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February 2015 Postpartum Chat

  1. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    @Circusbee: I listen to his radio show almost every day, and for what it's worth I have never ever heard him tell a mom who wants to stay home with her babies to go back to work (with the exception of a couple times when the moms had astronomical debt and their family income was way below the national average...I have heard 2-3 of those calls). If it is something you want then it is pretty likely that you can financially make it work. It's tough though The budget is definitely tight for us and we give up a lot of conveniences, but right now it is worth it for us.

  2. maddyz

    persimmon / 1270 posts

    I just got 9m summer outfits for my 10 week old... Tell me the growing slows down...

    Also survived our first flight just baby and me to meet his great grandmother.

    How are you all?

  3. Aria

    persimmon / 1119 posts

    @Circusbee: I wrote a whole long response and the internet ate it. I totally understand being nervous! I made the decision to quit my job when C came because it was the best thing for our family right now. I still have days when I worry, or when I wonder how much I hurt my career if I ever want to return, but I'm just trying really hard to live in the present and enjoy the time I have with my baby. I don't think it's possible to ever feel 100% certain in situations like this.

    @maddyz: Wow! 9m clothes already? How was flying? I want to plan a trip in the fall but it seems so overwhelming.

    How was everyone's Mother's Day? Do anything fun? The weather was beautiful so we had a picnic in Central Park.

  4. maddyz

    persimmon / 1270 posts

    @Aria flying was totally fine. TSA was really helpful because I had my hands full. LO had a huge poop/blow out while we were taxiing before take off. It took ages for the seat built light to go off and I changed him in the airplane bathroom. It was a mess but we got out of there clean. Bring so many wipes! He slept and nurses the whole ride home. It was a little weird nursing with a stranger right next to me, but I got over it and she was so nice.

    Really this is the time to travel, he naps a lot, doesn't want to move around, doesn't care about toys yet, and is easy to carry AND he's cute and everyone wants to help.

  5. Mrs. Rabbit

    blogger / clementine / 750 posts

    @maddyz: Lol my 12 week old is in 6-month outfits and I was shocked at that! Good job on the flight—I loved traveling with my daughter when she was that little. Toddler age is a whole new adventure, so take advantage of flights when they're still tiny!!

  6. Mrs. Rabbit

    blogger / clementine / 750 posts

    Ladies, what are you all using for birth control right now? We want another baby in the future, but not the immediate future

    I"m currently on the "mini pill," but I don't know if it's the best fit for me (having to take it at the exact same time is apparently an issue, and I'm bleeding on it...blah). Problem is that I'm EBF, so I think the pill I'm on is the best for that? Just gathering some info before I talk to my midwife about trying something else.

  7. Aria

    persimmon / 1119 posts

    @Mrs. Rabbit: I'm on the mini pill too, but it hasn't caused any issues so far. I just set a daily alarm on my phone to remember to take it. I hope you find something that works better for you.

  8. Mrs. Rabbit

    blogger / clementine / 750 posts

    @Aria: I have an alarm, but I usually take it within 30 minutes of it going off. I talked to a nurse today about it and she said that's not good enough, that it needs to be at exactly the same time. So now, of course, I'm all worried. I used it the last time I had a baby and it did just fine (and I don't remember being a huge stickler for the timing), but now I'm wondering if we just lucked out. I also didn't bleed on it last time. She said it could be breakthrough bleeding, but I thought that was more like spotting—this is like a period. Bodies are so confusing!

  9. Aria

    persimmon / 1119 posts

    @Mrs. Rabbit: yikes! I would have thought within 30 minutes would be okay.

  10. maddyz

    persimmon / 1270 posts

    @Mrs. Rabbit the birth control thing is so hard, really there are no good options. I don't want to go back on hormonal BC, even the IUD I had messed me up. I like having my own feelings, so that's out. I can't do spermicide... That leaves condoms until I can chart again. Which really means withdrawal.... Which is not great.

    It's frustrating. There should be better options out there.

  11. MrsB2012

    nectarine / 2466 posts

    @Mrs. Rabbit: I was supposed to have an IUD put in a month or so ago. However, I went to have it put in and my Dr couldn't get it in. She gave me an Rx to take and told me to come back in 2 weeks. I went back again, and she still couldn't get it in. I guess my body is positioned a little different. She booked me in with a specialist and I'm supposed to get it put in at the hospital by her in the middle of June. However, after researching a bit, I've read a lot of times when someone has difficulties getting them put in, they often have idfficulties getting them out. So now I think I might just not get it put in. My husband and I have had multiple lengthy conversations and I think I'm going to hold off on birth control. I think we've decided we want another and if we do, we will probably do the same where I'm pregnant when I go back to work. It will mean 3 under/ just at 3 but for our plans it makes the most sense.

    I can't believe how much G is growing. When B was a baby, she was wearing 3 month clothes until she was like 7 months old. G is already in 6 month clothes. She has her 4 month immunizations next week. I'm curious to see where she is on the growth chart, B was always around 10%.

  12. maddyz

    persimmon / 1270 posts

    The world just got too interesting to take naps. It's like LO doesn't want to close his eyes because he might miss something. Walks used to be our go to nap solution, but now its too exciting.

    On the flip side it's so much fun to see his curiosity!

    How are you all dong?

  13. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    @maddyz: Yes they are so curious at this age! I love watching him look around at everything and learn about the world

    I've been absent here a while lately, mostly because D's sleep is still terrible and I'm operating under extreme sleep deprivation. Sigh...

    D starts daycare on Monday! I'm going to be a wreck when I leave him there. My mom and MIL have been switching off weeks taking care of him the last 6 weeks I've been at work.

    Speaking of MIL...today she asked if she could use my Boba to carry D while she went on a walk. For some reason that weirded me out a little bit? Babywearing seems like such a parental (for lack of a better word) thing to me, and I don't think I feel comfortable with anyone other than me or DH babywearing D. Am I just being off base? Thankfully my DH told her it would require a lot of adjusting so she decided not to bother.

  14. maddyz

    persimmon / 1270 posts

    I have worn other peoples babies and my mom, and two good friends and our sitter have all worn LO in the carrier and the wrap. I never really thought about it. He hates the stroller (that's getting a little better) so wearing him is really the only way to go for a walk. Also he's almost 18 pounds at 13w so I am happy to let anyone else carry him.

    I am back at work and bringing him with me. It's kinda working. He is currently asleep in the portable crib next to my desk and we are all listening to wave sounds (I share an office with 4 other people). I have a sitter a few afternoons a week and my DH takes him a morning or two. Somehow I am getting my work done, but it's hard with a babe in my arms all the time.

  15. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    @maddyz: That makes sense about the baby wearing, guess I should just get used to it And wow I can't believe your little guy is with you at work, I can definitely imagine how that would be harder. But at least you get to see those sweet smiles all day!

  16. MrsB2012

    nectarine / 2466 posts

    @Kbee: you've already been back at work for 6 weeks ?! I do not know how you guys do it!
    I get the same way about others wearing the baby. It doesn't bother me when my mom and sisters wear her, but I would be completely uncomfortable if my MIL asked to. I guess it's because I'm not comfortable with her? I dunno, I'm weird haha.

  17. Mrs. Coral

    clementine / 812 posts

    @Kbee: no you are not off base. My MIL baby wears my niece and my immediate reaction was she will never wear my DD! Honestly, I'm mostly worried that she wouldn't wear it properly and cause harm to my child. Besides, she already smothers her enough

  18. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    @MrsB2012: I've actually been back for 8 weeks, didn't really have a choice However, up until now it has been just 3-4 days a week. Starting next week when he goes to daycare, I'll be back full-time.

    @Mrs. Coral: I agree! I think part of it is worried about others putting it on properly. I mean, I spent an hour reading the instructions and making sure I had it right, and THEN only wore it around the house for 2 days to make sure I was doing it right before I ever took him out of the house in it. Ha!

  19. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    How's everyone doing? We started daycare this week. I was a mess the first day but he seems to be doing really well Anyone else back at work or have their LO in daycare?

  20. loopedd

    kiwi / 536 posts

    @Kbee: I'm on day 3 back at work and it seems to be getting progressively harder this week I did okay on day 1 because I was running on adrenaline, basically, and I was excited to see my coworkers. Last night it all kind of hit me that now I see him for 45 min in the morning and a max of 2 hours at night. Plus he started teething the day I went back so he's been running a low grade fever, drooling, extra sleepy... just not himself. So when I come home at night I'm like, where's my happy baby?! I'm glad daycare is going well for you -- it seems like a ton of fun for the babies! Right now L is with MIL at our house and it's going really well for them, though I am jealous of all the time they get together, truly. We'll do daycare in the fall. Then I can watch him on their webcams all day

    I fell off the boards because, basically, L got more fun!! He's 16 weeks now and around 11 weeks he started STTN, randomly. I read the Weissbluth method and started to pay attention to wake times and sleep cues, and his naps and night sleep totally regulated themselves. So now he's pretty consistently asleep 8pm-6am and I feel like I have my life back. Plus when he's awake he is laughing and smiling and rolling over... it's such a sweet spot, this age. Well, except for the teething.

    Hope everyone is doing well!

  21. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    @loopedd: Aww it's definitely hard leaving our babies and having limited time with them during the week. I was a WRECK on Monday, but it helped hearing that he had a great time. But the downside is he hasn't napped enough while he's there, so he does come home very overtired and thus needs an earlier bedtime.

    We read Weissbluth too and tried so hard to implement his techniques. We became OCD about his wake times and nap times, which worked well. However, the nighttime recommendations didn't work so well, but turns out it was just because of his reflux. We haven't had a good few months in terms of nighttime sleep, BUT now that I'm holding him upright for 30 minutes after he nurses and now that he's on Zantac he's sleeping sooooo much better. We had our 4-mo appointment on Monday, and our ped confirmed he's teething too, so I'm sure that will start to throw a wrench in things, along with potentially a 4-month sleep regression that has yet to hit?!?

  22. loopedd

    kiwi / 536 posts

    @Kbee: Ohh I can imagine that daycare is tough on naps with all the noise and stimulation and just a different environment. I'm nervous about the 4-month sleep regression too... like, what will it even look like?! Glad you've got his reflux figured out. We just carry on until the next wrench gets thrown in!

  23. MrsB2012

    nectarine / 2466 posts

    @loopedd: @Kbee: sorry to hear it's been hard leaving your babies. I couldn't imagine leaving them this young

    @loopedd: So awesome to hear he's sleeping through the night! G sleeps from 8-4 typically and then 8-6 the other days. I prefer it when she wakes up at 4 as then she will sleep in until about 930. That gives me time to get ready and spend some time with B which I really like.

    I seriously cannot believe how big she's getting. She's a tank! She rolls all over the place, and I feel like it won't be long before she's sitting up. I have a video of her and she's moving her arms and legs looking like she wants to crawl. ( I hope that still months off haha, I don't want 2 on the move!)

  24. loopedd

    kiwi / 536 posts

    @MrsB2012: I hear you on how big they are! just looked at newborn pics of my guy and I was like, who is this teeny tiny little plucked chicken?! He's such a real baby now! He loves to be propped up and part of the action, but I don't want him to crawl either. I love how he stays where I put him for now

  25. autumn865

    persimmon / 1147 posts

    Hello! My four month old has officially hit the dreaded four month sleep regression my first hit this stage hard and her terrible to start sleep got worse by 3 months and lasted until we semi sleep trained at 5 months. DD2 was doing well through nearly four months but we decided to transition her from the rock and play in our room to the pack and play bassinet in our room and sleep just tanked and hasn't recovered In better news going through this regression with both you realize that 1) it will not last forever and 2) you really can function on very little sleep (particularly since with two there is no longer "sleep when the baby sleeps") anyone else in this dreaded regression

  26. loopedd

    kiwi / 536 posts

    @autumn865: We're not there yet, but I do agree it's amazing how your body can adjust to running on fumes! In the early days, 2 hrs of sleep felt so good... my younger self would never have believed that. Hope things get better quickly!!

  27. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    @MrsB2012: @loopedd: Yes it's so crazy how fast they change! Ours loves to be propped up too, and is starting to lift himself up when he's on his back, and I also feel like it won't be long before he's sitting. I'm actually looking forward to that, so that he can play with things and I don't have to be sitting there with him propping him up

    @autumn865: Ugh hope it gets better for you soon. I've been "functioning" on very little sleep since he was born, but I question what "functioning" really means! My cognitive abilities are definitely not at their best right now!

  28. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    I just realized that this day last year was the day I found I was pregnant! A lot can happen in a year

  29. MrsB2012

    nectarine / 2466 posts

    @autumn865: With my first, we never really had any regressions until she was about a year. G has been pretty consistent with her sleep, like I was saying above, 8pm-4am then until 930. The last 2 days though she's been up a couple times. Last night she was up until 930ish then up at 2,5, and 730. We are starting to have major troubles with my toddlers sleep again too

    @Kbee: aww, we found out May 29th. I said the same to my husband, how much has changed. I finished a maternity leave, worked, started a maternity leave and had another baby haha

  30. dagret

    grapefruit / 4235 posts

    Hi everyone! Hope you're all doing well.

    I've been back at work since Apr 13 (8 wks pp) and loving it. R is a fabulous baby who's been sleeping through the night, with maybe 1 wakeup, since 6 weeks. (don't hate me, her brother almost killed me with the wakeups...there's no way i would have been physically capable of going back to work at 8 wks with him!)

    We love their new daycare. R has some mild hip dysplasia, but it's so slight that we're opting to keep an eye on it instead of intervening at this point; she gets another ultrasound at the end of July.

    But the Dr. recommended that we stop swaddling her legs....and at the same time, we've hit a growth spurt and she's up all night eating. Sooo fun...but she's still up less than her brother ever was at this point.

    And I'm getting an IUD next week. That's all that's new with us...

  31. loopedd

    kiwi / 536 posts

    @Kbee: Aww that's so sweet! I told DH that on the day we found out last year (June 16) we should go to the same restaurant we went to that day before we knew, and bring the baby! So fun

  32. loopedd

    kiwi / 536 posts

    @dagret: Wow, lots going on! So glad that you have such a sweet baby in R. And happy to hear how much you love being back at work… I can't wait to get to that place!

  33. MrsB2012

    nectarine / 2466 posts

    We had a couple firsts today first giggle and she's sitting on her own for like 30 seconds at a time. It's giving me baby fever having such a big girl haha



  34. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    @dagret: Sounds like things are going well! Growth spurts are so rough, but hopefully it's over by now!

    @loopedd: Aw what a great idea to go to the same restaurant with the baby! We should have done that

    @MrsB2012: How has sleep been in the last few days? And oh my goodness she is so cute!! Those are great milestones, especially sitting up already, wow! Also, I'm not sure if that's you or someone else in the background, but we've definitely been known to take our baby outside for a "picnic" that involves me and my DH drinking beer while D hangs out on the blanket, ha!

    Sleep here is still terrible. I've come to think that because I myself and my DH were both terrible sleepers as babies (per our mother's reports) that it was just in the cards for us to have a baby with lots of MOTN wake-ups. Last night he was up every 1.5 hours on.the.dot. I'm a zombie today...

  35. loopedd

    kiwi / 536 posts

    @MrsB2012: OMG what a cutie!! I know exactly what you mean about the baby fever. I never would have expected it but they are growing so fast!!

    @Kbee: Ugh, that sounds rough. Does he want to eat when he wakes up, or just hang out??

  36. MrsB2012

    nectarine / 2466 posts

    @Kbee: don't hate me, but she went to bed at 9pm last night and it's currently 745am and she's still sleeping - with no wakeups. Yesterday she slept from 830-530 and then until 930. its been so hot here the last few days, I don't know if that's why maybe? Or maybe it's the beer I hope your sleep gets better. Do you swaddle? Keep the room dark? Have white noise? I'm sure you've tried everything .

  37. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    @loopedd: Sometimes he wants to eat, sometimes just waking up crying and won't go back to sleep without us rocking him. Hopefully it will pass soon!

    We need to transition him to the crib still, but I'm not sure if we do that right now while things are already terrible, or wait and see if this passes?

    @MrsB2012: Haha I don't hate you - that's awesome! I DO get perturbed by some mom acquaintances of mine (we're all new moms that recently met up through a local parents group) who are posting on Facebook that OMG all of a sudden their 4-month old woke up twice last night and how will they ever function at work?!? Oh if they only knew how good they have it... But to answer your question, yes we've tried it all - he's still swaddled (one arm out since he started hating both in) and we use white noise. We've played with his wake times, bedtimes, etc. all to no avail. At this point all I can do is pray!

  38. Mrs. Rabbit

    blogger / clementine / 750 posts

    Hi ladies! I've been absent over here, just enjoying this season with my girls. My little one still isn't sleeping through the night—she's up around 2 or three times, but it's not too horrible. I just pop her on the boob for 5-10 minutes and then she's back asleep. I may need to read about this Weissbluth method you guys mentioned! Some nights she'll sleep from 8-4 and I wake up so engorged and confused!

    We have our 4-month well baby next week and I'm curious to see how much she weighs. On our scale here, I think she's around 15 pounds (which is a whopping 3 pounds more than her sister weighed at this age). Needless to say, but I'm totally loving her baby chunk and I definitely have the fever for another one

  39. loopedd

    kiwi / 536 posts

    @Mrs. Rabbit: Sounds like she's doing great if a little snack gets her right back to sleep!

    We had our 4-month visit yesterday and he shot up from the 10th percentile for weight to the 27th - 14.5lbs! Proud (and a little shocked) that he packed on 4.5 lbs in two months. He impressed the doc with his babbling and giggling and was a total champ until the shots. He looks at me like, "Why'd you make me do that, mama?? We were having so much fun!"

    Any other stat updates?? I love seeing how big these babies are getting! And can't believe the Feb 2016 mamas board is up... crazy! We're making plans for our July beach vacation, the one that was totally ruined by morning sickness last year

  40. Kbee

    kiwi / 560 posts

    @Mrs. Rabbit: Hope the check-up goes well! And props to you - I do NOT have baby fever, and it'll be a while I think. I'm gonna have to get some sleep first before I want another one

    @loopedd: Aww what a champ! D had his 4-month appointment a week and a half ago, and was about 13.5 pounds. He was 5th percentile at birth, and is now 25th, so we're happy about that. I've been weighing him at home too, and I think he's already up to 14 pounds just since then! He's a short little guy for now though, has stayed in the 5th percentile for length since birth. My DH is hoping that will change!

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