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Not a bitch at all, totally normal.

@Mrs. Yoyo: ha! Bless your heart

I'm pretty sure one of my friends had that exact same facebook post a month before her due date. I guess people don't know what to say (although, twins? Really?)

@ladyfingers: Sometimes its good to put people on the spot! A delivery guy once said, Oh! I didn't know you were expecting! to me... I was not, and was like, Nope, I'm just bloated, and starred him down. It's so not like me but seriously, he had to learn!

He didn't try to tell me it was a compliment though.

bwahahaha. i'd honestly look into that shirt idea.

haha! I got that a lot too when I was pregnant, along with you must be so miserable. I was due in September and it was miserably hot in Georgia. Thanks for the observation people! My shirt needed to say "no, you cannot touch it." People get crazy around pregnant women!

@PrincessBaby: hahahaha your sign is amazing!!! "going for the vagina!" I seriously cracked up.

Haven't gotten any questions yet, but it will be my turn soon enough.

@PrincessBaby: Going for the vagaina, I think that pretty much should sum up any and all questions people ask! hahahaha that's hilarious!

Oh, the comments are so bad, aren't they? Towards the end, every day and all day I would have a handful of co-workers that would continuously tell me how HUGE I was. OMG, you're so big. OMG, you're so swelled, OMG, you can totally tell you're having a girl - they take away your beauty. OMG, you're huge. One day a male co-worker with two small children popped in my office and quietly told me he was impressed with how I was handling all the comments. He said his wife would have ripped their heads off. haha!

@ladyfingers: She's NOT fat! lol. She's has not one roll on her body! She's just super tall. I like that though. "8 months old. Yes, I'm tall for my age. Thanks for noticing."

@ladyfingers: I HATE that. Ugh. Babies are supposed to be chubby!

How about "are you going to breastfeed?" I'm 14 weeks and already getting that one. I have a standard response for ANY such question (a lady did ask me if i was plannig a c-section last week!):

"oh, we'll see what happens"
of course this invites their unsolicited advice, but that's better than their unsolicited judgement.

I saw a lady once wearing a shirt that said "DO NOT TOUCH ME." I want it badly. why random people think it's OK to touch your belly when you're pregnant is beyond me.

Better: "Take it off or I'll break it off.."

I've been a longtime hellobee lurker and finally registered just to respond to this post! Thank you for posting this, I have been miserable this past month or so and it really helped me to read all of your responses. I'm going to rant, OK?

I'm 9 months pregnant and I look like I'm 10 months pregnant - I know this officially because my uterus is measuring 4 weeks ahead (the baby is not big, I just have extra amniotic fluid). Part of the reason I am intending to leave work early is so that I can hide from all of the stares and comments! "Oh, you're getting so big," "When are you planning to leave? It must be soon." "You must be due any day now, no?" Guess what? I'm still a person, not just a breeding machine.

I think these types of comments are hard not just from one person, but because you here them all the time, from everyone, and they are people that you may not necessarily know that well. It just gets repetitive, intrusive, and exhausting. If you like attention then maybe you don't mind, but sometimes you just want to blend in and go to work and then talk about the weather or something inane and impersonal, you know?

and the worst was from someone who I didn't even recognize who appeared to be using the bathroom on our floor. "When are you due?" my answer (taken aback because she was a complete stranger): "December 28th." (at the time it was mid-November). "Oh WOW." Not a good oh-wow, but an "wow-you're-huge" oh-wow.

Of course it's really fun for me since my due date is smack in the middle of New Years and Christmas, so I get a lot of "oh boy"s and "Christmas baby!" comments. Yes, it is a crappy time of the year to have a birthday. No, it was not intentionally planned that way!

I've gotten the twins comment A LOT too, even earlier in my pregnancy, and I think that is the rudest one. Even when people say it as a "joke," I know that they are really thinking it. I mean, come on, in what world is that not insulting!!!! People often say it without thinking and I grimace and say, yes I'm sure there's only one baby girl in there. Everyone carries differently when they're pregnant and since my little girl seems to be leaving my ribs alone, I'm assuming she's positioned pretty far out there, causing all of the twins comments.

My sign would read: "December 28th. Yeah, Christmas baby. I know. No, it's not twins."

Yesterday at work I started crying and was googling forum topics like this one because I was so stressed and upset with all of the stupid comments. People don't realize that these token comments become so overwhelming when they are repeated so often and when you feel like your body is on display being ogled constantly. Combine that with the hormonal third tri and you have a recipe for misery.

@ladyfingers: Our signs would be the same. I hate saying February bc everyone seems to think that it is sooo far away and will say things like "wow you still have a while". I'm like it's 60 some days away but thanks for making this whole 9 months thing feel even longer.

@jedeve: i cringed at your exaggerated feeling comment bc its so true and i can't stand it. Everyone asks and i basically say I'm fine, I'm pregnant! What else should I be?

I would like different signs for specific people and alternate them. Like for my Dad - "yes I'm bigger since the last time I saw you and he moves all day every day."

Aaaaarggh!

I wanted to go on maternity leave earl because I was so sick of the coworkers every day, asking how are you, when do you think you'll go, are you excited, etc.
I felt bad because they were just being nice, but it was so annoying!

@PrincessBaby: Hahahahaha! I totally laughed out loud at "going for the vagina" - too funny. What is with that question though? Totally inappropriate!

@jedeve: Ugh! Yes! The sympathetic, "How are you feeeeeling?" question. I really don't know how to respond to that and I hate it.

I guess my sign should say, "April. We're not finding out. I feel totally normal other than the internal baby movements."

Mine would say, "January 10th. One baby (it's a boy.) Yes, I'm absolutely sure."

Yesterday, I had someone tell me that I looked "ripe" and then proceeded to tell me that she was "feeling" December 8th. I was like, "Um, no, December 8th is more than a MONTH early!"

I am sick to death of people telling me my due date is wrong (it's not, I know when we conceived), that my baby will be huge (we're measuring right on track), that I must be having twins (I've had 10 ultrasounds), or that I'm not going to make it till my due date. I get more and more aggravated each time someone says something. One of these days, I may snap.