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@MrsSCB: I want to know more! Do you think there were any major drawbacks to your upbringing (so that I can learn from your situation and apply it to ours?)
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I think 33-34. I would be willing to go a few years later but I know DH wouldn't want to have a newborn past 40.
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@Mrs. Jacks: I honestly don't. I often see other people with older parents saying they wished their parents had been younger so they could have done more, but that just wasn't my experience. My mom never felt older than other moms to me. I actually think we benefitted from all her life experience before having us -- I think it made her a little more patient/mellow. She was also very into in our activities, despite working full time. She was president of the PTA, went on field trips with us, and was just super involved, which i always appreciated. I think as long as you're an active participant, your kids will hardly notice you being older than other parents. Plus she didn't act any different than my dad who was the same age as other parents so that helped.
DH and I were marveling recently over the fact that my mom is almost 70 because it really doesn't seem like it. To be fair, my sister and I did make it pretty easy for my parents, though. We were both just naturally "good" kids -- we didn't really have that many rules but we didn't really need them. I definitely hope my kids are also well-behaved like we were haha. It makes life simpler!
ETA: wow, that was a novel, sorry for rambling lol.
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It's hard to say for me. I have no hard and fast rule but I am 33 and LO is only 8 months old. Ideally, we would like more but am in no rush at all. We want some space between this one and a potential next.
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@MrsSCB: Wow! That's awesome
I think part of the reason your parents have such good kids is that your mom was so mellow and involved. It's like a virtuous feedback cycle.Thanks for sharing. We certainly prefer to stay really involved in their school and activities
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i'm technically open to being pregnant etc up till around 40, but we plan on having 4 before i'm 35. dh is 3 years younger than me, so he'll be 32 when we're done. thankfully we've been able to get pregnant each time easily, so we have the luxury of 'planning' to have the kids spaced relatively closely :).
i had my first at 29 and having my second at 30. we'll take a short break and then try for another 2
but who knows what will happen in reality?
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@Mrs. Jacks: you're welcome! I like representin' the older parents because they can sometimes get a bad rap. I think it's definitely gotten more common, though
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I think 34-35 would be the oldest, but I'm hoping to be done by 30. We want 3 kids and I'll have #1 at 24.
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@MrsSCB: I think sometimes younger parents can't possibly imagine how at 40 we have enough energy and stamina to raise kids (because it seems so old when you are 20!) I mean that's a whole other lifetime to a 20 year old, so I get it
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I had a tubal ligation at 30 so I guess that's my cut off for pregnancies. But I would be open to another adoption later in life maybe up to 40 or so.
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I'm pregnant at 35 with my first, and I'm really hoping to have my 2nd by 38. I think once I hit 39/40 if I'm not pregnant again, we would go the adoption route, and probably not an infant.
It's funny to me to hear some many people want to be done by 30. When I was in my 20s the last thing I wanted was kids! I didn't even feel ready until 34, lol. If I could've crunched life events together more I would've probably liked to have been married at 30 instead of 34, then had kids from 32-35. But things happened they way they happened :).
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@MrsCB: we had no choice in when we met the love of our lives! I didn't meet mine until age 31 and we didn't start dating til 34. I wasn't going to rush the whole dating/engagement process for babies. I was lucky 38 worked for me!
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@chopsuey119: "two and through"
Never heard that one before! 
I chose 38-39, but ideally I'd like to be "2 and through" before then. I'm already 33, going on 34 this year, and want a bit of spacing in between LOs. It would just depend on how long it would take to get #2. DH is a bit older than me though, so I'd like to have #2 sooner than later, but he has no problems with being older parents. Most of his colleagues started having kids around 40 (men & women!)
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Without reading the links, I'd chosen 40-42. My absolute latest would be 40.
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@Mrs. Jacks: Yes! I met DH when I was 29, but dated someone else for a few years. DH and I had become really close friends and when I was 32 and single he made his move. We really couldn't have gotten here faster than we did and still have a strong relationship.
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I voted 31-35 but I will probably be very done long before that since I started really young and already have two. I could see us being done by the time I turn 25.
I think part of the reason your parents have such good kids is that your mom was so mellow and involved. It's like a virtuous feedback cycle.
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