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I don't want any more kids past the age of 34. I definitely don't want to live til I'm 100 - the idea of that scares me!

I had my LO at 33, 2 weeks before my 34th. I hope to have another child by 38, so I have almost 3 years to go. 39 is the oldest I would go.

40.

A coworker just had a healthy baby girl at 43!

31.... I had kids young (24) so I want them out if the house by my early 50's so I can be a young grandma, travel and retire with my husband and relax! I had older parents, my mom was 41 & dad was 52 when they had me and I hated it. Mon was fine but I couldn't do a lot of the "father daughter" things all my friends did. I never got a piggy back from my dad or played in the pool with him or went camping.... Plus now I'm 26 and dealing with a father who is almost 80, in long term care with Alzheimer's and he doesn't know who DD is. I just wouldn't wish that for my kids

@luckypenny:

We'll be done before 30. But had life gone differently and I had my first when I thought I would, I'd say 38.

I voted under 30. I had dd at 22, almost 23. I'm going to have the next one within the next year to two years, most likely. Then I'm going to be done, period. I'm having them close in age partially because I want to be done with the baby stage sooner. So for me I'll probably be done at the very latest at 26, most likely sooner! I'll be an empty nester (college aged kids) in my early 40s! Or at least that's the plan! (I realize we won't be done parenting, but you know what I mean..)

If I weren't bound by those (self imposed) constraints I think I'd want to be done by 30-35. But life happens, and as long as you're healthy, and you expect to be able to raise the children, I think whatever age is fine. Late 40s to me is pushing it but every situation is different.

I chose 36-37 but I ideally would be done by 35 just for child spacing!

Ideally, under 30. 35 would be the absolute max for me.

I voted 36-37. I just had my first at 27. I always said 30, but that's ideal and I might be open to the possibility of having 3...so the third would likely come after 30.

I voted 40-42. If you had asked me 10 years ago I would have said 35! Ideally I wouldn't want to become a mom past 40, but at the rate things are going..... (I just turned 33 this past week fyi.)

I have no desire to be pregnant at 30 so my cutoff would be way under that. For child spacing reasons we should be done by 26 at the latest.

@Mrs. Jacks: I chose 40-42 in your poll. I am 31 now with my first. I'd really have to see how I was feeling mentally, emotionally and physically (and financially too actually) at 40 before I could really say. A co-worker friend of mine is 60 with a 20 year old daughter so it seems very doable to me.
However, if you ask my DH who is already 40? (We have a nine year age difference) you'd get a heck no! He will not be knocking me up when he is 49-51! He'd have a heart attack at just the suggestion.

I chose 42.

eta: to simplify, I wonder if my answer would have been different if you asked this when I was 25. I also wonder how some of the younger women would answer later in life.

That would be interesting, to ask the same question at age 40.

It's funny because if you'd asked me two weeks ago Id said probably mid 30s, but I have no problem personally with someone who'd want a child if they were older. Now I'm so tired between DS 1 and prego with 2, I can't imagine having another and being even 10 years older! I'm 28. I never even thought I'd say two and through but I'm seriously considering it!

Early 40s but DH is older than me, so that's not realistic.

Our friends just had their second, she's going to be 47 in a couple months.

For me it would be mid 30s. Pregnancy is hard on my body, and the older I get the harder it is.

I said before 30, but ideally by 25. I want to see my grandchildren grow up and meet great grandchildren! And, right now I'm 22 and LO is 3 months so if I had a baby past 30, there'd be a big age gap between kids. DH is 11 years older than me so that also has a huge impact.

35-36. I just want to be done by then. We're seriously considering fostering and/or adopting once our youngest bio child is a bit older, and I want to make sure we have Lots of time and energy to devote to those kids (and their kids, etc) as well.

38/39...but it also depends on whether I had trouble getting pregnant in the first place, and wasn't able to have #1 until my early 30s. In that case, assuming we still wanted 3, I would consider it up til 40. I think I'm probably skewed from living in NYC though--I only know ONE other mom who is under 30 and has their first child. It's way more common to be over 35 than under 30 here and having your first kid.