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Announcing pregnancy etiquette question

  • poll: Should friends be told about your pregnancy in person, or is a Facebook announcement okay?
    Facebook is okay - go for it! : (56 votes)
    57 %
    They should only be told in person. : (17 votes)
    17 %
    I have another idea (please explain) : (25 votes)
    26 %
  1. brady80

    kiwi / 589 posts

    I sent a text to my girlfriends with a pic of my daughter in a big sister shirt. my husband told his friends sporadically...I think some still don't know and I'm 22 weeks!

  2. Lilbear

    apricot / 450 posts

    Thank you so much for all of the feedback ladies! I'm still not sure about how we are going to handle this. I kind of feel that texts are equally as impersonal as a Facebook post, and I do agree with a few of the previous posters in that nobody really cares about your pregnancy as much as you and your immediate family members. The way my belly has been popping out lately, we won't be able to keep it a secret for much longer!

  3. ms.line

    pear / 1770 posts

    @Lilbear: Just wondering why you think texts are so impersonal. They are certainly more removed than an in-person announcement, but they're still a personal message sent 1-to-1 that enables a private exchange. If my close friends found out that I was pregnant through an mass posting to 300+ people, they'd probably be annoyed. But you know obviously know your friends, better - maybe they wouldn't mind!

    ETA: My husband drunkenly blurted out that I was pregnant to one of my dear friends AT her wedding! I was mortified, but she has reassured me a hundred times since that she was so excited to hear the news and it made her day even happier. I still not sure I'd do it again, but I don't think it would so inappropriate to tell people at the kiddie bday parties if you had a low-key approach.

  4. littlejoy

    pomegranate / 3375 posts

    Sending a text that says something like, "I know texts can be impersonal, but I really wanted you to know before we announced on Facebook!!" -- That makes it known that you appreciate their friendship ... And, I would only text close friends that you know you can't see in person before the FB announcement. My two cents.

  5. Lilbear

    apricot / 450 posts

    @ms.line: My Facebook is only my close circle of friends and some family members, so I guess I think of posting to Facebook as similar to sending a mass text. I also figure that with both approaches, they are going to receive the message on their phone, so I don't really see it as being that different.

  6. Lilbear

    apricot / 450 posts

    @littlejoy: that's a great idea! Thanks!

  7. daniellemybelle

    cantaloupe / 6669 posts

    We called or texted good friends before posting on Facebook.

  8. Lilbear

    apricot / 450 posts

    We decided we aren't going to do a Facebook or text announcement. We are just going to wait until our friend gathering at 4 months to share the news in person. (I will just have to dress creatively at our other friend gatherings leading up to the neutral gathering at 4 months!) Thank you all so much for your feedback and insight. It was greatly appreciated!

  9. BSB

    hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts

    We have been pretty open with our IF journey on FB so a lot of our friends have supported us. So when we were successful with IVF, we announced it on Facebook. We live across the country from our friends and family so it was FB or text. We did text/call our close friends and family.


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