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I like your second option better than your first, but I personally wouldn’t “announce” in any way at work and I definitely wouldn’t mention your leave plans. People will find out and you've got plenty of time before you're taking leave, so I don’t think any sort of announcement is necessary, especially for a team you’re not close to. I don’t even think you need to worry about telling people; if the men on your team suspect you might be pregnant (and it will be obvious soon enough) they will ask other people (likely, your admin staff!) or they will just ask you directly. I dunno though, I’ve never had any co-workers ever announce their pregnancy….we all just speculated for a few weeks until it was obvious, and then asked the secretary to confirm!

If you want people to know - all you have to do is tell one person who is gossipy. It will spread; trust me.

@Pumuckl: I think that works!

@Adira: just go in, ask if he has a minute. Say "I have some news, We are expecting a second baby in December. We are very excited about it. Also I wanted to let you know that I do intend to return to work after the baby is born." Done.

@Adira: I think I'm having trouble because I've never been on a team where we don't meet / or see each other at least of a daily basis. If I was, I would just tell my higher up. Come to think of it, he will probably appreciate being told before the rest of the team as opposed to being blindsided. Similar to what @Smurfette said, I assume that in the next meeting or two something will come up timing wise and it will be said you are pregnant.

The bottom line is you want to no longer have to hide about being pregnant. I think once you tell this second boss you are in the clear. If any of your teammates ask you just confirm it! I would not be offended to hear through the grapevine about someone I don't personally know and/or interact with on a daily basis.

It's actually really fun to see how long it takes for people to catch on. I told my boss and a few people I was close with. Some of the men (who I do see every day) didn't figure it out until I was 7 months. Then I got to tease them for not noticing. It was fun!

Just forward this thread to everyone. Done.

You're overthinking this. Tell your work friends. Tell your boss. Let office gossip do the rest. Honestly, after the first pregnancy people don't really care unless you're close, so I wouldn't put too much effort into it.

@Adira: yay! Does it feel good?

@Adira: yay I was kinda expecting you to say that , should be a fun lunch break today!

So I also work in technology and most of my coworkers (Id say at least 75%) are men. Same situation where we all have a great working relationship and I interact with probably 20-30 core people each week, 5-7 daily.
What I did for the most part was mention it really casually. I know you said it'll be weird to interject into a conversation but I actually found that to be way easier and got funny reactions because it was unexpected (until I started to show, ha).
Formally, I first told my two supervisors. I told them it's not a secret but I'm not doing some grand announcement either.
Then I told my partner (I'm project and he's product).
I started with those 3 becaue they were most impacted (ie had to find replacement, take on extra work, etc). I too am in the midst of a MAJOR redesign project and it was important for them to know.
I also told 2 work friends who I'd feel bad if they found out through the grapevine.
Then I just told people where it felt appropriate. For example, if I was in a meetin and someone said something about a launch in Sept, I'd say something like "oh so, I actually won't be here because I'm due in sept". It was casual but relevant and it was fun seeing reactions. No one ever was mad or said "but what about the project?!"
Then once it was blatantly obvious I literally said in our weekly meeting (which I run and is about 7 people) "by the way I'm pregnant". At that point 1 or 2 already knew by word of mouth and the others exclaimed "I knew it" and we all had a fun laugh, talk about due date, etc.
I have to say that no one except supervisor and my partner asked about when I'd be out, how long, etc. so I agree that telling the rest of your team probably isn't necessary. I think that's up to your supervisor to communicate if it impacts schedule or people have questions.

Long winded way of saying that while every work place is different, I think that the rule of "tell a few key people and let it spread naturally" is the most appropriate way to go. And the easiest. I was uneasy at first about not telling people, as if I was lying or hiding. But really I think that most people realize that it's a personal thing and when they need to know they'll know.
I often said to people too after they heard or flat out asked "I didn't want to make a big fuss, I figured you'd all know eventually" and they usually agreed or laughed or whatever.

Good luck!

ETA: Doh! Just posted and saw that you already told your boss. Ok well, at Least you and whoever searches this topic in the future now know my experience

I did the same as @SweetiePie:. I'm a software designer and I told my boss really early for various reasons, and then after we announced to family I mentioned it to a few people on my team as "by the way I' pregnant". Everyone else I didn't tell explicitly. I figured they either figured it out through word of mouth, or eventually because I was visibly pregnant. And later it just came up naturally, even with male co-workers.

@Adira: Good! I'm glad that you came to a resolution you are comfortable with. It is a nerve inducing thing, telling bosses and coworkers. I found this to be the least painful

Darn, I'm late! I struggled with this as well for different reasons. I did send an email (but my team has all met my daughter and seen her pictures). There also was a tradition at one point of bringing donuts when you are pregnant, it's been lost but some people still mention it...

My email was "Some people say it with donuts, others through word of mouth. We are letting C share the news with you…" And then I had attached two pictures of C that we had taken for our announcement. The announcement pictures had her with two different signs "Pink or Blue, either will do. Mommy's expecting number 2" and "I'm being promoted to BIG SISTER".

Yay you did it! Hopefully people will just spread the word!