I feel like someone has brainwashed me subliminal messages or something....and like I have some kind of "duty" to give DH a son. Like, Kate had a boy and my thought was "Oh good. She's such a good wife for giving Prince Willy a son"
My feminist ancestors are rolling around in their grave right now, I'm sure.
pomegranate / 3890 posts
We have a son but nope never felt the duty to "give" him one. Plus he controls the gender so its all on him 
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
Oh god no! Not in the slightest. We got daughters and he is good with that!
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
No way. He would love a son, though. But that's up to him, not me. Ha Ha!
grapefruit / 4800 posts
Haha, I know what you're saying to an extent. I come from a family of all girls and he comes from a family of all boys so I think to an extent we were both a bit worried about stepping outside of what we know. So I kinda feel like I got my way, especially now I'm having a second girl.
I mentioned to him after I found out our second is a little girl that I always had imagined him with lots of sons and he'd be a great dad to a boy, but he said well I'm a great dad to daughters too, which is very true.
pomegranate / 3577 posts
DH was so convinced we were having a girl, that he refused to even discuss boy names! We even told family we were having a girl, so we were shocked to find out that E was really a boy. I'm glad we had a son for other reasons, but as others have already said, I'm not the one who gets to decide!
I can't imagine the pressure in the days of yore, though!
pomegranate / 3113 posts
Nope. I think it would be nice to have one of each, but unless he finds a way to get pregnant himself, he better be happy with whatever comes! I certainly wouldn't keep having kids in the hopes of having one of either gender.
pomegranate / 3314 posts
Nope! We have a girl and he doesn't mind if the next one is a boy or girl.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
I didn't feel a duty per se, but I knew he would really want a son someday, just like I also want us to have a daughter someday. So, with that in mind, I certainly wanted us to have a son at some point.
@Arden: Hahahha! I love that.
coconut / 8681 posts
DH felt pretty strongly about wanting to have a son, mostly because he's kind of scared of having a daughter and the emotional side of her dating, giving her away, etc.
Because he felt that way I really did want him to have a son-especially since he is really good with little boys! I'm glad that we have our little guy and DH is amazing with him. And now that I'm having a girl we're getting the best of both worlds!
grapefruit / 4823 posts
I didn't feel I had to give him a son, and he never said he wanted a son more than a daughter. But I was excited to 'give' him a son when we found out #1 was a boy. He on the other hand knew he had better 'give' me a girl for #2 lol and he did
coconut / 8861 posts
Nope. We wanted a girl for our first. LO surprised us with his boy bits during the ultrasound. I joked at the ultrasound that we don't have to pay for a wedding. Our boy is a fun surprise. They're all balls out with everything. It's definitely different than what I expected. Hoping for a girl for the next one, but wouldn't be bothered either way.
Unlike my MIL, I'm happy and excited to see him grow up and have a dance with me at his wedding. Also happy that our last name will continue with him as well.
grapefruit / 4136 posts
Uh...no. my duty to him is to be sure I haven't murdered him for his regular stupidity. If he wants a specific gender he can start getting pregnant.
pear / 1642 posts
Haha, I feel that way to an extent. He's the only male in his family to have children, so I know it's important to him to "carry on his line". He's great with our daughter and loves having a girl, though. I definitely want to carry a boy for him, even though I know the gender is all on him!
watermelon / 14206 posts
Nope. He's got a step son. I want a girl. i'd be ok with another boy, though. but, my girl fever is as bad as my baby fever, since they were both just within my grasp.
bananas / 9628 posts
Yes. I know it's wrong, but I do. I've had his family remind me how then I'll be his 'real wife'. They've also told me that if I fail to give him children they'll expect him to remarry. No pressure.
grapefruit / 4800 posts
@Espion: He's a sweety. It was what I needed to hear at the time too.
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts
Nope! And for what it's worth, the sex is determined by the male sperm. A woman has no control over that so, there!
GOLD / pomegranate / 3938 posts
My DH was all about boys until our best friends had a little girl 3 years ago and then my sister had a little girl in 2011. Both girls melt his heart. Of course my DH wants a little boy with which to play baseball and watch football, but its not like I will be able to control what comes out of me. But @highwire: I totally understand what you are feeling.
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
@highwire: No, but I had a similar first thought when I found out they produced a boy. My first thought was that the royal family must be so pleased with her - the perfect wife.
persimmon / 1379 posts
Nope. Not at all!
And like @Rubies said, sex is determined by the sperm, so really, if it is anyone's duty, it is his 
I once had someone ask me if we were going to have a third kid to 'try for the boy' and it totally shocked me. Ughhh I am happy with what I have, thanks!
cantaloupe / 6791 posts
Nope. I don't think it mattered to him whether LO was a girl or boy. Of course, he's ecstatic to have his boy, but I didn't feel any pressure.
persimmon / 1420 posts
I did, but only because I knew how badly DH wanted a son to pass on his name. Glad DS was first, too!
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
No way, he would love a son next but said he would be fine with all girls if that's what God blesses us with. Deep down I think we are going to have only girls!
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
nope! he doesn't even want a second (so he says, I hope deep down he does), and we have a little girl.
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