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Pregnant after a loss

  1. My Only Sunshine

    persimmon / 1129 posts

    @mamabolt: I'm at 8w6d and all looks good! I had a freak out yesterday because my morning sickness kind of went away. But today it's back with a vengeance. It's a strange life to be wishing for nausea! I know what you mean about being ready for movement. The time between appointments feels forever long to me.

  2. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @DesertDreams88: So sorry to read this. You are right that it is very fleeting. Thinking of all of you this month.

    @mamabolt: Yay for a baby boy! So glad your results came back normal.

    @My Only Sunshine: I had quite a few times I wished the nausea away and then once it was gone would worry like crazy!

    AFM, almost 33 weeks and it feels like it's gone slow and crazy fast all at the same time. Baby girl is doing good at each appointment, it's nice that they are every 2 weeks now (not that they do much at each appointment!)

    Thinking of all of you ladies and hope everyone is doing well!

  3. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    I really wanted to keep this off the main boards for the sake of privacy but LBee and I wanted to do a little something for MaryM to show her how much we care. If you are interested in contributing, please wall me and I can give you the information. Hope everyone is well.

  4. Travelinmoon

    coffee bean / 33 posts

    We had our anatomy scan and found out we are having a little girl. Unfortunately things didn't look quite right and we were referred to a perinatologist. My husband couldn't take two days off in a row and we weren't overly concerned so I went alone today.

    Basically the baby has all the signs and symptoms of a rare chromosome disorder called Turner syndrome. She has a heart defect as well as severe swelling and fluid buildup up all over her body and brain. They want me to terminate and said she'll likely be a stillbirth if we don't. If by a miracle she makes it her heart defect will ensure she doesn't survive long. I am heartbroken as this is our third pregnancy and still no baby in sight.

    I'm just at a loss on what to do and how to move on from this. I just don't understand how so many people have multiple healthy babies and I just want one. Right now my baby is alive and I'm here morning her tiny life that just ment so much to me.

  5. travellingbee

    hostess / papaya / 10219 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I have no words to express how sorry I am. I am so truly sorry.

  6. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I am so incredibly sorry.

  7. Tidybee

    nectarine / 2834 posts

    @Travelinmoon: what sad news. I can't remember who (delight??) but there's another bee on here that went through something similar. Thoughts, prayers, and hugs.

  8. mamabolt

    nectarine / 2797 posts

    @Travelinmoon: Oh I am so sorry to hear this. Love to you.

  9. lilteacherbee

    cantaloupe / 6791 posts

    @Travelinmoon: Yes, Delight had a very similar experience. My first baby was lost at 9 weeks due to Turner Syndrome.

    I'm not entirely sure how the severity of it works, but a high school friend's sister has TS and she's now 23 years old.

    So many hugs your way. Hope you get more answers soon.

  10. futuremama

    clementine / 854 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine how difficult this decision may be. I'm sure there is a wide range in the severity of Turners, but my 48 year old aunt was born with it, and besides a few minor health issues (she's short and on the heavier side and has many hormonal issues) she is a perfectly normal person. I believe her issue was that she only has half of the chromosome, so it isn't missing entirely. Anyway, talk to your doctors and get all facts. The possibilities may seem grim, but there is hope.

  11. Travelinmoon

    coffee bean / 33 posts

    Thank you all. From what I understand the TS is the least of our concern. The heart defect and the severe fluid build up are the game changers so to speak. My ob, who I love and trust with everything, wants me to get a second opinion before I make any decisions. He's meeting with me on Monday to discuss further but I'm just afraid if I wait too long some of my options will start to disappear. Right now I just want to name her.

  12. DesertDreams88

    grapefruit / 4361 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I just saw this and I am so, so sorry. To get to 20 weeks and receive this news must be so difficult. I can't imagine the decision. I hope your doctor can help you and be wonderful during this time.

  13. auggiefrog

    kiwi / 631 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I'm so sorry hon. I can't imagine what you are going through, to make it so long and get this devastating news. I'll be thinking of you and hoping that a second opinion can give you more options.

  14. Torchwood

    pomelo / 5607 posts

    @Travelinmoon: Decided to check in on this thread and saw this. I am so, so unbelievably sorry you're going through this. Our anatomy scan on my third pregnancy (2 m/c's) was so similar. Little girl, unlikely to survive, though in her case it was hydrocephalus. It didn't get bad enough to be sure until 30 weeks, and we had to terminate at 32. It was by far the hardest thing I've ever been through, and the two weeks of feeling her move, but knowing I would never hold her or get to know her were so hard. There's nothing I can say that will make it easier, but please don't hesitate to reach out if you need to talk. I also blogged about it, if you think reading someone else's experience might help (it did for me). Sending you so much love.

    ETA- It was Delight who terminated due to TS. You might try reaching out to her as well.

  15. LulaBee

    pear / 1837 posts

    @Travelinmoon: So very sorry that you are going through this.

  16. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    @Travelinmoon: Thinking of you today as you meet with your doctor.

  17. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @Travelinmoon: man I am sorry to see this. I have been going through my own problems this week haven't been paying attention to the boards. We lost our little girl to TS in December. It was an awful experience. I am so sorry you are going through this but if you have any questions please ask.

  18. Travelinmoon

    coffee bean / 33 posts

    Hi, thank you all for the kind words. It's been two stressful weeks but tomorow is my big apointment. Today I went in to my doctor, saw the heartbeat which is still "perfect" and got the results of my blood work. Blood work showed everything normal except for an increased risk of DS 1:173 I honestly don't know what to make of this because my dr said he expected to see a lot more in my results. I'm confused but hopeful for tomorrow. Please say a little prayer for us if you have the time!

  19. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @Travelinmoon: sending out lots of prayers for you, your family and your LO

  20. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I absolutely will. Please keep us updated. Wishing you peace tonight.

  21. Mrs. Champagne

    coconut / 8482 posts

    @Travelinmoon: everything crossed for you! ❤❤❤

  22. mamabolt

    nectarine / 2797 posts

    @Travelinmoon: sending lots of good thoughts to you tomorrow!

  23. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    @Travelinmoon: Thinking of you.

  24. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @Travelinmoon: hope everything went well. I remember the stress of it all when I was in your shoes. They were the worst weeks of my life. Hang in there and I pray you get positive results.

  25. Zbug

    persimmon / 1355 posts

    @Travelinmoon: any updates? Sending hugs and best wishes.

  26. Zbug

    persimmon / 1355 posts

    I'm joining bc I got a faint bfp this morning. I had a missed miscarriage at almost ten weeks in June. I'm super excited but also terrified. I sort of wish I hadn't tested yet (12dpo) in case it turns into a chemical pregnancy. If this sticks, I hope I will be able to relax after the first trimester but I'm just not sure. I relaxed after we saw a strong heartbeat last time, and I wish I hadnt. How are you all dealing with this?

  27. DesertDreams88

    grapefruit / 4361 posts

    @zbug: Congratulations! I know your fear. Testing at 12dpo is totally understandable, and a pretty solid test date.... and even though it would be heartbreaking, it's important to know even about chemical pregnancies if you were to ever need recurrent loss testing (but hoping and praying you don't!!)

    How I got through the first trimester was by being kind of neurotic, honestly. My doctor did betas at 14 dpo, 17dpo, and 21 dpo (there was a weekend thrown in there). I also tested with the clearblue weeks estimator test, in between the beta tests, and tested until I saw 3+ weeks. My OB does ultrasounds at 7 & 11 weeks, and I begged for a 9 week one too - I had to go to a separate clinic and pay "extra" but it was worth it. I also memorized miscarriage statistics week-by-week and comforted myself with those as the weeks passed (though this might not help you, with a 10-wk loss). I bought a home doppler and I was able to hear the baby's heartbeat consistently starting at 9 weeks, but I knew I would be able to mentally calm myself down even if I didn't hear it, because even OBs don't use dopplers that early. Lastly, I rested a LOT and prayed a LOT.

  28. futuremama

    clementine / 854 posts

    @Zbug: Congrats! I totally understand the feeling. I am 14 dpo today, but I got a BFP at 9dpo. I've had two m/c's at 8 wks and one at 5 wks. It's been a long 5 days of over analyzing every symptom (or lack thereof). I've already had hcg tested twice and am getting a dating u/s next week. There's no easy way to get through it. Try to keep busy with other things. Once you get they the first tri, it gets easier.

  29. Travelinmoon

    coffee bean / 33 posts

    Well my update is not good. She's getting worse and has slowed down growing, doctor gave us a zero percent chance of her surviving. "She is just not compatible with life outside the womb" hard to hear. We're going to schedule the termination just haven't decided on induction or surgery.

  30. noelani

    olive / 58 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I am so very, very sorry. I was given similar news in late April, my baby had a different condition (CPAM) and based on its severity we were also told he was incompatible with life. We terminated at 23 weeks, and I chose labor and delivery. Please feel free to message me. This whole experience has been devastating, but hearing how other people coped with similar losses helped me feel less alone. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

  31. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    @Travelinmoon: There are absolutely no words to describe how sorry I am that you are experiencing this.

  32. Zbug

    persimmon / 1355 posts

    @DesertDreams88: @futuremama: thanks, ladies. I really appreciate it. I'm going out of town for a week, so I think I will wait and see what happens before making a dr appt. I do think I'm going to continue POAS for awhile though. Thanks for sharing your experiences and advice.

  33. Zbug

    persimmon / 1355 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.

  34. DesertDreams88

    grapefruit / 4361 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I'm so sorry. I wish you all the peace and clarity in your decision.

  35. mamabolt

    nectarine / 2797 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I am so sorry to hear this news. Wishing you peace and comfort as you sort through your options and move forward.

  36. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I'm so sorry. There are no words that can be said but I will keep you and your family in my prayers

  37. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @Travelinmoon: I am so sorry to hear this news. A few of us have been in your shoes. It has almost been a year since my TFMR. it was the hardest experience of our lives but we got through. Not a day goes by that I don't think of our little girl though. I wish you strength and healing during this difficult time. I chose to have a D&E and it was the right decision for us. I still got to have her footprints. If there is any info you need feel free to message me.

  38. LulaBee

    pear / 1837 posts

    @Travelinmoon: So incredibly sorry to hear this. Sending you light and love!

  39. Shantuck

    pear / 1766 posts

    I just got a positive hpt after suffering a miscarriage in June. Last time my doctor's office had me come in at 6 weeks for blood work and that started a few weeks of beta testing hell. I'm kind of inclined not to do any beta testing this time round. Other than peace of mind if my numbers look good, is there any reason I should do beta testing? Would it be stupid to not do testing in case progesterone levels are low?

  40. Silva

    cantaloupe / 6017 posts

    bumping this thread....
    I tested positive yesterday very early, at 10dpo. The line isn't much darker today. And I know it's so early, I'm using cheap tests, etc. etc.
    But I feel sick with worry and totally distracted by this. How am I going to manage this? Any advice?
    I have a blood test Monday, and they will schedule a viability scan based on those results. That seems so impossibly far away right now.

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