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@lawbee11: Loved reading your perspective! I hope it's like this for us as DS grows older!
@JENNZMT: Agree! Social pressure keeps a lot of people quiet - I've found that to be anecdotally true.

@lawbee11: Totally! Just noticed your username - I am a lawyer, too. Not to derail this thread but there are many MANY days I sit at work thinking, how do people do this with multiple children?? Now obviously it can be done, but I find just the one quite challenging. LOL.

@lawbee11: Thank you for the good thoughts! Great perspective.

@MrsBucky:

@mrskansas:

We struggled with this for about 6 months last year and into this year. I was so torn. 50% of me loved the life we had, loved the phase LO was at, didn't want to go through the baby phase again, we'd need to move, kids in NYC are expensive (I know they are expensive everywhere but housing costs really kills you here). We had started to travel again and really get back into our groove. But the other half of me wanted a sibling for LO. A part of me felt our family wouldn't be complete. No one we knew who was an only child recommend it (ouch). I was reaching AMA so I knew my clock was ticking. DH honestly, bless his heart, would have been fine with whatever choice I made (we made). But ultimately we decided to just try it; his comment that stuck with me was 5 years from now, would we regret that we didn't try. And I had to acknowledge that yes, I would regret not trying.
So we both went into it with the mindset of "ok, a second isn't crucial. It would be icing on the cake. We won't go to any extreme lengths. Let's just see how it goes"

So now I'm barely pregnant with #2 and honestly I still have some trepidation. Did we make the right choice? But honestly I felt the same with number one! But I trust and know that the new one will create a new normal with our family, full of joy and challenges and love. So we'll see what happens and if this baby decides to stick.