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@littlebug I TOTALLY understand what you mean! I straight out told a woman sarcastically, "well THANKS" yesterday when she commented on how big my belly is getting. She insisted "no that's a good thing!" but I hope I made her think for a second. It takes a lot of patience to keep smiling and answering each question as if it's been asked for the first time!
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@LazyLightning: YES! It's totally like when people would ask about being excited before the wedding. I never felt like my answers satisfied them then either.
I kind of feel like Miranda in that episode of SATC when she finds out she's having a boy and isn't as ebullient with her reaction as everyone else thinks she should be.
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@ladyfingers: ME TOO. I can comfortably sit in silence with other people, gladly. Most people can't.
@umegoodness: I will admit, it was really hard for me not to ask each of the ladies in my office when they were due all the time (I kept forgetting). But knowing how much pregnancy ladies hate it, I kept quiet!! I figured I'd find out when the baby was born eventually, right?!
@hergreenapples: oh yes. Some people who've found out have been jumping up and down, squealing, even had tears in their eyes. And it's me having the baby and I'm just like "yep. yeah it's exciting." We all experience things differently.
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@hergreenapples: "I feel like shit, thanks for asking. If you keep talking to me, I'm likely to barf my pop tarts on your shoes."
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@LazyLightning: Ha ha! Yeah I always automatically answer "Fine" or "Good" to the "how are you feeling" questions, which these days has been a bald-faced lie. I think in my head - well, I could give you a list of the crappy things I'm dealing with right now, but I don't think you want to hear it! Like do you really want to know that I am nauseous, having heart burn, have a sore back, a sore neck and hips? That I'm more sleep deprived than I have ever been in my life? Lol.
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@umegoodness: "let me tell you about the zits in my ass-crack. would you like to see them?"
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@LazyLightning: LOL!
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@ladyfingers: I'm in January and get the ooh so far away! thing too. I smiled so much when one woman told me it was getting close (which I know will also get annoying) because it finally made me feel like I wouldn't be pregnant forever.
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@LazyLightning: I hated all the "just focus on what's important" comments when I was engaged, especially right before the wedding. Which, again, I know I've said to people. But it was annoying because I wasn't freaking out or being Bridezilla, I just would want to address a basic logistic people would have totally been annoyed about if I hadn't, you know? Yes. The most important thing is my husband. But I still need to print off these programs.
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@jedeve: haha no kidding. "Just relax, it'll work out."
Stuff works out 'cause you make it work out.
Just like I'm not going to feel less barfy if I go around with a smile on my face repeating "miracle growing!!"
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@LazyLightning: @umegoodness: I like to say I'm fat and happy. Which prompts ooh you aren't fat. Why can't I just be fat if I want to be??
Sorry for three posts in a row...just kept seeing something I wanted to reply to!
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Oh lord this is hilarious. It does make me feel bad though cause the onlyquestion I could ever think to ask my pregnant friends was "how are you feeling?" - I always felt super sensitive to be asking that instead of saying "wow you're huge!!!" or "are you excited?"... like acknowledging the answer might be "shitty".
And I never knew what else to ask! I'm sure I'll be super sick of answering it one of these days!
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@LazyLightning: bahahahaha
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@JoJoGirl: Oh, don't feel bad! I don't get irritated at the individual people asking harmless questions, I just get irritated answering them over and over. It's just the rude comments/questions that get me!
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@umegoodness: I had a Christmas baby (Dec.17), so I can TOTALLY relate - oh, and when I was checking into the hospital for my induction the nurse asked if it was twins. You gotta think, this chick sees pregnant ladies every.single.day. NICE. haha
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@Ladyfingers Oh you sound just like me 2 years ago! I had a boy due in February actually Valentine's Day WAS my due date! "Oooooh Valentine baby!" was my most-frequently-heard comment. I was also huge so I got the twins/you-must-be-due-any-day remarks too.
My favorite weirdo comments come from my in-laws who like to tell me I look tired. They aren't from the States so I guess they don't get that this is offensive. But still. I always reply with a "thanks."
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I'm not showing yet, despite being 16 weeks, so I don't get the commentary from strangers yet. But my coworkers continuously remind me that I'm not showing. There were two other women in the office pregnant this year and both were very thin and showed from the moment they conceived. Being plus-sized, I can tell my body has changed and I can tell I've got a little bump, but when I'm fully clothed, I just look like I've put on ten pounds. So that comment totally irks me!
People who do know I'm pregnant, or when they find out I am, I get "are you breastfeeding?", "are you going to find out the gender?", "are you going back to work?", and "are you getting an epidural?". These questions seriously set off an alarm in my head, *this is a trap, this person is looking for an in to give me their opinion!* and sure enough...
So my sign would have to be "yes, we're finding out the gender, yes I'm continuing my career, yes I plan to breastfeed, hell yes I'm getting an epidural, and nothing you say will change any of that!"
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These are so funny! Most people have been sweet but I'm so surprised at how many people ask,
1. Are you breastfeeding? (Just plain old none of your business!)
2. Are you going to do it naturally? (Which as someone stated above I never know if they mean sans drugs or just vaginally - and I'm always like - um yeah we're going to try because I figure that covers either question)
3. Are you getting an epidural? (After which follows judgement about whether I should or shouldn't)
4. You should name her after me/Valentina (I'm due 2/15)
5. Ohh, a girl - you're probably happy but is your husband upset? (Uhh, no you nut job!)I just can't believe people ask so many personal questions! My sign would say 'It's a girl and we're BOTH very happy! The rest is none of your business!'
And I never knew what else to ask! I'm sure I'll be super sick of answering it one of these days!
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