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My husband is mostly an optimist. I consider myself a realist which often comes with negative thoughts. I really hate when people tell me it could be worse!

Hm… I don't know! I also don't know who is who in our relationship. I think we're both positive about different things. I tend to be much more optimistic/excited about bigger stuff. Like I go crazy for holidays and vacations and I get so hyped about it all, whereas my husband is a bit more "ugh this again?"

But then again I tend to get a little more pessimistic about the day-to-day (especially mornings/mondays) and my husband (who likes his job) is all la-dee-da it's a beaaauutiful day and I want to punch him because it should be illegal to be cheerful before 10am or on Mondays.

Wagon Sr. is an optimist while I am a pessimist. I think he drives me more crazy because I'm always having to bring him back down to earth (aka remind him of facts that he's already aware of, but forgot because he was too busy dreaming!) but I do think I crush his spirit more. So maybe the optimist drives the pessimist crazy, but the pessimist really discourages the optimist.

Both DH and I are optimists. He a little more than I. I prefer the term realist. While I value positivity, I also am very realistic with my expectations and aspirations. DH is more of a big-dreamer style optimist

I however, have a hard time being in relationships/friendships with pessimists because they can be negative and that really brings me down.

I think an optimist would drive a pessimist more crazy . . . the optimist would find a *silver lining* about being paired with a pessimist, while a pessimist would just be throwing more *doom and gloom* on the fire!

For us, I am the optimist and DH is the realist/pessimist. It's probably equally frustrating to both of us but it really bothers me because I feel like a negative view affects your mood too.

@mrbee: My husband and I are the opposite of you guys! I am the optimist, and my husband is a pessimist! We are SOOO great for each other! When we first started going to premarital counseling, we were told that we are absolute opposites of each other in every way!

I really think that it's harder for the optimist. (me in this case) I feel like I'm always the one looking for the light at the end of the tunnel, and sometimes it seems like there's no one "cheering" for me, you know? Don't get me wrong DH is a great encouragement, but it's just hard when you are set in your ways, and are used to the same way of thinking. But we challenge each other quite often to view a situation or circumstance from the other perspective.

Mr. Jacks is an optimist. I'm not either, but I've found his optimism infectious. I do get bothered by some of his very unrealistic schemes and ideas, but I try to redirect rather than crush

True pessimists sometimes drive me crazy when they refuse to see a solution to their problem, even if there is one.

@Cherrybee: @Mrs Brewer yes. This. I'm glad there are others who get this!! :

@Cherrybee: lol wow! That was harsh. For being an optimist, you think you would have a little more faith in us 'realists'!

I'm more of an optimist than the DH and he is differently the pessimist. I think it can be more emotionally exhausting having someone so pessimistic. DH isn't pessimistic all the time and there are times when the roles are reversed and I'm more pessimistic. But generally I am more optimistic than him.