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@runnerd: *hugs* the fear never goes away and it's just not fair! Are you able to get your hands on a doppler so you can check heart tones before Monday?

It's going to be okay!

It's going ot be OK!!! The bleeding can have NOTHING to do with the baby! My SIL bled a lot with my nephew. Went to the ER twice. They couldn't figure it out and finally towards the end they randomly found that she had some kind of internal tear (not near the womb) that was bleeding. My nephew is now 3.5 and perfectly healthy!

It's going to be okay!!!

I was a mess while pregnant with N (9 week m/c before him), so I can understand the anxiety. It's really, really hard. Like PP said, there can be many reasons for bleeding that have nothing to do with baby.

ETA: Its going to be okay, I really believe it. Take care of yourself and be gentle.

(below is my long winded response, with advice, which you may or may not want).

I'm so sorry. I would try to focus on relaxing yourself, and managing your anxiety. I literally have to say to myself (sometimes out loud): "stop. I'm not going to think about this right now." and then I think about something else. Its difficult-sometimes all thoughts will lead me back there, but you have to keep trying to reign in your panicked thoughts.
I'd take go to a yoga class, maybe meet a friend for tea? Anything that might feel relaxing to you but also gets you out of your head a little. Maybe go watch an action movie in the theater? Its hard to be distracted by invasive thoughts when you have massive explosions happening in front of you.
I'm a therapist, and sometimes I tell clients about that old SNL skit where the therapist just keeps yelling "stop it!" at the worried client in front of him. The truth, however, is that if you can find a way to stop entertaining the thoughts, they won't be there. Its easier said than done, and I understand the complexities of it, but when I've struggled with my own anxiety I've found it comforting to remind myself that I can choose to think about something else. I just might have to really work at it.

It will be ok!! Do you think getting a home doppler might help ease some of your worry?

I've now had 3 losses (one before #1 and two after #2). If we ever get pregnant again for #3 I don't think I'll ever really be able to relax during pregnancy. Hugs.

@runnerd: It will all be okay -- I had bleeding with DS similar to what you described and he is perfectly fine!

I would consider buying a doppler, especially if you were willing to pay for an elective u/s.

You can buy one at this website and get it 2 day shipped for < $60:

http://www.fetaldoppler.net/sonoline-b-pink.html

@runnerd: Spending $30 on a Sonaline B Doppler on eBay helped me a lot in those early weeks - I only used it a few times but just knowing I could check in made the anxiety about another loss much easier.

ETA: I had three early losses before this one finally stuck, and I no longer feel like I'm going to lose him at any time. The feelings of stress definitely lightened up for me once I started to feel the early movements.

You're going to be just fine mama! Deep breaths! If it helps, my sister had a MC around 8 weeks before both of her term babies and with those pregnancies had scary bleeding off and on throughout. If I lived near you I'd come right over with my doppler to give you reassurance, but it would be totally unnecessary because everything is just fine! Stay positive!

Hugs. I'm right here with you. Still incognito b/c I'm so nervous about losing current 7w pregnancy. Had my son with no prior MCs. Had an early loss then an ectopic before conceiving this time. I have lots of pregnancy symptoms, had good betas, and even saw and heard the heartbeat already. Yet I'm still so so nervous that this isn't real. I also used to get really anxious in the few days leading up to each appointment with my son. No real advice about overcoming that, but just wanted you to know you're not alone.

You've got a major thing going for you: you're already 13w! Out of the highest risk of MC. One day at a time. And lots of distractions.

@runnerd: I am so so so sorry. It is just so terrible to deal with. Did they bring up the possibility of a SCH? When I bled in pregnancy #3 after my prior 2 losses, I lost it but having that diagnoses actually helped a bit.

Also, my OB was really good early on about letting me come in more frequently.

@runnerd: it'll be okay! I've been there too, and I'm along with you again. We both had healthy babes before and these ones are going to stick! I can feel it!

@runnerd: Ughh my heart broke for you reading this!
It will be OK!!!!
I can understand your fear, that must have been scary!!!!
Maybe a home Doppler?!
Try to relax and know all is well!!!!!
((Hugs))

I totally feel ya! We had a loss before DS, then a miscarriage earlier this year, and now pregnant with DD! You're out of the 1st trimester at least so put some stock in that!

How do you feel about an at-home doppler? I thought about getting one so many times with this pregnancy because of the same fears you have.

Thinking of you, mama! I'm sure that little stinker is just perfect in there.

Can you call the nurse advice line and ask to come in today or tomorrow just to hear the heartbeat? I had a spotting incident at 16 weeks, and when I called, they had me come in just to see a nurse and hear the heartbeat. Did wonders for my peace of mind.

I had a lot of bleeding!! Very similar to yours. I have an 10 month old right now from that pregnancy!

EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY!!! Good luck!

@runnerd: Deep breaths. Everything is going to be fine.

@runnerd: From PAL mama to another, you're going to be great! Its a super nerve wracking time but it sounds like you've had nothing nothing but good scans. The only thing that helps me is the doppler, maybe you can order one too

@runnerd: Gahh, I'm sorry hon! Fingers crossed that everything turns out okay!