think now he is more used to doing more around our home since our lo is very clingy with me so he has had to step up to balance it out. Like, pre-lo we split walking our dogs and now I rarely walk them. I wish lo would let him help more with her though, but that's on lo, not dh-- he tries to take over bed/bath/etc and she doesnt let him!

I think my husband was less empathetic the second time around--but he was also more busy, because I was super super sick and he had to take over a lot of the care of LO1 after he got home from work. But yeah, he didn't attend appointments or get excited about what week I was on, or really care when I complained about back aches and stuff. But he *did* take care of all of LO1s wakeups (priceless) and take over a lot on weekends.

he's definitely stepped it up the second time around, especially with helping with our 22 month old so I can lay down every once in awhile. I make sure to let him know how much I appreciate it all the time (to the point where I think it's annoying), because it makes a huge difference and his help means a lot.

It's been about the same. I was a lot sicker this time around and since this was not our first trip to the rodeo, he understood that while Indid not look pregnant, I was sick and exhausted and needed help. He has also been very vocal with our toddler about how she has to be careful with Mommy's belly and when he is home he does the majority of the lifting, potty breaks, etc.

I'm still waiting on him to be helpful/more attentive during this first pregnancy. Because I'm in such good shape and have had an easy pregnancy, I think he's hard for him to even see me differently. Now that I'm 33 weeks, I really need him to take more initiative around the house!

Yeah definitely less helpful with the second and third, particularly during first tri. He majorly stepped up the last month with my third because he could see how much pain I was in.

Less helpful which totally sucks. He's also less helpful since #2 has been born which is even worse!! I called him out on it and it doesn't make a diff. Sigh.