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My work situation is top of mind right now, because I’ve been acting in a different role for the last 8 months, and on Friday I have an interview for the job I’ve been doing. I really enjoy it and I really want to keep doing it but the interview is going to be a killer - I’m going to get a scenario, I have 48 hours to figure out how to handle it, and then 30 minutes to present it, so that’s on Friday, and I’m stressed about it.

@erinbaderin: good luck!

I work at home, part time. I love having the flexibility to work mostly from home and for the most part I set my hours. I just find it hard to balance everything, but I think that’s a tough thing for most people!

@Purpledaisy: I work full time outside of the home. I am currently on maternity leave. I plan to continue to work because I enjoy my job, money is good, benefits are by far excellent, retirement is great and I have alot of flexibility. I’m home every afternoon/evening because my hours are decent. When kids are sick I can take off and handle all of that too. I take long maternity leaves as well. I enjoy being home with my babies when they are young. so the long maternity leave is nice. At this time I don’t see me changing anything because it works so well for our family. We are able to have our toddler attend a really good preschool, travel, and spend time as a family. If I were to SAH we wouldn’t see DH and that makes me sad. Me working also helps relieve some pressure off of him because I bring some to the table. Every once i awhile I wonder what it would be like to SAH full time. it then I think about the above and I know this is best for our family!

I’m a full time grad student but I take my classes online. My kids are in school during the day. Starting in January I’ll be in an internship 24 hours a week, too. I finish up in August and then hope to be a WOHM.

Right now wohm. In some ways I am much happier but I do have a long commute, a husband with an unpredictable and non traditional schedule, and a never-ending workload. Today I actually worked probably 10 hours, and I'm still behind (like pretty much everyone else.) Our team is down two people and one other person is very behind, plus I have had to take two sick days this month. I'm definitely feeling burnout and just wanting to focus on the family right now during the holidays. But every day I see people who are in really tough situations and I'm reminded that I have "good" problems. The needs out there are just enormous. It is so sad this time of year.

I WOH. My husband and I are both teachers, so it works out well for us to have very similar vacations and days off. I work throughout my lunch and prep so I don't have to bring work home, and I pretty much pick up my daughter from. daycare at 3 (DS comes home at 4 with DH.) It works well for us! Sometimes I do wonder what it would be like to be a SAHM, but I didn't really like the monotony of maternity leave, and missed adult interaction.

Ugh sometimes I feel like I have the bad parts of both worlds as someone who WOHM part time. I think that’s because the stay at home parenting I do for most of the week .is intense since my husband works evenings 1-10pm. I work two day’s a week and would like to pick up another day or two but I find the grind of picking up the kids and dinner and bedtime and prepping for the following day with lunches etc way too exhausting for more days. I don’t know how parents who work normal schedules do it!

I WAHM and WOHM at the same time. I used to fully WAHM but have recently started to also work in another setting just so that I can get out of the house some. So far I am really enjoying being among other grown ups some more I am lucky enough to have full flexibilty on where I work so when one of the kids is sick, I need to do laundry or we expect a package or the like I can just work from home.

I WOH, with a one hr+ commute each way. I do not enjoy my job, well I guess I should say I dont' like it but there are aspects that I do like and enjoy. I AM good at it. I do not see anything changing until I can retire, which I HOPE to do early. My mom retired early and it's a goal of mine to do so as well. I want to be able to enjoy retirement... DH and I work hard to plan for this. But ultimately it might not happen, all depends.

For me I think I would most enjoy a part time job bc I do crave the adult interaction and some cash flow is nice.

I think what will happen is that we'll get to the point where I can leave my job (good pay, good benefits, stable) so I'll "retire" from this career and then i'll pick up something part time or that I enjoy... hopefully...…

I WOH FT. I really like where I work, and for now the commute is about 3 minutes (office is moving in a few years and will be 15-20 minutes). It is so convenient living and working in the same town, where my children also go to school/daycare. My employer is pretty family friendly. I was really stressed when I first had DD2 and really didn’t want to work FT, but I switched to a less stressful position and now we’re pregnant with #3 (And the first two are a little older) and I’m really not stressed about the FT work. I also have a lot of family around which is very helpful. Ultimately after my student loans are forgiven I will work PT, likely with the same employer. I was just realizing today that we are efficient AF, but it took a few years (and Lexapro ) for us to get here.

Currently and will forever be WOHM because I am the breadwinner. I def used to wish I could even consider SAH, but since I can't, I've learned to embrace my life the way it is and make the best of it!

I work out of the house part time 3 days/week (mon-wed) and i think it's perfect for me. Just enough time to get out of the house to interact with other adults in a professional setting, take my mind off child care for a little, but still a day or 2 off (do works every other Friday) just to myself with our son and to run errands while my husband is at work. And having the income is nice too.

@Purpledaisy: this fall I quit my full time WOH job and am freelancing from my house part time while my kids (15 months and 3y3m) are in daycare/preschool. I drop them off at 8:45am and pick them up around 3/3:30pm. Love getting the extra time with them--this feels like the "right" amount of time for me to be spending with them while they're so young.

But, I do not love freelancing and really miss the stability, responsibility, interaction, and paycheck that came with my full time job. Ideally I'd like to get another full time job where I can work from home 1-2 days a week, I think that would be a perfect situation, like what @purplepumps: has. I will say having the afternoon/evening with them is giving me a little taste of what it must be like to be a legit SAHM and it is *not* for me and I have SO MUCH respect for SAHM's. And I'm a real suzy-homemaker type, I love cooking and cleaning and babies. But I'm finding I love the ego trip of working and making money more Have you ever had a break from work that would give you an idea of what it would be like to SAH, besides your mat leaves?

I WOH full time and then some - I'm the one with the crazy unpredictable schedule and late nights in our family. I love my career and job and am lucky enough that DH works a very stable, predictable 9-5 job that allows him to do daycare drop offs and pickups. We only have 1 LO and while there are many reasons we are one and done, my commitment to my career is a part of it. I feel like I can give one child enough attention to feel as though I'm balancing things well for our family, I'm not sure I could do that with two or more.

I work out of home a traditional 8-4 M-F schedule. I do research in a biochemistry lab so some experiments take extra planning to make the timing work. In staying at the bench there is really no work at home alternative but so far I don't want to, I really love what I do.

Full time WOHM. I’m an attorney. I love my job and I work for a great organization. It’s hard right now at times but I have huge upside with my career and I make a substantial income that makes a big difference in our lives.

I'm a high school Spanish teacher, going back to work full time in mid January. I've been off since October 2018 for leave and maternity leave. I'm looking forward to going back except for the fact it's full time; I wish it was like 25 hours a week. I do love teaching tho. I'm also getting my ENL certification now too, thinking I might stay home next year, finish that cert, and find a new job teaching English. Probably a terrible idea considering I hate being home with 2 kids

@gotkimchi: ugh, I really don't know, truthfully, and it's uncomfortable to not know. I think ideally I'd really like a f/t job that isn't crazy stressful where I can work from home for a day or two--I live in the NJ suburbs but all my professional opportunity for f/t work would be in Manhattan with 3 hours a day of commuting, and it's the commute that was eating all the time I would have had with the babies.

I quit f/t because my formerly-awesome job went rotten on me and I was there a loooonng time, so it felt like the right thing to do to leave--but I kind of walked into a vacuum. I have enough work that I'm working nights a lot post-baby-bedtime, so I'm *still* not getting the "break" that your earlier post talks about wanting. There is something really nice about having a full time job where you can just leave it at work and when it's MLK day and the office is closed, you're truly off. I know that's also about finding the right f/t job, but working from home I never feel like I'm done. Anyway, if you did quit, how easy could it be to get it back if you changed your mind?

@gotkimchi: YEP. that's what I gave up.

what I got in return was legit time with the babies which is irreplaceable and which I wasn't getting before, and the cessation of misery from my old job. I think if you're not unhappy then you just have to be pretty realistic about whether or not you can really create a situation where you get more time in your life, which if you can, more power to you.