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I think that is why it is good to find out the gender early. I think it is ok to be disappointed and now you have time to process it. By the time your little boy gets here, I am sure you will be just as excited for all the things two boys will bring. But in the meantime, take it easy on yourself!

I was a little sad to find out I was having another boy. At the time I was pretty bummed out! Don't worry though when I laid eyes on my second son I was over joyed with happiness. They are not quite old enough to play with each other yet but I can already see the brotherly love.

The one big thing that I joked about is that well it's good I have another son because I would be sooo poor if we had a girl (aka buying up all the girl clothes).

Don't worry this feeling will pass!

We are likely one and done so my husband and I were both a little disappointed to learn we were having a boy. For me, I just tried to focus on the positives... No crazy teenager girl hormones! Also- I think my life as a mother would have been a lot more difficult with a girl because my husband would have totally spoiled her.

For having a second boy there are some positives to focus on...being able to reuse everything you have, brothers have a special bond!, sharing a room and toys...after all is said and done the feeling will pass! Just give yourself a little time. It's ok to be disappointed for a little bit.

You'll get used to the idea, but a part of you may always feel that way. I love and adore my boys, but a part of me always gets wistful thinking about a daughter.

I have two boys and the disappointment when we found out the gender was so real. To be honest it lasted until he was in my arms. Now I can't imagine anything different and love my little boys to the moon and back - but even knowing that I'd get to this place (as I was assured I would) didn't help much before it actually happened on it's own.

@ladybee: I'm sure you'll be fall head over heels with your boy when you meet him, but I'm sorry you have to deal with these feelings in the meantime. Hugs.

It will go away, but it might not be right away and that's okay! I have 3 nephews and my sister was definitely disappointed to not have a girl but loves her boys and the bond two brothers have is really special. I know lots of people tend to want one of each when they are only having two, but I really think having two of the same sex is awesome! And bonus, you can reuse lots of things! Congrats mama, you'll be just fine!

I actually wanted to find out early this time (we were Team Green last time) because I wanted to have time to process the disappointment I know I'd have if it was a second boy (and so D's family would have time to process their disappointment, too). I even told him on the way to the scan that I already felt so guilty that I was going to be disappointed when they told me another boy (because I was sure).

He told me "That's okay. I'm going to be disappointed no matter what they say. If it's a boy I'll be sad that we don't get a girl, and if it's a boy I'm going to mourn for Ev, because he won't get to have the close brother relationship I have with my brothers."

I think it's totally fine to be disappointed, especially since it's your last. There's a whole different life you have to let go of...that of a girl mom. Take some time to mourn it, but try to start thinking of some of the perks, too!

But...fwiw...I think boy moms are awesome. Both my sisters-in-law only have boys, and my MIL only had boys. They said they love it because they feel like queens of the castle.

I'm struggling with this A LOT right now. I feel mad and sad that #3 is yet another boy. I'm also super jealous of anyone announcing having a girl.

And even though I swore up and down I was done at 3 ......maybe I'm not, after all.

ETA: I know how much having 2 boys rocks and truthfully I do love it. I just ..... really wanted a girl this time around.

My sister in law also had gender disappointment when she found out her 2nd was a boy. But she couldn't express or dwell in it bc her husband took it even harder and even shed a tear at the ultrasound.
The youngest boy is 5 now and they wouldn't it have it any other way.

Mourn. Let yourself be sad. Don't feel guilty. Because when you're holding that sweet baby boy in your arms it will literally disappear. I've been at this two boy mom thing for two months and it is the best ever, truly!!

@BandDmommy: DH has always said if we had two girls he wouldn't try for a third in hopes of a boy, because he would end up with three girls and couldn't handle that. Then driving home from the ultrasound he was like, well, maybe one day down the line we might want a third... I told him that discussion was off the table while I'm still pregnant!

@ladybee: DW and I had a preference for a daughter because really its all we know! We are one and done. It's a boy and we truly did get over it. Give yourself some time and I assure you you will too - before you meet him even!!

Think about all the reasons you love your oldest. You don't love him because he is a boy, or in spite of being a boy, you just love him! I have two boys and I love how goofy, headstrong, good natured my little guy is. But I don't think of him as a boy, just as my kid! It's hard when you are pregnant and only know one thing about your kid, their sex. But soon you will meet him and have so many reasons to love him you won't even think about the sex!

And also, think about the things you might have looked forward to about a girl. So many of those things you can still do with a boy. I cook with my boys, and we read books about witches and fairies. They have a toy kitchen. When they are older, I will teach them to knit. The world has changed a lot - it's not as restrictive as it was!

@ladybee: aww I had a feeling when you posted the gender after your anatomy scan that you had some disappointment. I may be in the same boat after Friday and I know I will feel exactly the same as you do. In fact I've been building myself up for the possibility since before I got pregnant and I think the biggest consolation is how wonderful I think a brother would be for DS. In fact I think I want a boy for him and a girl for me! I also had disappointment in my first pregnancy because I wanted a daughter so badly and it was just a matter of getting used to the idea which took time and to keep focusing on the positive points of having a boy. Hugs to you.
Eta. And obviously once my son was here, I fell head over heels in love and cannot my imagine or would want my first born as anyone but him. He is the light of my life and I have no doubt that I'll feel the same way with a second baby. And so will you. I think the hard part is the pregnancy because you haven't fallen in love with your child yet the way you will once he is here.

@californiadreams: with my second, I wanted a boy for DH and a girl for DD. I really didn't even care for me!

@jedeve: This!

Gender disappointment is such a real thing - don't feel guilty. I experienced it too when we found out our second and last was also going to be a boy. I'm glad we found out while pregnant because it gave me time to mourn the daughter I would never have and get excited about the prospect of raising brothers! And boys are AWESOME!

My DH had some gender disappointment when our youngest was announced a girl. We both deep down knew she was another girl but he was holding out hope. I love that my girls get to know what having the relationship of sisters, but him growing up with brothers, I think he wanted to witness that relationship. We think we are done with 2 girls, but there is still a chance we will try for a 3rd, but I just know deep down we will have 3 girls.

Like @knittylady: I'll admit that I had some level of disappointment until I met my son. Now I wouldn't trade him for 1,000,000 girls! For me the trouble came thinking about boys I'd known/taught who were hard to handle-but those boys aren't MY son, and wrapping my head around that helped me see why I was struggling. My whole life I've wanted to experience parenting a child of each sex, so I'll admit that I still hope to have a little girl some day, too. I think it's okay to feel that way! Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel, while knowing that the second you lay eyes on your next precious boy that you will fall head over heels for him.