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I wouldn't react at all. That's her decision to make. I have personally chosen not to have even a sip because my doctor didn't OK it... She and her doctor may have agreed to something else.

It's her choice and I wouldn't say anything. My ex-manager used to smoke at work on a daily basis. That was shocking to me but her baby came out healthy. That is a crazy risk to take, though.

I'd be shocked - it would be more from the surprise though, rather than the horror of it or anything. I don't really know how I feel about drinking during pregnancy, I'd always assumed it was 100% forbidden.... I don't intend to drink when I'm pg. I wouldn't say anything to someone I saw doing it, though!

A friend of mine actually got sacked from her job for refusing to serve a pregnant lady. She asked "it this for you" and when the lady said yes my friend said "then i refuse to serve you".

I would definitely take notice but I wouldn't say anything. I'm sure my husband and I would have a conversation about it during the car ride home though! I wouldn't necessarily worry that she drinks more in private though. Maybe it's just the people I know, but I think sometimes when people are so out there with drinking during pregnancy I think they also are trying to portray that they are so progressive and cool or something. I could be totally wrong though

I was at a wedding last month and every other woman on the table were pregnant, (thanks host, just what I needed with TTC), and all of them were drinking. I didn't way anything but was pretty shocked as my mum never drank with her pregnancies and I didn't think it was ok'ed by OBs. These were not sips either but glasse of wine. One of them mentioned that she didn't drink with her first pregnancy but did with her second and "it was fine" so she was drinking through her 3rd.
I would never say something but this is not something I would be comfortable with.

I would not say anything, even if the woman was drinking excessively. A pregnant woman knows the implications of drinking, so I don't think me saying something would change anything. It's her choice.

Considering the drugs they pump most of us full of during delivery and then pain meds after the fact I wouldnt think twice about it. It's just society selling us one under doctors orders versus society putting a stigma on alcohol.

Now, if she were doing shots of hard liquor/keg stands that would be another thing. A couple glasses of wine is nothing.

@regberadaisy: "I would never ever say anything to a pregnant lady regarding the choices she makes. That's her business. But doesn't mean I don't have a opinion I won't share with my husband! "

Lol, exactly:)My husband would probably have more to say than me though.

I have never drank while pregnant and this is my third. That is not a risk I am willing ot take, regardless if one glass ok. Until they can tell me a definate amount that is dangerous, then no thank you. But I wouldn't ever say anything to a pregnant woman who was drinking in public, I am sure she is aware of the risks already and is ok with it.

If it was one or even two glasses, I think it's fine. I'd be a little surprised that she felt comfortable doing it in public, but not surprised that she was drinking. I've had a glass of wine now and then during my pregnancy, so I can't judge. But I won't do it in public (I won't even do it around my ILs) because I don't want to get dirty looks. I do it in the privacy of my own home with my husband and cat as my only witness.

Personally, seeing a woman have a glass of wine bothers me less than seeing her standing outside smoking a cigarette. THAT really creases me.

As a formerly pregnant woman who was scolded by a 17 year old check out girl for buying O'Douls, I wouldn't say anything. Having a baby is such an incredibly personal decision, from what you eat, to how you deliver, to what you diaper with, so I don't think its any of my business the decisions another woman makes. I drank wine during pregnancy (I was slightly neurotic about measuring in order to avoid consuming more than one unit) and I found it helped me relax, especially during those later weeks (and kept my blood pressure down).

Also, things have changed since I had my DD (and yes, she's only 4 months)-wasn't there a study that came out recently that said there is no risk of FAS in babies whose mothers were light to moderate drinkers during pregnany? Not justifying, just wondering...

@stiffaknee: It was a small study done in Denmark. It said that up 8 drinks per week seemed to cause no harm. But it was a relatively small sample and the children were young - under 5. http://theweek.com/article/index/229672/drinking-while-pregnant-finally-proof-that-its-okay

I wouldn't say anything, especially about a glass of wine. If I saw a pregnant woman taking multiple shots of tequila or something like that I would want to say something.

I personally wouldn't say anything. Whether it makes me uncomfortable or not is moot, not my body, not my choice. That and I'm not the one who would have to live with the consequences (if any).

i agree with many of the others - to each their own!

i wouldn't have said anything... Everyone has a different opinion on this. I actually was hanging out with a friend who is a high-risk OB (and who just had a baby 3 weeks ago) and she was "making fun" of me (not really, but just joking around) that I wasn't drinking at all.... She had 1 glass of wine or a beer a week in the third tri.

I feel too nervous about it & wouldn't enjoy it anyway, so I figure I can just wait.

What she puts in her body is nobody's business but her and her husband's. She obviously knows the risks of alcohol, you can't go 30 seconds without hearing about it while pregnant.

I'm in the camp that a glass a week with dinner isn't a big deal. I ordered beer or wine in public through the last 2/3 of my pregnancy and 99% of the time nobody even blinked an eye at me. After 1/4 or 1/2 glass I was done and passed it along to my husband.

The big thing that bothers me is smoking while pregnant- this is a typically a daily event, not once or twice a week. But again, it isn't my business what another woman does to her body. I had a friend who smoked through her entire pregnancy, and had a low birth weight baby- she blamed everything but the cigarettes on him being sick when he was born.

I probably wouldn't even notice; I'm pretty oblivious like that, lol.

My husband would definitely comment on it behind closed doors, though. Even though my doctor ok'ed a little alcohol at the end of pregnancy, I didn't have so much as a sip with either pregnancy because he feels very strongly about the no alcohol rule. So I think he totally would have noticed and told me about it later.

I had my first sip of "real" alcohol this whole pregnancy (besides 3 N/A beers on seperate occasions) this weekend at a restaurant. We went to lunch for a friend's birthday and the server brought a sample of a new wine, both I and the other pregnant friend took a sip to give it a try. It was maybe 1/2 a sip at most. I didn't think too much of the other people in the restaurant judging me, it made me very excited for my first full glass post pregnancy.

It is not my place to judge someone else so I wouldn't say anything unless they were drunk then I would probably intervene and try to stop it.

Unless she was chugging a 40 or taking shots back to back, I wouldn't think anything of it. Maybe she was foreigner? They can be much more lax about drinking.

I live abroad but they're much, much more intolerant about drinking than in the States. Caffeine on the other hand, they couldn't care less.

i probably wouldn't think anything of one glass of wine, but going back for more or getting purposefully drunk would definitely get more than raised eyebrows from me. i personally have had several glasses of wine and don't feel like i'm putting my baby in any danger. to each her own.