Hubs has a very potential opportunity to get a promotion and work out of New Jersey. He would work in NJ during the week and be in Toronto for the weekend. Indefinitely.
Could you do it?
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DH travels from Mon - Thurs. It's been working so far because I have him 24/7 Fri-Sun and most of the day on Thurs.
You should all just move to NJ!!!!!! -
@chopsuey119: So, hubs said he wouldn't consider the job unless we all went. I'm not sure I want to!
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Not indefinitely. If the plan was, say, that after a certain period (6 mos. or so) of time arrangements would be made to bring the family back together, sure, I could do that. But that not having an end in sight would be difficult for me to deal with. Indefinite is just too indefinite.
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I don't think I could do it... I hate being home alone, especially at night. I heat the strangest sounds...
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@Rubies: Yeah.. tough call. :T I think it'd be exciting to move around while the kiddies are still young though. America's got its issues, but shopping and online shopping here is wonderful. HAHA. It'd be fun to live close to the city too.
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I couldn't do it! We did long distance when we were dating and it sucked. I could never go back to that, no matter the opportunity.
Is it in NJ close to NYC? If so I would 100% go with him!!!!!!!
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@chopsuey119: LOL...Good shopping is a totally good incentive!
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@brownsquirrel: I hear the craziest noises too. That's why I lock LO, myself and our shotgun in her room with her sound machine on.. :T
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@Rubies: Seriously. I would go crazy if I lived in Canada because shipping is so expensive! Free shipping FTW.
ha!
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@chopsuey119: Honestly! Frig man, on Zulily there are awesome deals but the shipping cost is double the price of the item itself!
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My dad works 5 hours away from where he lives. He gets up at 3am on Monday to get to work on time and comes back home at 10pm on Friday. He's been doing that for 5 years now. The rest of my family is finally getting ready to move down to the town he works in.
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I would probably do the same.... We always have the shotgun in the room with us. I haven't slept alone here since we got married...
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I would say no. DH travels Mon-Thur as it is and that is hard enough. We know that it is just for 3 more years or so till he gets a promotion, time in that role and then looks for another job. Him being gone 3 nights a week is hard enough.
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I couldn't do it. DH and I lived apart for most of the first 3 months we were married (but only an hour away) and it was tough because we were newlyweds. I like my alone time, but I don't like being home alone at night.
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Not indefinitely. I say either move or don't do it at all. Come to America!!
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@Rubies: awww, new jersey isn't so bad! i loved it growing up!
i think indefinitely would be really hard...
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Indefinitely, definitely not.
@Rubies: jersey's not as cool as NY but it's got it's perks
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I said I could do it no problem for one year. I would tolerate two years. (My job allows unpaid leaves of absence for up to two years with a guaranteed job back).
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but what will I do without you @Rubies: ?
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@oliviaoblivia: Okay, okay, I'll stay! Just for you!
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@Rubies: do you know where in jersey? I want you to move! Sorry, @oliviaoblivia: !!
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@Andrea: Cherry Hill?
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@Rubies: Cherry Hill has a great mall!.....yeah I have a bizarre knowledge of all malls on the East Coast.
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@Rubies: oh that is kinda far from NYC. like 2 hours probably. can he come closer in?? hehehe.
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@oliviaoblivia: Woo hoo!
@Andrea: Soooo...Stay in Toronto?? LOL! -
You'd be closer to Philly. and Chopsuey is right about the free shipping - it's on my list of top ten things I miss about the states.
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@Rubies: no....if it would be good for DH's career then it could be a fun adventure anyway!
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Temporary with an end date...yes! Indefinite...NO!
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not indefinitely. only if it had a definite time frame. but cool if he does cuz i'll be in jersey!
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Yep, no problem! My dad worked in Boston and came home to Maine on the weekend for nearly my entire childhood. It made our entire family much closer.
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Nope. Not once there is a child in the picture. It's not fair to you to be a single parent most of the week and it's not fair to your hubs and daughter to be apart so much. I say move to Jersey! Cherry Hill is lovely!!
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I'd be okay with it. My husband works for an engineering consulting firm so he will probably be traveling for most part of his career. If the project is out of town he travels Mon-Thurs and had Friday off. Once we have children he'll most likely dedicate his day off to caring/bonding/playing with our child. That way he gets quality Child-Daddy time, probably even more than what the child would get from 5pm to bedtime on a weekday with him.
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We almost had to this for the first year of our marriage! Thankfully, I got a job and moved, but that was what we were preparing for since we lived 6 hours apart and both had jobs with time commitments. We felt like we could do it temporarily, but that we wanted a firm end date so we knew it wouldn't just go on forever. Long distance is no fun, but it made us extra good communicators since phone calls were all we had.
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@Rubies: Cherry Hill is only an hour away from me! Philly is right over the bridge too! *squeals* It would be so much fun if you moved down here.
Personally I think moving for a year or two would be a great experience for the family, but I would want to be able to move back. I would miss home too much.
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I am in one! Not sure how temporary it is though...ugh! DH has worked and lived 80 miles away for almost 2 years now! We have been married for almost 3 and dated for almost 10! It has worked for us. I think it just depends on the kind of lifestyle you have. I am really into my career and so is he and I'm also extremely independent, so that keeps us busy. Weekends are so precious to us though! It will be a HUGE change when LO arrives soon! Scary thinking about being a single mom during the week, but I have a great support system of friends.
Obviously, we can't do this forever, but for now-it works.
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@Rubies: this is how I grew up. We lived in MD, my Dad worked in New Jersey. When he got transfered, my parents discussed it and my mom did not want to raise us in New Jersey. So, Sunday night Dad would drive to NJ, Friday he would drive home. He still coached our little League trams and was a big part of our lives.
I'm sure it was hard on mom essentially being a single parent all week but we made it work. If it's what's best for your family I say do it. They made it work and are still together. 39 years now.
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@Rubies: Do it!!!!! I'm not biased at all, I swear.
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@Andrea: @Rubies but it's right by Philly! That's a great area! You're near Philly, Baltimore, NYC, etc! Move here!!
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No way. I've got a friend whose husband took a job a 2.5 hr plane ride away. She sees him for a long weekend ever 2-3 weeks and they've had a son since then. My friend is essentially a single mom and her husband is like the cool uncle that comes to visit. Not a life I would ever choose.
ha!
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