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So we still have one on the inside, but both DH and I from bigger families (me more so than him), and we love the experience of having siblings. So, when the time is right, we would love to have another child (or more! Right now, I'd love 4), either biologically or by adoption.

ETA: I realize that this may change once we have one, but I have always loved being around kids. While I recognize that my views may change post-baby, I would like to think I'd like more than one. I told DH, though, if we can't have more than one LO, I'm totally getting 2 or 3 more Pointer puppies to satisfy my thirst for cuteness and craziness

I never thought I'd want to have more until we had DS. Now I wish we had started sooner.:::sigh::: I never knew how much I'd really, really love being a mom.
I'm okay just having one though. J is my world.

I think I've wanted at least 2 children ever since I was a kid. I loved growing up with my sister and having that constant companion even though we fought a lot. As we became adults, she became the one person who knew me inside and out, and understood all our family drama the way I did. I wanted my children to have that too. I also think about when my husband and I get to old age, I wouldn't want all the burden of caring for us to fall only on one kid.

I started getting baby fever for #2 when DD was 6 months old (crazy I know!), but we held out until she was past the age of 1 because we didn't want 2 under 2. I've always wanted kids 2 years apart so that's what we tried for.

In an ideal world, I'd love more than two kids because I really do envy those people who come from huge families and have big family reunions. However, the reality of it is that we're exhausted, pregnancy and postpartum is not fun, and money is an issue, so we're pretty set on being two and through.

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I never really considered just having one kid. I always assumed I'd have two. I grew up in a family of four (two parents, two kids), so I just assumed I would do the same. Luckily, Hubs had the same experience as me and had the same assumptions. We always planned for two kids!

Now that we have one, Hubs says he'd be okay JUST having one, but I know I won't be happy unless we stick to the plan! I started thinking about baby #2 when Xander was 6 months, and now that he's almost 8 months, the baby fever is starting to get out of control!! I want to start TTC NOW!!!

@Adira: hahah, for some reason I thought you already started to TTC!

@looch: definitely agree that all siblings don't turn out to be best friends! The companionship as kids can be great but the drama when they grow up, yeah, that can be quite ridiculous and unnecessary.

We have just always wanted 2 kids. I grew up one of 3 and DH one of 2. So we both grew up with siblings and want that for R. DH is really close to his sister and my siblings and I are close too. I don't want her to just have cousins to play with. I want her to have a brother or sister to be her companion, playmate, friend, partner in crime, etc.

I have a coworker who didn't want kids and his wife choose to get pregnant without his permission. So he was a little bitter about having the one but he know wishes that they had to. He loves his little girl, 8 or 9, but hates that they always have to be the playmate if her friends are busy. He said I am too old to be up on the trampoline but she wanted someone to jump with, so he did it, and then hurt his knee. Just one example, he shared with me when talking about having another or not.

@MsLipGloss: I know you are struggling with the decision, always here to listen if you need to talk it out to someone.

I've always wanted at least two children because I grew up with siblings and even though we didn't always get along, I love that we had each other--it was us against our parents! It's still us against our mom and now that we are all adults it seems even better. We are not best friends. But we've got each others backs. I know that not everyone has the greatest sibling experiences though.

Also DH is an only child (he has a little brother who is 8) and he felt like something was missing not having a sibling. I also know that not all only children feel this way, but he did.

We originally wanted them close in age but after having one I want to wait before I go through pregnancy again. My LO most likely won't have any cousins and I hope that when she's older and her dad and I have passed (if it happens that way) that she'll have her sibling, that she'll always have a family member she can call on in times of need.

We always knew we wanted 2 so the siblings would have each other. We didn't want a child to be alone or have a third and have one always be left out.

Now, I'm pretty content with my one and I'm sure he would be fine without a sibling. DH wants to have another, and wouldn't even mind a third lol.

Personally, I grew up in a larger family and love the relationship that I have with my siblings (my sisters are my closest friends). I want my (currently baking) child to be able to have sisters/brothers and those relationships that I had. I just can't imagine my family with just one child and neither can DH. We do worry about being able to afford more than one but we'll figure that out as we go along. We are already much better off as a family financially than my parents were so I'm sure that we can do it.

The biggest thing that has made me want more than one came from glee the other week. Where Finn's mother talked about continuing to be a parent but not having a child anymore. The last major chinese earthquake left many parent's childless because of the "one child law" and the schools that were destroyed. More than one child reduces the statistics.

I have 2 boys, and we were originally one and done. When my oldest turned 9, we realized we weren't as done as we thought. There's an 10.5 year gap between my boys, and I jokingly refer to my youngest as my "replacement baby" but it's partially true.

Giving our oldest a sibling was a big reason for having another child; not because we expected them to be best friends, but because we wanted him to have a family member near his age. {My boys have no cousins, and they never will.} As morbid as it sounds, I also wanted him to have someone to share his grief when we're gone. My biggest concern was the age gap, but thus far it has worked in everyone's favor. My oldest is a big brother in every sense of the word: he looks out for him, adores him, and isn't remotely jealous because their needs/interests are so different.

Having said all of that, we would not have had a baby just to give him a sibling. We really wanted to be parents again. Ten years changes not only your perspective, but your life circumstances. There wasn't a reason to not have a baby {except for maybe my geriatric pregnancy status}, so we went for it. And at the risk of sounding like a cliche or a Hallmark card, I feel like I waited my entire life for him. He not only completed our family, he forever changed something in me by filling a space that I didn't even realize was empty.

I guess the simple answer is that we just didn't feel complete after our first. Our life felt fuller and more fulfilling with our daughter, but it wasn't until we had our son that I felt complete.

We've always wa. We also nted to have more children so it was never really a question for us.

We both grew up with multiple siblings (DH is one of 6) and we're both very close with our siblings. We definitely want our children to have relationships with their siblings like we do. We also both love children and love being parents. We're young and have time to have more children so we can't imagine not.

@looch: My sister and I are not friends at all... we barely tolerate each other

I honestly don't know.... (this is going to come out wrong.... ) But I guess I figured that if we were going to do it, we needed to go ahead and do it. Now that I'm pregnant again, I'm glad we didn't wait, because I can tell that DD1 would really love to have a sibling and playmate.

I'm one of four and DH is one of seven. We love being part of a big family so before we got engaged, we made sure we were on the same page about having at least three kids (if we're able) and DH would like more. Honestly, I longed for my daughter so badly but, my pregnancy was very hard and I'm kind of scared of doing it again. Ultimately though, I know I want her to experience the fun of a big family like we did.

@travelgirl1: I was really really scared too. To be honest, after the second I declared if we ever had a third, we'd have to adopt or foster because I could not go through that again. But after about six months I can honestly say it was all worth it. The delivery was easier the second time, but everything was still so hard. But six months is nothing when you look at your entire lifetime. Looking back now (my second is 15 months old) it was the absolute best decision of my life and I'm so glad I was able to survive it! Wasn't pretty (Wagon Sr. is a saint for putting up with me, and my mom for coming to help before and after the baby came) but again, so temporary compared to the future ahead with our whole family.