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same as @Smurfette. I REALLY wanted a girl, so now that the pressure is off, I would be happy with whatever #2 or #3 is!

I thought I would experience some gender disappointment. If LO2 turned out to be a girl, the decision to be done with kids would be an easy one. One boy and one girl would be perfect. As I got closer to my 18 week ultrasound, it didn't matter anymore. I would be happy regardless because honestly a healthy baby is more important than gender. I can't wait for DS2 to arrive, and I'm already loving being a mom to 2 boys.

@mrsjyw: I'm a little afraid. I really want a girl. If we have another little boy that means DH and I will have to have a serious talk about having 3 LOs.

I am a little afraid that I will, which is why we're not finding out. At first, I really wanted a girl. Now, I'm sort of smitten on the idea of a boy. I'm less concerned about disappointment once LO is actually here, but I am worried that if we found out early, I would be disappointed.

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Yup. I have my scan Friday and although I have it in my head I'm ok with either gender, I'm worried when the moment comes I will have some disappointment.

I'm not. I feel like whatever we have will be what we were supposed to have. I can picture myself equally with a boy and a girl, or two boys, or two girls. It may help that I have a couple sets of same-sex cousins. 4 girls vs. 3 boys. I feel like their parents really embraced the all boy or all girl life and it's kind of awesome how close they all are as adults (more-so than my brother and I, or my mixed-sex cousin sets). But at the same time part of me thinks it would be fun to have one of each. They're different lives but I think any of them would be great.

@autumnlove: lol.

With this pregnancy, I would have bet money on the fact we were having a boy and I was thrilled about it but when we found out it was a girl, I flipped a switch and couldn't imagine having a boy! It was weird how that worked but I know if we do have a second, I will fear the inevitable "I want one of each" desire!!

@mrsjyw: Ok, hopefully they will have lots of hair!

Yes. I knew I would have been disappointed if LO #2 was a boy as well. Two boys would have been great, but I was more afraid of what if I never have a girl. Thankfully I got my girl

With #1, I was really worried I'd have gender disappointment if it was a boy, because I really, really wanted a daughter. When we going out it was a boy, surprisingly I was ok with it, and I love, love, love being a mommy to a little boy.
With #2, I knew I would have gender disappointment if we were to have another boy. I just couldn't imagine not having a daughter, and DH was(is) adamant on us only having 2 kids. I was so happy when we were told girl. But I know I would have been happy with another little boy.

I'm worried I will never have a girl, but I'm kind of hoping this one will be a boy. But that's mainly because we have a good boy name! I find out Thursday!!

I thought I really wanted a boy. But now that I have a girl a can't believe I wanted a boy, she is the best thing ever!! With our second, I'll lean towards wanting a boy again because one of each would be great, but I would also be more than happy for LO to have a sister. I think my husband would be more disappointed in not having a son. But his daughter is the light of his life and he will love her and any sister she may have completely even if he never does get a son.

@littlek: I can't even imagine the cuteness in outfits if you have a girl!

We aren't even talking about ttc, but I worry about this. I have no idea what to do with a boy..no experience with them. I secretly would love another girl!

I absolutely adore my sweet boy... I'm not sure how DH and I would feel if #2 is a girl. The thought of raising a pre-teen girl someday absolutely strikes fear into my heart.

@Smurfette: hahahhaha.. DH from a money aspect probably hopes for another little boy.

Yep, which is why we were team green. Just about everything I've found on gender disappointment occurring was in cases where the sex was found out mid pregnancy with most cases dissipating upon the baby's birth. Occasionally the disappointment stayed around after the birth but almost all went away pretty immediately.

I don't want any unnecessary disappointed feelings so we just wait.

We really, really wanted a girl. Like...DH would jump on me in a heartbeat if I could guarantee that a second child would be a girl. I was convinced E was a girl, and part of the reason I agreed to be team green was that I figured it he was a boy than I'd immediately be faced with "BUT HERE'S YOUR BABY!" (and that's how it happened...I didn't have time/care to be disappointed. I thought about it for all of 2 seconds.)

I will add that both of my SsIL have 2 boys and they LOVE it. They both say they feel like queens of the castle.