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Trying to get to number two took a couple years and some tough loss for us. I don't think we could go through that again. We are so blessed to have DD and DS, I think we are done. Plus delivering DS breech was no picnic and I am not sure my poor bottom could take anymore trauma.

Personally I think I'd like one more, but DH is ready to be done. We have one boy and will have a girl anyday now. DH has a 14 yr old daughter as well who lives with us during the school year.
DH's main reason for wanting to be done is the worry, he is terrified something will happen to one of our kids and can't deal with the anxiety of adding another.

Other reasons why we should be done- financially we will be stretched really thin, paying for 2 in daycare, a car for the oldest one, college coming SOON. Our home fits our family of 5 but anymore and we need to put more $$ in it. If we did have another we'd have to wait until DS is out of daycare and that puts me over 36 with more to worry about.

@oliviaoblivia: I am sure you didn't... just that as pathetic as it is, my work is a huge part of me, and to me, I should have already cut down work by a lot even right now (and I only have one child). DH didn't literally say the words but he feels the same. I think he doesn't want me to work at all because I am not capable to juggle a lot of things together and balance it mentally and physically at the same time. I have quite a few things on my plate and I was working over the weekend. I was stressed and I snapped at DS very unreasonably 3 times on Sunday. It made him cry. I feel like a terrible person and if I wasn't working so much, that wouldn't have happened and we would have been out in the park or something. You know what I mean? That's why I think I am unfit to have more kids that's all. Anyhoo.... I just need to find a way to become a better mom

@irene: I get what you are saying. DH and I have DEFINITELY had to sacrifice a lot.

Eta: not who I am! (Who I am isn't sacrificed, I meant career-wise, but even that might not be true, because LOs have motivated me to work harder and my career is blossoming, I just get that taking on more kids is a lot... A lot to deal with and a lot of work, and sometimes I wonder where I'd be career-wise...)

@wrkbrk: @Bao: @ShootingStar: @Greentea: @2littlepumpkins: My sincere apologies for my poor choice of words. I am so sorry if I offended you in any way.... it is not my intent All I am trying (and failed) to say is, personally I am not capable of having more than 1 child.... That's all. And that's to answer the OP question based on my very own personality / personal situation. I am not saying anyone is "sacrificing who they are" if you have more than 2 kids. No that 's NOT what I am saying at all. It is too long to elaborate and I am sure if I try then I'll offend more people so let's just leave it at that. I am so sorry. Love and kisses