I found a nice house that was on the "maybe" list .... and then realized it's about 10 houses down from my in-laws. Good thing would be that they have a pool, bad thing is my MIL would be over All. The. Time.
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My in-laws might buy the house next door to us. Honestly, I think it would be pretty awesome. They probably wouldn't be here full time anyway, but it would expand our yard and allow grandparents and grandkids to spend more time together. I hope it happens.
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We are planning on building next to my in laws, and I'm okay with that! My MIL and I have a great relationship, I think she will know the boundaries of just stopping by, I'm a-okay with it!
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this is what keeps us from buying in the area we'd want to buy... ILs. they aren't healthy for us, so we'd either have to be complete assholes to them to get them to back off (even then, we'd have to do it over and over, they don't learn), or we'd have to live further from them. i have hopes that they'll retire to another continent (not unrealistic since they keep homes abroad) and then we can be free to move where we want, we're actually talking about moving further than we are now, adding a highway to the distance between us since neither drives on highways.
so i guess my answer is no, unless we weren't speaking, then we just wouldn't tell them
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We live 5 mins from my in laws and it's fine, but they are super good about boundaries!!
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@BabyBoecksMom: When we were house hunting, my ILs went out of their way to tell us about every single house on the market near their house. I mean like printing the listing information, photos, even touring a few of them for us! It was crazy weird.
Thankfully we found our dream house 30 minutes from their house
And there's a strict "call before coming over" rule.
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@BabyBoecksMom: I would. We actually used to live across the street from my inlaws.
However, my MIL used to live across the street from HER MIL, so she is very well-versed in boundaries and not stopping by 24/7.
Now could I live next to my parents? Probably not. My mom would be over allllll the time.
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I'm 2 blocks from MIL! She does drop by but not as much as I expected!
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We live like 1.5 miles away from MIL/FIL and like 1 mile away from SIL/BIL. So... I guess we would.
Luckily we get along great and they don't cross their boundaries. It's pretty helpful when we need/want help and they are SO close
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I would but my IL's are pretty great. I'd love to be able to pop out and just call MIL to take her for 20 minutes or whatever.
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We used to live 5 minutes away from them and I loved it! We are very close, though, and also didn't have kids. They were very respectful of boundaries and not once showed up unannounced!
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No lol.
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We live about 5 mins from my IL's and it actually is really nice. We have clear boundaries about what type of visits are acceptable and no one ever drops by completely unexpected. Sometimes his mom drops off breakfast on our front door when she helps out with in from the cold and there are leftovers so I can't really complain too much!
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IT depends if your ILs respect boundaries. If they do then I think it will be great. If they don't then it can be a nightmare.
My ILs are pretty good about boundaries and we see each other at least weekly so it'll make life easier.
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no. no. no. I think the closest we could be is 3 hours.
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I would because I get along great with my MIL and she definitely wouldn't come by all the time.
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I would definitely buy a house on the same street as my parents. Maaaaybe near DH's father and stepmother. Definitely not within 15 minutes of my MIL. Just depends on your relationships and their idea of boundaries.
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I would. They're not ones to overstep boundaries.
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I would. I really enjoy my inlaws. We are looking to buy next summer and we will be looking over in my inlaws neighborhood. They are only 10min from us now as it is.
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We actually live about 500 yards from my ILs. Wasn't my choice, as DH already owned the house when I moved in. It's not too bad, but they do come over without calling more than I would like. Once LO is here, I told DH he needs to have a talk with them about boundaries and calling first. We will see how it goes. It is nice that they have a pool and other things we use (like a plow truck and a Gator) and they can do us favors easily, like letting the dog in the other day when I forgot. It's got pros and cons...
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NO WAY! My in-laws are great people and all, but I need my space. There was a house in their neighborhood for sale when we were house hunting that they wanted us to look at, but I was like nope.
We ended up about 4mi away, we were more like 140mi before we moved
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I'd move close but not THAT close lol and I love my in-laws
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It depends on your in-laws and their understanding of boundaries. My ILs live about 5 minutes away and it sucks. They always use the 'I was in the neighborhood' excuse, and I see them WAY more often than I'm ok with. I want to move far away next time!
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My MIL isn't the type to just stop by. She's very much a loner sometimes. But she would be expecting DH to be over every other weekend fixing something or doing something in her house, which would drive me crazy.
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My in laws live about 3/4 to a mile away from us and we never see them.
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No way. MIL doesn't respect boundaries even when they are laid out for her. She lives halfway across the country and that is perfect.
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Close like an hour or two away? Yes. Close like 10 houses? Eh....I'm not so convinced that either of our parents needs to live quite that close.
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@BabyBoecksMom: nope! We purposely moved 800mi away
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I think it all depends on the personalities involved and the boundaries you set ahead of time.
I grew up across the street from my mom's parents, I feel very fortunate to have been able to run tame through their house- on a daily basis. That said, they respected my parent's boundaries and didn't come to our house more than a once a week for dinner. I think they felt like they saw us enough that they didn't need to come over.
I would be perfectly happy living down the street from my IL's, but my husband would not... and vice versa. We get along with each other's parents very well, but it is best for both of us to have some separation from our own parents!
I think having easy access to child care would be awesome (especially with a growing family), but you need to set boundaries ahead of time- coming over unannounced, how frequent, knocking first, etc.
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I love my in laws, so yes!
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I think it would be great honestly. Depending in your relationship of course and that you set boundaries. We're very close with my IL's and they are very involved with LO. So for us it would be more convenient to have them close and I know they would respect our boundaries and not come over all the time, invite themselves in, etc.
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I definitely would, but I adore my ILs and they very much respect personal boundaries (and are off globe-trotting a lot anyway).
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I would! My ILs are not at all annoying and are super helpful.
I doubt they would stop by 10x a day either.
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NO WAY
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Yeah...my DH wants to have land so that we can put an extra house up for them. They haven't been very good with their money, so they're gonna need a place to live if they ever want to stop working. DH wants to make sure we have that for them. In the future, we'd rent it out to DS or any other future kids (or even someone else)
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No, most definitely not. My in-laws wanted us to live nearby, and I don't like the neighborhood or town they live in. Plus that would mean lack of personal space for our family, and that's just a no no. We live 25 minutes away, and I think that's the perfect distance.
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Nope....sorry in laws!!
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Absolutely not. My ILs have no concept of boundaries. Both of my BILs live close to my ILs, and they are over at their houses constantly...and they don't have kids! They even go over when they're not home! It's insane. Hubs would live to move back to our hometown, but I am not having it. We need at least a 30 minute buffer, if not more.
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My father-in-law and his wife? Sure. He works 12+ hours a day, and she doesn't actually like kids that much (she told my 1.5 year old niece to "stop acting like a baby" when she cried because her grandmother left). My mother-in-law and her husband (and her mother-in-law that lives with them), NEVER. She'd be over all the time, or expect us to be over, they smoke ALL the time and smell up any room they're in even if they only smoke outside, and most importantly, she's expected my husband to help her pay bills since he got his first job at THIRTEEN, including just taking money out of his account when he was younger and had to have her name on it to get one. She still asks us for money constantly.
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We probably will (but not quite as close as 10 houses down...). It totally depends on the relationship. I would have qualms about living near someone who routinely showed up uninvited, or who had expectations about visits that didn't align well with ours (and weren't likely to change). I've seen living-next-door-to-the-ILs work beautifully, but I imagine it could be a nightmare in some situations!
And there's a strict "call before coming over" rule.
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