What do you do when people ask if you are pregnant and you are, but you don't want to tell anyone yet?
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I used to get SO annoyed by this because we didn't tell anyone we were TTC when we were TTC. I think it's so rude to be asked if one is pregnant. Aaaaanyway, I totally lied. I wasn't prepared to announce anything, and it wasn't any of their business. I had a friend who would, on a weekly basis, ask me things like, "So, are you pregnant yet? When are you having a baby?" And I would just reply, "I'll let you know when it happens."
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If someone is rude enough to ask you this, I would not feel bad *at all* about lying.
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I am pretty much completely incapable of lying ... plus when people usually asked, it was because I was throwing up in a garbage can in public (at work), so I told the truth that I was pregnant
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Only one person asked because I was starting to pack on the weight.
I kinda wish I had told her "no" so she would feel bad. HAHA. But I was honest and told her yes. Everyone (friends and fam) knew we were pregnant by week 7.
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My dentist knew I miscarried because I couldn't get xrays so he knew I was pregnant and then not anymore. Then I saw him at a health fair when I was preggo again, the day before my 12 week apt. I had gained a lot of weight and he asked if I was pregnant. I said no, I didn't want to jinx anything! Then I had an apt with him a week later and had to tell him I still couldn't get xrays because I was pregnant. He was so confused!
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I had some coworkers ask me and I just lied because I was so scared I would jinx it. When I finally came clean at 12 weeks they all said they understood and wouldve done the same thing.
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I am not pregnant yet, but I will definitely lie. I think people understand though!
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If someone asked me and I wasnt ready to tell I think I would lie.
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So far, it's been easier to lie to my friends than my family. All of my family pretty much had me figured out at 5 weeks during Christmas when I didn't drink, wanted lots of water, and had to go to the bathroom quite a bit. Both my aunt and brother pretty much knew then. We just told them officially tonight at 9w3d. I can't wait to get to my birthday in February when I have my nt scan and then the next day is my birthday!
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"Maybe" seems like the appropriate response. It's not a lie. "I may or may not have a viable child in my abdomen. I may have had a miscarriage within the past week, so I can't say yes, but I've had a positive HPT, so it is a possibility." Once I hear a heartbeat, then it's "yes."
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I used to say, "Please don't ask me. I'll let you know when we are both pregnant and ready to share. Thanks for understanding."
Got me some weird looks, but it worked.The other one I used to say was "I hope so! I'll let you know"
@MsMini: Exceptions, exceptions. When puking or over the head about to... I wouldn't lie.
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I asked this on WB!
I"m not pregnant and haven't gained weight since the wedding, but I've ALREADY BEEN ASKED by almost everyone I know point-blank if I'm pregnant. Peoples eyes bug out of their heads when I say I have a doctors appointment. Even if I'm also running a fever, coughing and sneezing. So I wanted to know what to say when eventually I am pregnant, but not ready to announce.
After reading everyone's responses, I've decided to lie. I don't think there's anything wrong with it because like a PP said if people are rude enough to as you this, it's okay to be rude right back and lie. Plus, if heavin forbid you have a miscarriage after they ask, then at least you don't have to go back and explain to everyone who asked that you were pregnant, but now you're not. I think overall it's the best solution to the problem of being asked.
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As soon as I got married people kept asking when we were going to have kids. We started TTC right away but didn't want to tell anyone, so I would just say "I dunno" and it would get awkward and they wouldn't ask again. haha. Despite EVERYONE demanding to know when we would start having kids as soon as we got married, somehow many of these people were SHOCKED when I got pregnant a few months in. I don't understand people. It is pretty rude to ask someone if they are pregnant.
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I lied to lots of people before coming clean at 11 weeks. My BIL was super suspicious because I wasn't drinking, and my SIL kept bringing it up, but not directly asking. We also had friends ask because I didn't have a glass of sangria when we went out to eat at a restaurant that is famous for its sangria, but I lied to them, too. I think we had been married long enough and we;re getting to the age that everyone really thought we would be thinking about having kids, so they were constantly looking for signs.
I think I lied well enough, though, because after we told everyone, they all claimed they thought I could be, but they thought I most likely wasn't. -
I just smiled and asked why there were asking. Or I would say something like "dont worry I'll let you know when I am pregnant." Or best of all I would say "why? are you saying I look fat?" and that works like a charm
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I plan on lying, nobody's asked yet though!
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If somebody asks me if I'm pregnant or plan on trying for another baby and I don't want them knowing that I already am, I'll just say "Oh, I hope so!." and usually they just leave it at that.
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i plan on lying - we haven't told anyone that we're TTC, so i've been pretty actively lying about that, so i plan to just continue until we're ready for everyone to know that we're pregnant
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I lied until I was blue in the face. If people think it's okay to poke into my private affairs, I have no problem lying to their face. I figure it's only fair. And I think DH actually enjoyed lying to his friends
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I lied!! I just said things like "I wish!" or something along those lines.
I kinda wish I had told her "no" so she would feel bad. HAHA. But I was honest and told her yes. Everyone (friends and fam) knew we were pregnant by week 7.
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