I've always been the giver and caretaker in all of my relationships (friends, ex's, DH, parents).... and so naturally thought that being a mom (before getting pregnant) would be like a sixth sense for me.
The past week or so though, I've had random thoughts like "well no, just because you're good at taking care of adults in your life, doesn't mean you'll be good at taking care of a baby/child."
Just the preggo hormones... but def keeps coming up in my mind.
Anyone with me?
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6703 posts
I think that the moms who worry about whether they will be good moms are the ones who are good moms.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
I'm terrified that I won't be a good mom, and my mom still swears she wasn't as good of a mom as she should be/have been (even though everyone who knows her considers her the golden standard of motherhood). I think it's just mommy guilt and worry!
You'll do great because you'll love your LO to pieces!
pomegranate / 3595 posts
I agree that worrying about it is a sign of how committed you are, which is a huge piece. Just like with any new job or role, there is a learning curve that can feel pretty steepp at the beginning and can be humbling. While i think it is important to strive to be a great mom, it is also important to be gentle with yourself, especially at the beginning...
GOLD / pomelo / 5167 posts
You'll be a great mom. Weve all had these thoughts/fears and so far we aren't doing so bad 
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
It depends how you define "good." Honestly, sometimes I suck as a mom, that's how it goes though. Other times I want to high five myself.
pomegranate / 3503 posts
I'm sure you'll be a great mom. That doesn't mean that there won't be days where you'll feel like a failure at mommyhood. We can only strive to try our best.
pear / 1517 posts
At 34 weeks I'm having the same fears cross my mind. I've always been a great caretaker of people but now I worry it won't translate into motherhood...
kiwi / 553 posts
I feel this way every single day now that I'm approaching 36 weeks. I'm told the feeling subsides to a degree. And many people have said the same to me as @MaisyMay has to you.
*hugs*
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
I am terrified of this! Also afraid that I won't like her, or will resent her for lack of sleep/less time with husband/people wanting to visit/etc. I am up all night, every night with anxiety now. I just want the next 7 weeks to fly so that I can sleep again..not that with a newborn I expect sleep, but I'm tired of being so upset and anxious every night!
cherry / 106 posts
I constantly beat myself up about not being a good mother, more so than usual since my 6 week old screams non stop. I hate feeling this way. I have a 4 year old as well and everyone always says "She's so happy/smart/polite" and it makes me feel good, but then I have days like today where I just feel like a total failure. But like my mother tells me "It's the bad ones who don't give a crap."
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
It's tough and definitely tests your patience, but you'll do great!
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
@highwire: :*) seriously tears.
TY for the reassurance ladies!!!
pomelo / 5331 posts
Me too!! But DH reminds me the same as what @MaisyMay said. He tells me all the time what a good mom I'll be.
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