blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
I have just recently decided that I really don't want to be a full time SAHM anymore. I work some from home, but I need to have full time hours if I want the kids to go to daycare, and working at home with the kids here is becoming very difficult.
I always wanted to be a SAHM but it just isn't working for me. I have had a really hard time connecting with other moms due to scheduling conflicts with naps etc, so I am basically alone all the time. There are a million other reasons too, but basically it comes down to the fact that I think I am going to be a better mom when I have more quality time with my kids and less quantity. My son started going to a daycare 5 days a week this week from 7-1, and then he comes home and naps. We still have the afternoons together, and I get some much needed time to do things I love. I really miss doing work I care about, and it is really nice to be doing it again.
I think if I had found a great group of friends and had a kid with less demanding sleep needs or had a child who isnt constantly into everything everywhere we go, it might have been easier for me. But I hate being stuck in the house, and going places is just so hard sometimes.
All that to say, it comes down to what is going to make you happy with your life. I have come to terms with the fact that me working means we will make just above the break even for childcare, but I see it as doing work I love and providing my kids a safe wonderful place to be while I do it. When they start public school the childcare expense will be gone and we will get a huge raise
grapefruit / 4066 posts
@stratosphere: thank you so much, that really helps! I feel like as time goes on it will get easier, and by a year I will actually want to work. So yea, a longer maternity leave is really what I want.
grapefruit / 4066 posts
@bushelandapeck: yea M was in preschool and daycare during my mat leave but some days she stayed home. I did enjoy it but it was also hard having both of them, but the baby slept a lot too. I think you have the perfect schedule! 2 days of working and 3 off is really ideal, I just don't think my wirk would go for it,,,
Thank you soooo much everyone for sharing your stories and giving advice, it really helps to hear what others have gone through, hear regrets, etc. as I am weighing all of this
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