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@MrsA: oh man, I'm sure it's good that the doctor isn't worried but I would hate for you to have false labor all that time. Hope things calm down!
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@gilmoregirl: no issues last night! Crossing fingers it continues.
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Ok, am I crazy? DH needs to do an overnight work trip this week and another next week. I'm 36 weeks now. I'm somewhat ok with this week (except that he will be flying in poor weather) but I could not fall asleep last night because I was so upset about him going again next week. I'll be 37 weeks and change. OB is saying she thinks baby will be early and a fast delivery based on his size and position and DD's arrival. Fast delivery means he would miss the entire thing if I go into labor while he's away. Am I nuts for being super uncomfortable with this?? I don't want to be the crazy pregnant lady but this isn't sitting well with me at all. Yet odds are he's not going to arrive at only 37 weeks.
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@MrsA: Is it just the one night/how long will he actually be gone? Anyway to keep an exit option in case you would be feeling like you're close?
I know at 36 weeks with DS I was already dilated, so I definitely wouldn't have wanted DH to be gone at all, and he was extra careful about making sure to have his cell phone at all times. I wouldn't be comfortable with him doing any overnight's at 37 weeks, I don't think you're crazy. -
@MrsA: Definitely not crazy - I think we have the same due date, and I agree I'd be okay with this week (not thrilled, but okay) but not next week. Is it something he can skip given the circumstances? I'm sure he would be extremely upset if he ended up missing the birth!
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@MrsA: I know how you feel, btdt, we were lucky J decided to make her debut on a weekend. This time we are in the same situation again, DH would actually have to stay a night OOT this week but he's too nervous with our preterm labor scare and my uterus being nervous yesterday and today. Honestly I would go by your instincts if you feel it wouldn't be a good idea next week then he should try to get out of the trip, if you feel like nothing is going to happen then let him go.
As for me my appointment today showed that baby A has turned posterior, sits super low but isn't engaged yet and that I have some BH contractions. Everything else looked good and I am not dialated and cervix is stable. We'll see when these babies decide to make their debut just not today or tomorrow, since tomorrow is J's birthday. Basically anything before Saturday would be bad because DH needs to travel Thursday and my mom is busy Friday - she'll stay with me Thursday when DH is over 3h away. So we'll see...
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@Pumuckl: Hopefully the babies hold off a bit longer but so exciting to be meeting them soon!
I have noticed a ton of braxton hicks lately, which I didn't notice at all with DS (of course I didn't know I was having contractions either, so probably just didn't realize it).
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@josina: He'd be gone one night each trip. Leaving in the afternoon/evening and back the next afternoon hopefully.
@Beehive: @Pumuckl: thanks for weighing in also. I'm definitely "not thrilled but ok" with tomorrow's trip. Next week just makes me so anxious. I told him that this morning so he's going to see what his options are. He's an attorney so it's a hearing or deposition or something so he may be able to teleconference for it. I'm just glad that I'm not crazy for thinking being away at 37 weeks isn't a great idea.
Also, my OB said she wasn't going to check dilation until after his trips are done in case it jump starts anything. So I won't have any idea of progress to base a decision on.
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@MrsA: not crazy. I would not be ok with it. My husband attrended a conference when I was 36 weeks last time but he was only about an hour away. I don't think I'd agree to it this one because I just cannot handle everything by myself with a toddler to take care of. 37 weeks would make me nervous even if there is no reason to think something would happen. How far away?
@Pumuckl: hope they hang in there a little while longer but how exciting to be getting so close!
@josina: I've been having tons and the pressure has been ramping up. I definitely feel it more if I've been on my feet a lot. So far it all goes away once I am able to rest.
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So I have a new insurance provider as of Jan 1 and they actually provide a double electric pump! Last time all I could get was $30 toward a manual.
I have a PISA from my son so I guess it makes sense to get that again for the sake of the parts...but I am undecided. Some of the other pumps look like they come with more stuff (the medala is just the pump and two bottles. Not even a bag). I liked but did not love it. Can you love a breast pump anyway?
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@MrsA: I would be really nervous about dh traveling this late. Lo1 was born early, at 37 weeks, so even though this one probably won't be (I don't have the same fluid issue this time) I'm still anxious about lo2 being early as well. I was actually really regretting traveling at 34 weeks over the holidays, even though we were staying close to a fabulous hospital (just in a diff city...)
@josina: I also think I've noticed some BH--I never had them w lo1. But I'm def feeling something occasionally that isn't a kick/movement or hiccups or just RLP...
@Pumuckl: hang tight babies!! so exciting that it could be so soon...!
@gilmoregirl: I think I'm leaning towards getting a PISA this time again too, just because it'd be easier to stick with the parts (/not have to learn a new system). Plus, my work has Symphony pumps in the lactation rooms, and the parts are mostly interchangeable (just different tubing). We also used the Medela bottles for actual feeding, and have like a zillion still. I was thinking for those I'd sterilize to reuse, but replace the nipples?
Anyone else's older children intensifying their mommy preference lately? Lo1 hasn't slept through the night in at least 5 days, and this mama is tired! She's definitely reacting to us pulling out all the baby things--she wants to look at/play with her old books/toys/clothes all the time. We set the bassinet up in our bedroom yesterday and she threw a fit wanting to climb into it herself
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@MrsA: definitely not crazy! I wouldn't be okay with my DH travelling this late in the game. I feel like would totally be a case of Murphy's Law- if he were to go, labour will happen. If he doesn't, you'll make it to 40 weeks and look like the crazy pregnant lady. Haha.
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@nana87: yeah we are definitely noticing that both older LOs are noticing something is up. On days like yesterday were I was having contractions again and thus didn't fully help bringing them to bed they don't sleep in their beds for the whole night. We ended up with both of them in our room. It doesn't help my 3.75 year old is probably more excited about his sister's 2nd birthday tomorrow than she is.
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@nana87: omg yes to the mommy preference! E has cried at daycare drop off everyday since last Tuesday and it is soooo sad. (He hasn't cried at our current daycare ever!) He says NO when it's time to go and will cry as soon as I pull in to her house.
At home is the same, he wants mommy, but it doesn't help that DH has been busy all weekend too so he hasn't gotten much daddy time.
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@nana87: I'm planning to reuse what I have from last time but replace the nipples. Actually I'm not sure if I even have the nipples anymore because my son rarely took a bottle. This baby will start daycare much earlier (6 months vs 9.5) so he will really have to take a bottle. It feels like new territory for me!
I'm still considering trying a different pump even though it's not really practical. Anyone have experience with something other than the PISA?
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@josina: I'm getting a lot of BH contractions in the evenings, especially. My belly gets so tight and uncomfortable!
@Pumuckl: hope the babes stay put until after the weekend, at least!
@nana87: my DD has always had a pretty strong mom preference, but it's getting pretty intense lately. I think the almost 2 weeks being home over the holidays kicked it into overdrive... she never used to cry going to daycare, but now she does and she ALWAYS wants to be picked up. Should be fun to manage with a newborn
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@gilmoregirl: I used the Medela Freestyle with my first - I liked it a lot (well, as much as you can like a pump). It's really light and portable, and battery-operated, so no need to be attached to an outlet. I'm going to try to use it again for this one (or get a new one if this one isn't doing well after a 3-year hiatus).
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@gilmoregirl: I use a Medela Freestyle when I need to pump both sides. I really seldomly do that though since I block feed and mainly WAH. I use my manual Harmony pump when just pumping one side - works quicker for me than the electric pump. Other than that I love the freedom the Freestyle provides since it works on a battery.
@nana87: I think I didn't replace nipples last time because I wanted to see first whether J would take the same bottles as B. Turned out she didn't, so she got new bottles and nipples once we finally found something she would take.
@gilmoregirl: My advice would be to consistently start with one bottle a day from very early on. It's what I plan to do with the twins too. Bottle rejection is no fun
With J I made the mistake of thinking that once they took a bottle they would always take one, nope not necessarily so...@gentlelunette: Thank you, I would love for them to stay put until the 19th at least because then we'd be past 36w.
I have a feeling that the babies will just stay put forever and I'll have to be induced in early February with all the resting I have to do now.
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@MrsA: you are not crazy. I'd be a little nervous too. DH is actually going away this week but I am only 34 wks so I am not so worried. 37 weeks is a whole different ball game.
@nana87: DD is such a mama's girl, I dont' think it's intensified but I am slightly worried about how the transition will be for her (and me!!)
@gilmoregirl: I have the medela freestyle and liked it. I had to pump at work 3 times a day and once at night and it worked well. I plan to use it again this time. (not looking forward to pumping...)
@Pumuckl: glad those babes are staying put! I can't wait to see them though!!Advise needed on my 3 yo DD. i'll try to make this short and concise but I tend to run on.... sorry. She turned 3 in Nov. She's been at an in home daycare since 3 mos. She loves it there and we love it there. She used to be one of the younger ones, she really befriended a few of the "older" girls. She is very vocal and "acts older than she is".. partly bc of these girls I think. Anyway, both girls have now moved on to preschool. She no longer sees them daily and she misses them. She is now one of the older kids at daycare and is playing with:
1-2 yo boy
1-1 yo boy
1-2 yo girlOlder kids come and go before and after care but the base is younger than her. My DH thinks she's bored and wants to move her asap to preschool.
I had planned to transition her in fall. For 2-3 days a week.
I just don't feel like we should move her now, especially with new baby coming. Won't that be too much? (not only for her but for me also?) Or am I being a wuss and making a mountain out of a molehill?
I feel like she's still my baby and that having her be almost 4 when she goes to a different place/preschool just "feels" better to me and it will be 6-7 mos after baby is here so I was thinking it would be smoother transition.
I told DH it's not that big of a deal if she's "bored" for a few months but he strongly disagrees.
What do you think? should we move her sooner? Like now before baby comes? Or wait until fall? Should we do a part time thing or go all in and switch her for all 5 days?
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@Ajsmommy: popping over b/c I saw you posted and thought maybe you had baby
so I'll go ahead and chime in - sounds to me like you know what you want to do here, like you have some pretty strong instinct & feeling about keeping her put. If you go against that, and it backfires, I think you will kick yourself for not listening to your gut, right? I don't think there is a 'correct' decision here, just two different path's. good luck - I'll keep a spy eye on you for baby watch!!
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@Ajsmommy: I think it could be a tough time for a transition but I agree with @oskarsmommy: that there really isn't a right answer. The tough part is that you and your husband disagree. I think if your daughter isn't having any problems at her in home than she is likely fine. But I've also seen how my own son thrives in an environment with older children and so I've pushed for him to move up to older classes as soon as he is eligible.
What's your in home like? Structure? Activities? Can you do two days of preschool now and add additional days in the fall to compromise with your husband?
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@Beehive: @Ajsmommy: @Pumuckl: thanks for the feedback, ladies. The freestyle isn't one of my options so I might just stick with the PISA because I did use it successfully last time.
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@oskarsmommy: ah, hi! Thanks for the input! how are you feeling? have you hit 3rd tri yet??
@gilmoregirl: in home is structured in that they follow a schedule but it is all open/free play, there are no educational or learning related activities. They do sometimes color/draw but that is "free play". We knew this from day 1 and always knew we'd be transitioning her to preschool/more scheduled learning oriented facility. It's just the timing that's getting thrown off. 1 because we have new baby due and 2 because her second bff just started preschool full time the first of the year and she's really missing her... we hadn't "planned" for that to happen
I was actually thinking about your suggestion to start her asap as part time and then maybe switch to full time in fall if it goes well...
We are visiting the site Friday so maybe i'll have a better "idea" of what I think is right after that! Thanks for the input
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@Ajsmommy: at 3 my son was able to verbalize what he wants. So maybe you can get her opinion too? Would she meet her friends again at the preschool or are they in different facilities? Because if they're going to be with her the transition now might be easier then later when she might have forgotten them more.
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@Pumuckl: great point. I will attempt to find out what class she'll be in when we visit on Friday--not sure they'll give out specific info though on other kids (?) but I could reach out to the parents and find out. IE: they tell us she'll be in Miss G's class if she enrolls I could find out if her friends are in Miss G's class. My initial thought was that she wouldn't be with them bc of the age difference.. but maybe I am wrong.
As far as her verbalizing.. oh she can verbalize it but I'm not 100% sure she "understands" what it means to move to "big miss gwens" (*as she calls it). Her daddy put it in her mind that she will go to there bc she's big now and that her friends A&B are there. I told him to be careful bc we aren't sure if she'd even see A&B let alone be in their class. But as I said above I might be able to figure that out after Friday.
That would actually be great!! If I found out she'd go in with A or B
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Anyone else having very painful BH contractions? How are you doing with yours @josina and @GENTLELUNETTE ?
33.5 weeks over here. Last week (at 32.5 weeks) got sent to L&D triage where I found out that my painful cramping was actually contractions every three minutes apart. They said I was 1 cm--which they said wasn't unusual for a 2nd time mom--and after several hours and iv bags got the contractions to simmer down and sent me home telling me I was dehydrated.
Only I don't think the contractions/cramping really did simmer down. They just took a break. And then started back up off and on for the next several days. So for the next few days and all weekend, I basically was as lazy as possible, worked from home, and drank as much water as possible.
Yesterday, I saw my doctor for my regular appointment (she hadn't been in the hospital when I was there) and she said that she disagreed with the triage nurses and didn't think it had been dehydration at all. I had had no problem peeing (and have been peeing pretty clear), had been chugging water like a camel, and besides "this is winter in NYC not summer in AZ" and she just was highly skeptical. She checked me to see if anything had progressed in the past week and told me I was 2 cm and that she'd like to see me every week and I should take it easy and work from home if possible (which I can't do every day but am trying as much as possible). I told her that I had been feeling much better the last two days.
Then again all last night--more cramping (which I just cannot tell if they are contractions or not) and today I'm pretty sore.What do you think ladies? Anyone else had a similar experience? Could last night/ today's cramping be from her checking to see how dilated I was yesterday? Should I be worried? I know that people can walk around for WEEKS dilated (and obviously I want BabyGirl to cook a bit more but LORD I hope I don't have to walk around for weeks with this cramping).
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@gilmoregirl: I had the Medela PISA last time but this time around saw my insurance was offering the Spectra S2. I'd heard good things and after doing more research decided to go for it. Apparently it's quieter and can yield more output. I obviously can't speak from experience yet but I'm excited to try it out - figure I can always pull my old PiSA out of the basement if I need to.
@WyattnewbabysMama: oh no, that sounds super uncomfortable. I haven't had BH (36weeks) but remember having a friend who had them starting pretty early and still not delivering til after 39 weeks, but who knows? Hope they ease up on you since I am sure you probably don't want to deliver this early!
AFM not much news but I got my GBS results and they are negative so I'm excited especially since I was planning to opt out of even the hep lock this time. Hope the next 3 or 4 weeks go by quickly. Oh and we moved DS to his big boy bed last night and he slept like a champ - hope it wasn't a fluke !!
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@WyattnewbabysMama: wow, that sounds so uncomfortable! Sorry! I have no first hand experience with BH but I had a friend who was contracting for weeks prior to having her DS. She ended up in the hospital like 3 times but was released each time and told to take it easy. I think she ended up having him at 38 wks ish
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@WyattnewbabysMama: Oh no, that sounds awful. Mine haven't been painful at all, just an annoying tightening, and usually just in the evenings or if I'm on my feet a lot.
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@WyattnewbabysMama: mine aren't overly painful... just cramping and they go away with rest. There's a part of me that wonders if I might be dilating ambit though. I've been losing small pieces of mucous plug for a couple of weeks, and I've been getting these dull aches and pains in my cervix that I can't even really describe. Hopefully babe stays out for a few more weeks and that you don't have to endure these contractions the whole time!
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@maggierose: the spectra s2 is the other one on my list and the reviews look really great. I think I've eliminated the others - two Ameda versions, two Evenflos and hygeia. I think that's it. I also like that you can order parts to make the spectra work with medals bottles. That would increase my options.
@WyattnewbabysMama: I have had a ton of pressure and discomfort with my BH but not really pain. They've definitely been different from any of the labor contractions I had. Hoping too that you don't have to deal with this for weeks on end. I had painful cramping with my first starting around 32-33 weeks that lasted until I delivered at 40+2 and it made me craaaaazy.
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Had my 36 week appointment today, so the GBS swab is over and done with. I'll be interested to find out results next week. Not really dilated yet - just 1 cm ish - but that was true with my first too, even at 40 weeks so I am making nothing of it. All of my appointments are scheduled!
As much as I am really struggling to get through each day, I am doing soooo much better mentally this time. With my first I spent the last month or two in a pretty constant state of meltdown and I'm not there yet this time. It's really helping me to have some perspective. I'm nervous about a second, but different nervous. I don't know how to explain it.
I am terrible at my job though. I just physically cannot do it.
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@gilmoregirl: I'm glad to hear you're dealing better emotionally this time. I'm actually finding the opposite. Last time, I was blissfully unaware of what to expect and was just so excited for baby. This time, I'm really struggling with anxiety about managing life with two under two, a husband who works crazy hours, a house to maintain, my mom being sick... it all feels so overwhelming. I'm hoping that once the baby is here I'll be better able to manage because it won't be me swirling around all the "what ifs" like I am right now, it'll just be life and I'll find ways to manage.
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@gentlelunette: oh I totally get that. I'm pretty nervous about the reality of life with two and having a newborn again but I'm mostly in denial still. Work is awful right now and is sucking up most of my mental energy so I'm sure that's a factor. It's the end of pregnancy that I'm handling better. At this point with my first I'd stopped sleeping past 2:30 am and was crying for an hour or two every night. I'd really like to not repeat that and so far so good.
Hows your mom doing? I'm not sure I knew she was sick.
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@gilmoregirl: she's okay. She's got a chronic lung condition and the winter has been really rough... she's been recovering from a serious bout of pneumonia since before Christmas but it's taking a long time for her to recover. Thanks for asking
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I'm trying to get caught up here! Hope everyone is doing well.
Had my 36/37 week appt today. GBS came back positive
I'll have a cervical check next week and probably just have to go in at the first sign of contractions to get both doses of antibiotics in case labor is short. I'm bummed but there's nothing I can do about it. Otherwise just tired and feeling huge. 1 more week of work!
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@gentlelunette: hope your mom is continuing to get well!
@gilmoregirl: @maggierose: I went with the Spectra this time too. I've read good things! Haven't opened the box yet
@WyattnewbabysMama: those BH sound terrible! I hope you're getting some relief.
Thanks to all who assured me I wasn't crazy about DH's travel plans. He did a quick overnight this week that went fine, and now doesn't need to go next week. I'm relieved. I put my foot down and said no, and then it turned out to be cancelled/postponed. Good stuff!
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I'm feeling a lot of cramping in my lower back and pelvis tonight, and maybe some contractions too? It seems to be coming and going? Baby was moving a lot when it started but isn't as much now. I think I'm just paranoid bc my parents are out of town until Monday and we don't have a back up plan for lo... and my ob is out of town this week...
In other news, at my appointment last week I found out I'm gbs negative so that's good! Also I wasn't dilated yet but she said my cervix was soft and short...
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@nana87: How are you feeling this morning? I was getting periodic cramping/contractions last night too, but I think it's because DH and I DTD (for the first time in a looooooong time, lol!). Still nothing more than BH.
My daughter was at her grandparents this weekend for a sleepover, which means DH and I got to sleep in. Ya, that would have been nice, except I woke up STARVING and had to pee like a racehorse. So much for that! Haha.
At home is the same, he wants mommy, but it doesn't help that DH has been busy all weekend too so he hasn't gotten much daddy time.
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