pear / 1571 posts
We've done just over 2 years apart and now #2 and #3 will be nearly 3 years apart and honestly, if we go for #4, I think I want to go for a smaller spacing again. Just because it feels like we had just reached the "easy" stage with 2 kids, and it feels like we're starting over completely fresh with the huge diaper bag and sleepless nights and needy baby stage. Ha, maybe that's what some people want, but I am looking forward to reaching the point of all my kids being a little more independent and I don't like the idea of getting there and then immediately going back up starting over again. I loooove, love, love my babies, of course, and I wouldn't trade that first year or two for anything, but it's HARD and I think I'd rather have them all on top of each other and get it done and over with.
papaya / 10473 posts
I'm torn between maximizing my years with babies and spreading them out, and wanting them to be close together in age. AUGHHHH.
I also wish it was more feasible for us to have 3 instead of just two.
coconut / 8681 posts
Our first 2 are 13 months apart. We wanted them close but weren't planning on *that* close. We won't TTC for #3 until after DD turns 1...probably not until she's 1.5. We don't want any of them more than 3 years apart.
nectarine / 2163 posts
definitely back to back. I want the pregnancy and baby stuff over and done with! 1 and 2 will be 17 months apart. we likely won't start TTC until number 2 is closer to 1, because I want to make a full year of BFing this time.
pomelo / 5093 posts
I wanted a 2 year gap, but infertility didn't agree. Now that I'm so far out of the baby stage, I want to go back to it less and less.
pear / 1614 posts
My sons are 22 mos apart, and ideally we wanted them even closer together but it did not work out that way. I am interested in the spacing of #3 for everyone. I would also like a 3 year gap but I do think they will be closer if we stuck with 2 years. We are (well, I am) considering a 4th - if I knew we would have 4 I would want to wait 3 years and then have #3 and 4 close together again. But if we are only having 3 I think 2 years is a good spacing. Decisions, decisions.
pineapple / 12053 posts
I want more time with R alone. DH would like me to be pregnant again now! Not gonna happen. We want 3 and I foresee 3 years between 1 and 2 then maybe 2 years between 2 and 3.
honeydew / 7917 posts
I wanted between 2-3 years apart. They are 2.5 years apart. DH has a 5 year difference with his sister, and I have a 9-13 year age difference between mine. Due to our experience, we want our kids to be closer in age.
pomelo / 5469 posts
I don't know yet. I originally wanted them close together (2yrs) and to have the baby stage of our lives over as soon as possible. But now, I'm torn... it has been so tough I think we need a break in between! We were originally going to TTC again after S's 1st birthday, but now I can see us maybe waiting another 6mths/1yr so they'll be more like 3yrs apart. BUT then I question whether I'd rather have a newborn with a 2yr old or a 3yr old running around-- I always thought the older the first LO the better, but from what I've read recently it sounds like 3 is a worse age than 2!
watermelon / 14206 posts
DS and LO will be 6 years apart. I used to want back to back kids but I think this will be good.
Y brother is 9 years younget than me and 11 years younger than my older brother but we're all still pretty close.
pomegranate / 3401 posts
Ideally 2-3 years apart...probably closer to 3! I really cherish my time with LO right now and can't imagine having to share it with another LO right now! My sister and I are 3.5 years apart and it's nice....but I wish we were just a tiny bit closer in age. Not so much now that we are adults, but definitely when we were growing up
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
I want mine about 2.5-3 years apart, and then the third probably 3 years after the second.
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
2 years 9 months is the closest we'd do - depending on the circumstances, we'll TTC when LO is 2. I want her in preschool when we have a newborn again so I can have time to just focus on baby #2.
Honestly, being in the throes of newbornhood now, I have no idea how you could do it with another child!
pomelo / 5326 posts
We want to have our children about 2 years apart and would like three kids. It took us about 5 months the first time so I think we will start trying this summer when LO is 11 months. I wouldn't mind if they were a little less than two years apart.
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
@lilteacherbee: exactly this!
We want them to be about 2 years apart, so we'll start trying after LO's first birthday!
nectarine / 2936 posts
My ideal would be 4-5 years apart, but it's taking so long TTC #1 that I would probably start TTC #2 way earlier.
watermelon / 14467 posts
My sister and I are 26 months apart, and I'd love to have similar or even closer spacing. Ideally, I'd like to be done having kids by 30 if we are having two, and I'm 28 now. But we'll see.
nectarine / 2797 posts
Part of me wanted to have kids close together because my siblings and I are all close (3 kids in just over 4 years). But we will wait and have LOs hopefully 3 years apart since we found the newborn age very challenging so we want a little break from it, and since I'm a full time working mama who changed jobs when LO was 13 months, so I want so time to establish myself at the new job before I get KU again.
pear / 1693 posts
I would like my kids to be around 3 years apart. We plan on TTC when LO is about 2.
grapefruit / 4997 posts
I would love another baby, a sibling for LO would be great! We want ours about 2 years apart.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6581 posts
@septca: totally agree! I have twin sisters who are 6 years younger and one is my best friend while the other I wouldn't get along with no matter how far apart in age we were!
I'm on the fence. I'd really like to get the newborn phase over with, and I hate being pregnant so the sooner I'm done the better...but finances are a huge concern with us, and I don't know when we'll have the moola for a 2nd daycare payment.
We'll either try this fall or next, putting them a min of 2 years apart, but probably more like 3
pomelo / 5820 posts
I want a 2-3 year age difference. Preferably 2. That way, if we decide to have 3 (which DH is not on board with, haha) it'll still be possible. It took us awhile to conceive LO though, so even if we tried for a 2 year age difference, it could end up being a lot larger of a gap.
hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts
I like the idea of spacing 2 years, but because of logistics, T will be probably more like 2.5 years older than his sibling. For #3 if we have one I kind of want them closer together.
honeydew / 7586 posts
2-3 years. Ideally, closer to 2 because of my age. DH is still on the fence about whether we should even have a 2nd so we may end up just being one and done
kiwi / 597 posts
@grizz: You took the words out of my mouth! I'm so torn.
I feel like they grow up so quick and I'll miss having a baby around if I just "get it all over with," but then again there's something really special about having kids close in age.
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