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I feel the same as you. I loved being pregnant and really bonded with baby during pregnancy in my own way. Labor was .... a miracle is the best way I can phrase it. I don't think I can give a baby I birthed and nurtured for 9 months away.

I do think surrogacy is a beautiful thing. The only people I would consider doing it for are siblings. But then how do you possibly explain that to the children? Do you keep it a secret??

I wouldn't do it because I know I would change my mind and try and keep the baby. And that wouldn't be right!

I loved feeling baby movement, but I wouldn't really say I bonded with the baby... if I felt really good about the family that the baby was going to, I think I'd be totally cool with surrogacy.

That said, I would never ever EVER want to do it because I hated pregnancy.

I've never been pregnant, so I can only say how I feel about it now, but it could change once I've been through it. If I already had my kids and my family was complete, and pregnancy and labor wasn't too bad for me, I would consider it for a sibling but I think that's it. And, only gestational-- i think using your own egg would make it way too personal.

But, I actually brought this up with my husband at some point and he was really opposed to it. He said he would be too worried about me and possible complications and it wouldn't be worth it for anyone else besides our own kids. It was sort of sweet and selfish all at once, but I realized his opinion would be very important in the matter, since we would have pretty young children that I would be the primary caregiver for at this point in the future.

I think it's a wonderful thing and people who do it must be really special. I'm glad that the Rancics story is getting people to think about it and talk about it more openly.

I hope to be surrogate someday. After having to go through fertility treatment I have a taste of how hard it is. I would not use my eggs but I could definitely give the baby up. I didn't feel a strong bond in the womb. I would hope to have some contact as the baby grew as it would have a special place in my heart. I found pregnancy and childbirth not to be difficult for me. I would do it many times but that isn't in the cards for our family.

My first surrogacy hopefully will be in 3 years for a close friend. She has adopted her first child and hopefully I can help her have a second.

My sister is going to be a surrogate for my husband and I using her own egg. She has her first IUI cycle next month and I am very excited. She's an amazing person for being willing to do this for us and I wish I could be with her through the whole journey. Unfortunately though she lives across the Atlantic from me so I'll have to settle for just being there the last few weeks of the pregnancy and seeing the rest over the internet.

Someone mentioned worrying about what to tell the child but we're planning on being very honest and very open about how my sister gave us the ultimate gift of being a parent. My sister is going to be a very awesome and indulging aunt though, I can already tell

@however briefly: wow...that is incredible. I am so happy for you!

I have to say after some consideration: the ONLY person I'd even consider this for would be my sister. I have 1 sister and if she needed this: i'd do it despite my inhibitions.

My mom considered this for her best friend seeing as she is done having kids, but my dad was like "NO...This family can't handle it. We will all be way too attached." So, she didn't do it. I agree with him. If I saw my mom carrying someone else's baby I would be on an emotional roller coasters between "wow, she's a saint" and "oh no, that's my mom's baby!" <<even though it wouldn't be her egg or anything, but that's the crazy way I'd feel.