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Is this rude?

  1. 2littlepumpkins

    grapefruit / 4455 posts

    @ShootingStar: sounds like you have a lot on your plate, sorry. It is really sweet of you to be taking on this huge project and I hope she will never forget it and appreciate it!

  2. Emilia80

    apricot / 296 posts

    @ShootingStar: I don't think it's rude, I would probably just out of curiosity just want to see what they looked like and so forth. When I throw parties I always consult with the person it's for to ensure its to their taste. I guess everyone is different, depends how it came across.

  3. MarieJ

    pear / 1579 posts

    I don't think it's rude. I asked my sisters and mom to see mine because I was excited.

  4. Bluemasonjar

    clementine / 920 posts

    If you had already discussed the theme and wording of the invite then I don't think she necessarily needed to see it unless she was just excited. My cousin didn't even send me an invite for my shower this past weekend but gave me a copy at the event. I love party planning so it is hard for me not to have an opinion but you have to remember that someone else is hosting and be gracious.

  5. looch

    wonderful pear / 26210 posts

    I don't think it's rude, necessarily, but it sounds like something I myself might do...not because I would want to change anything, but when someone calls me and tells me they got our cute invite or asks me a question about it, I'd want to know what they're talking about.

  6. GoGoSnoGirl

    pear / 1558 posts

    I don't think that is rude, necessarily, either. I like how your DH handled it, myself. This allows them to see it, but not have the opportunity to change anything.

    I didn't see either of my shower invites, & was only "invited" to one of my 2 showers happening in the next week. It is killing me not to ask about how things are coming along for either, but I don't want to sound like I don't trust things are coming together... though, for the family shower, I really do *not* trust things are set. There's some drama there, which I'm just not up for dealing with, so I'm just going with the flow of everything else I need to pay attention to right now.

  7. Umbreon

    clementine / 854 posts

    I don 't think it's rude at all. In fact, I think the opposite, that it would be rude not to show her the invite before sending it out, especially asking for her input on theme, wording, etc. If it were my shower, I'd probably be thinking "Why did you even want my opinion on these things unless you were going to let me see it beforehand?"

    If you showed it to her, told her it was done, and she had a bunch of things she wanted changed, then that would be rude. Unless you specifically asked her if she wanted anything changed.


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