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We had the same time table actually. It worked out that we were visiting our parents at 8 weeks, the day after we heard the heartbeat.

We ended up telling them.

We did. But I had had a prior miscarriage that most of my friends knew about and if anything went wrong I knew is end up telling them anyways.

We told everyone as soon as we found out at 4-5 weeks.
I would tell! Especially since they're staying with you. They will be SO thrilled for you!

@babybean404: we told close friends around then. The chance doesn't drastically reduce at 12 weeks, people will miscarry after that. The 12 week rule was set up before early ultrasounds were a regular thing I believe, now if you've heard the HB the chance is low but there is always a chance.

We told our closest friends at around that point. I had a prior MC though so we knew we'd want them to know no matter what happened. Their support was important to us.

I did. I actually told my closest friends the day I found out! I figured I'd want to tell them if I had a miscarriage anyways. For the rest of my family and good friends (i.e. people I talk to on an at-least-monthly basis in real life) I told them at 8-9 weeks (sort of just as I saw them) after my 8 week ultrasound. At that point I felt like the risk of miscarriage was so low there wasn't too much point in waiting until 13 weeks. Although, I did wait to make it public knowledge until 13 weeks, just to be extra safe.

@T.H.O.U.: From here: http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/ultrasound-scans/

"Research has shown that if you see a heartbeat at 6 weeks of pregnancy, the chances of the pregnancy continuing are 78%.

A heartbeat at 8 weeks increases the chance of a continuing pregnancy to 98% and at 10 weeks that goes up to 99.4%."

My doctor told me that they used to say 12 weeks because that was the first appt, idk that's what I was going by. that's also why we told at 9 weeks, I will always take my odds at 98%-99.4%

We saw the HB at 7 weeks and told our family last year at New Years at 8 weeks. I had a mc prior and they all knew so I was ok telling. I told close friends at 10. If you're comfortable telling then go for it! My friend told us at 7 weeks after seeing HB and I just heard from her she mc at 12 weeks. She said she didn't regret telling her close friends though. All the best for a safe pregnancy!
Oh and I will say it's hard to hide it over the holidays anyways. When I told family at New Years they were not surprised at all.

By 8 weeks, I told close friends with both pregnancies. If something bad would've happened I would have told them too. By OB also said the risk of miscarriage is pretty low if you heard the heartbeat by 8 weeks.

If it is all a group of close friends, I'd feel comfortable sharing the news - really the risk isn't that different from 9wk to 12wk.

That said, this past spring I did lose baby at 8wk after hearing heartbeat at 7.5wk, so I'm personally being a little more reserved this time than last time. I'm 10wk today and just told our families this past week, and won't tell additional family and friends until after my check up at 10w5d.

@jetsa: ok yes that makes sense. I just worry when people get false hope just because there seen a HB but the weeks along also matter.

Ditto @MrsH. I told close friends twice and both times I miscarried after 8 weeks. The second one was 11 weeks after seeing a strong heartbeat 3 times. It did not matter to me that they were my close friends or that i would have told them anyway. It's different when you choose to tell someone about a miscarriage vs having to. I didn't like that I had to tell them about it right away rather than when I was comfortable talking about it. I couldn't bear the thought of my friends not knowing that something went wrong and asking me how the pregnancy was going, or even worse, thinking it was "safe" to slip up and tell someone else. I also don't like being fawned over and asked "how are you feeling" during such a highly personal and emotional time. So I'm not going to tell anyone until 13 weeks next time around. My parents don't even know our IVF timeline at this point.
So I personally don't feel comfortable after 8 weeks. However it is a personal decision and I know that I'm a bit jaded because f my experiences, so you should do what you feel comfortable with.

Congrats and Good luck no matter what you choose!

@SweetiePie: this exactly. I told friends about my losses but only because I chose to tell them not because they knew about the pregnancy and I had to give them an update.

We told friends around 6-7 weeks for both pregnancies. One we lost at 8 weeks, but our friends were support after that so we didn't change anything next time around.

First pregnancy, we hadn't told many people and I miscarried at 9 weeks. I ended up telling friends that didn't even know about the pregnancy because I needed support. This pregnancy, we told some friends pretty much right away because we were getting together regularly & they would guess anyway (no drinking) and they knew we were trying, etc. Other close family/ friends we saw often we told after seeing heartbeat twice at 6 and 8 weeks... Plus I'm very petite & started showing super early (9 weeks)- difficult to hide! We went fb public and told everyone else around 15 weeks. It's such a personal decision. Do what feels right and don't worry about what you 'should' do!

I think, if your friends are close enough to stay with you, then you should be ok to tell them. You may say "it's still a little early, so we are still keeping this quiet, but..." Not sure if you're a facebook, etc, person - I consider that the peak of "going public" haha- but I told friends around 9-10 weeks (just best friends) and then "went public" on FB and other social media at 12+1. (Since 12 weeks was april fools day I waited until 4/2, lol!)

I say go for it! We told our parents as soon as we knew, which ended up being four weeks- initially we thought I was around 9 but I have super irregular cycles so the ultrasound showed us it was way earlier than that. We heard the heartbeat at 8 weeks, and that's when we told everyone else. Our families are both very fortunate to have no history of miscarriage, and the doctors said everything looked really good, so we felt comfortable enough at that mark. It's definitely a very personal decision though so do what makes you comfortable =)

@babybean404: How did it go?

we told friends that we were on a weekend camping trip super early--7 weeks. our friends totally guessed before we told them anyway, since it was super weird of me not to drink and to take naps midday, etc. it's a whole different thing when you're staying with people overnight! besides, they were people that we would want support from if anything happened.