What is more common in your area?
I've never been to a baby shower before the LO was born, or even heard of that until I joined HB. Momma and baby were always present. And TBH, I wouldn't want one in fear of miscarriage or stillbirth (close friends of ours went into labor at full term and had a stillbirth with everything normal leading up to and during most of labor)
I'm guessing it's a regional thing...