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Does anyone feel like a bad SAHM? Or inability to be a SAHM

  1. DillonLion

    GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts

    @Rainbow Sprinkles: If I didn't WOH, we would definitely be out of the house most of the day too. Just the words SAHM give me anxiety b/c I hate, hate, hate, hate being at home lol.

  2. sarac

    pomelo / 5093 posts

    @DillonLion: This is how I do it. I love my house, but just sitting around all day makes me nuts. Even in the first trimester of this pregnancy we were up and out every day, because I'd go crazy otherwise.

  3. Modern Daisy

    grapefruit / 4187 posts

    I am so lucky to have the choice and i choose to work. I could not be a sahm until DS is in school full time. Right now he is way too demanding and definitely better of in daycare doing activities and playing with his friends. I spent a month home with him in December and I was exhausted and stressed the whole time. Everyone in the house was way happier whenhe started daycare!

  4. Truth Bombs

    grapefruit / 4321 posts

    @Greentea: As a WOHM I wouldn't feel judged or upset at all if I were unhappy and a friend said to me "if you're unhappy you should make a change. Being unhappy all the time isn't what's best for your family." That doesn't mean I don't make sacrifices or that I feel 100% happy all day every day. It means that I make choices to make myself as happy as possible, as much as possible. Just recently I chose to pull back at work which meant less money, but it also meant more time for my family. That's the balance that makes me the happiest, and my husband and I are more than willing to sacrifice some income for me to be happier in my situation. And yes, I realize that some people really have very few choices, but for the majority of the HB demographic that's not really the case. And of course, there was always the choice not to have children if doing so would mean making sacrifices that make you more unhappy than you were before you had the kids (ie having to stay in a job you hate because the income is necessary to care for the kids, or having to give up a job you love/be unhappy at home because you can't earn enough to at least break even on child care costs). All I'm saying is that life is short, and I feel strongly that if someone is really and truly unhappy in their situation they should do all they can to find a way to make a change.

  5. Greentea

    pomelo / 5678 posts

    @Truth Bombs: you are good at disguising your hits in decent and rational points, I'll give you that. That is very unfair to say to a parent that they had the choice to not have children if making the sacrifices to do so would make them unhappy. No one knows what having children, or life, will entail. Why isn't everyone eating cake, right? I'm sure you are familiar with that quote.

  6. anonysquire

    cantaloupe / 6923 posts

    @Rainbow Sprinkles: this is us. We have play group, walk to the park, gymnastics, shopping, and now gym time to fill up our days. I feel like if we stay inside I become mean mom.

  7. anonysquire

    cantaloupe / 6923 posts

    I have the choice and I'd rather stab my eyes out than work. I went back to wrk for a little bit after having my first and it wasn't worth it at all. So much anxiety. I do find myself happy and thriving. Ya, there are crappy days. But what job doesn't have crappy days. Just do what makes you happy. Maybe try a part time job and see how that feels?


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