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I feel like you could maybe wait a few more weeks, but at some point they will feel like you hid it from them/kept it a secret for too long. Make it clear that you want to help in anyway possible to prepare for your maternity leave, and hopefully it won't impact the raise/promotion. It shouldn't!

I'd ping your boss and give him a gentle nudge. If you don't get an answer within a couple weeks, I'd spill the beans. But I'd give them a couple weeks to get back to you.

This sounds almost identical to the dilemma I faced. I'm also a project manager, and was told by my boss that a promotion was in my near future because I kept receiving praise from various people regarding the way I was managing a project. However, my company policy is that you can't get to the next grade level unless you've been at your current position for one year. My one year was slated to be up in August (I found out I was pregant in June so August would've been end of my first trimester). I was hoping to at least "hide" the pregnancy until then. Well, my one year anniversary date hit and at that time I was 15 weeks along, but still no promotion. Like you, I wasn't sure what to do.

I talked to my coworker about it, and he suggested I just tell my boss because we have a good relationship. She's always been my advocate, and I didn't feel right keeping this from her. Also, I thought it would look WORSE if a promotion happened, and then I told them about my pregnancy immediately afterwards. I wanted to maintain a good, long-term relationship with my boss... and I guess risking the promotion was worth that for me.

Anyway, I ended up telling her about the pregnancy when I was 16 weeks along even though I still hadn't gotten the promotion. She was very supportive. In the coming weeks, she kept saying the promotion was still in the works, but I was getting antsy since I was getting further and further along, and a part of me doubted that it would even happen. One time I even brought up to her, "I hope me being pregnant doesn't change anything" and she reassured me over and over that that is not even a factor.

I work for a large company so sometimes it takes awhile for things to happen because we've had some budget restrictions this year. Anyway, I'm ONE MONTH away from my maternity leave and just last week (when I had nearly given up hope that this promotion was even going to happen this year), she emails me saying that she put me in for the promotion.

Hopefully you have the same type of relationship I have with my boss, where I felt like she was my advocate and support. I really just had to trust that she would do the best/right thing for me. I kept going back and forth about whether or not I made the right decision, but I think in the long run... it looks much better to be open and upfront. For me, I really had to weigh the pros and cons... and because I see a long future with this company and not as just a stepping stone elsewhere, I didn't want to risk losing the trust and respect of my boss by keeping something like this from her.

@Mrs. Lovejoy: I think in general my office's take on pregnancy is "We like having employees stay here for a long time, so babies are going to happen and that's great and we're excited, and we'd much rather know as soon as possible so we can make everything- both work-related, and personal- go as smoothly as possible." I think they appreciated knowing right away so that there was plenty of time to arrange someone else's schedule to cover for me while I'd be gone, and to make sure I didn't get bid on any contracts with intensive periods around my due date and immediately afterwards, etc. My boss was also really helpful in helping me navigate benefits and leave and other policies.

@Mrs. Lovejoy: His mentality (about wanting to help people network once he knows they're looking), shows that he is thinking about the big picture! It says a lot about him and his character that he is willing to do that for people, rather than hold a grudge of some sort just because they want to leave. Not all bosses are like that, but seems like you've got a great one!