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@DesertDreams88: great question! I am in a similar situation - a little over 13 weeks and just starting to tell people (although a lot of people knew very early because they knew we were going through IVF). It is scary, but exciting to spill the beans I'm curious to hear what you decide. We are telling my hubby's family this weekend - they live overseas so we took a cute photo with our dogs this morning to send them. I'm not sure about the whole social media side of things yet though...

I'm 20 weeks and hardly anyone in my massive extended family knows immediate siblings, as well as mum's 2 siblings & kids know (they're overseas). nobody from my 50+ cousins in dad's side have been told. meehh.

I put up a "cryptic" facbook post, which was a painting by the artist that has done my profile pic - its a family of 4 little forest animals and wrote *surname* family - November 2015. my closest friends replied, none of my family got it.

@MaryM: I 100% understand this! For awhile, I felt so bad when everyone we told was so excited and wanted to talk about baby stuff, names, plans, etc. All DH and I wanted to do was be cautiously optimistic (and even that was hard!) To be honest for awhile, we were detached a good deal.

Now that I'm 19 weeks and we've gotten past the anatomy scan, I'm feeling more excited. (Can't believe I'm almost halfway there!)

Hope everyone is doing well!

@HappyBluebird: Yay for anatomy scans! Did you choose to find out gender?

@HappyBluebird: @FliegepilzHut: Thank you both!

I do know I'm less scared than I was when we first found out, so I guess I just need to be patient for the next few milestones. 7 more weeks until the anatomy scan. Hopefully they go by quickly!

@MaryM: I hope they go quickly too! It always seem so far away but then before I know it I've made it to my next mental milestone.

@FliegepilzHut: Thanks!

@MaryM: The time will probably fly by! Wishing you all the best and lots of happy milestones to come!

@MaryM: I totally get it. For the first few weeks, I felt very detached from the baby...I wouldn't even use the word "baby." Up until the very end, I was sure something bad would happen but now he is here and healthy. Its just so hard to fathom when all you've experienced in pregnancy is loss. All you can do is take it day by day and remember that God has got you in all of this.

@HappyBluebird: Yay for halfway!!!

@simplyfelicity: He is gorgeous! So many congratulations to you, mama. So happy for you.

There have been 2 new loss mamas that I know of on here this week, and it's making me so incredibly sad for them and also bringing up so many more worries. Only 21 weeks to go....

@simplyfelicity: Oh my, he's so precious! What a cutie!

@simplyfelicity: Your baby is beautiful!

I've had a hard time with the word "baby" too. Especially in the early weeks when it was the size of rice and other none exciting things. Now that it's getting bigger it's getting easier, but I still don't feel confident like I know I should. I hate that we've all lost that ability to have blind bliss and expect the best!

So I was in therapy today, talking about how I just miss my son and his lack of potential, and talking about how it felt in my body- hollow, empty inside. And then I felt the baby kick! I have maybe felt it a couple of times but have an anterior placenta, so I'm not expected to feel it for a while. It was so special and sweet, like Henry (my son) was telling me it's okay, that he loves the new baby, he accepts it. Just wanted to share a sweet moment (in the midst of much anxiety). Not feeling anxious at all now, but peaceful. I was so worried I was betraying Henry by being pregnant... but he is right here with me.

@LulaBee: What a beautiful moment. Thank you for sharing this with us.

@LulaBee: What a beautiful story!

Thank you to everyone here for the support for me over the past 1.5 weeks. I hate that you all understand the terror I felt/feel.

Its also nice to know that people get why its hard to be so excited. On one hand, I feel over the moon and incredibly blessed. On the other, I am terrified to get to attached in case there is a problem again. I am obsessively watching the days right now, and hope I make it to whatever I am +1.

I hope to be able to let go of some of this stress as the pregnancy continues or I start to feel "more."

Love and support to you all.

I had a bit of pink spotting last night which I'm really hoping is normal. It sucks how slow the joy and confidence is to come, yet how fast the terror sets in.

@crystal: aw so sorry to hear about the spotting and anxiety. My first trimester was filled with so.much.anxiety. even though I didn't have any spotting... looking back, I should have maybe asked my doctor for some mental health resources or help. We conceived only 3 weeks after my PCOS diagnosis and 1 week after the MFI diagnosis, so I was still really upset over that and in disbelief. Is your ob someone you feel like you could talk to for emotional support, or at least ask for names of people to talk to? Hopefully work and DH can help keep you busy and grounded! When is your next appointment? I imagine you'll be getting another ultrasound soon?

@simplyfelicity: @DesertDreams88: @GoGoSnoGirl: thank you so much, friends. i really hope this is just a small blip, but just when I start to feel slightly comfortable, something happens to remind me that there is still a long ways to go.

My next appt is Friday. My ultrasound for last Friday was cancelled because I had one a few days prior as a follow up. I'm anxious for another one so I can make sure the baby is growing properly. It's been a long few weeks.

Good idea about asking my OBGYN for some mental health resources, it can't hurt.

I really do appreciate all of you so much. ️

@simplyfelicity: thank you for sharing. I feel like I'm fine until I see spotting, then my mind just whirls. It would be nice not to feel that way.