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  1. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @looch: haha, exactly! No matter what happens, I want to be the one to experience it with my kids.

  2. smocks

    apricot / 483 posts

    @T.H.O.U.: Good point on them taking her to a theme park alone - I wouldn't be cool with this.

    My IL's have taken DD for 2 week-long trips. But they were at their house and in that comfort zone. And they were when she was almost a few months shy of 3, and maybe a month after she turned 3. She did fine both times, but was really home-sick by the end.

    I can tell you, I have gone on vacation with DD and my parents when she was 2, and she was a HANDFUL. Like, constant supervision. Not a 5 second break. She was literally running off wherever and whenever she felt like it, I had to chase her down and it was not relaxing at all for me. And this wasn't at crowd-heavy place like Disney. I don't think their vacation would be as enjoyable as they think it would be, and I would be paranoid the whole time. For a day? Sure. A week? Omg no.

    Not worth it IMO without at least 1 parent there.

  3. T.H.O.U.

    wonderful clementine / 24134 posts

    @smocks: Exactly! At least at their house, I knew they had a bathtub with an anti-slip mat and an area for a changing pad and baby safe toys, etc.

    I would get nervous about a week long trip (just the logistics) with a 2 year old going through the airport, hotel and theme park!

  4. Mrs. Champagne

    coconut / 8483 posts

    Yeah uncool of your husband for sure

    Also maybe it's just me but OMG I would die before letting my son go to Disney with my inlaws. He is a runner and they cannot keep up. My mom barely could. I wouldn't let her either.

    Just say you'd miss him too much, sorry!

  5. JoyfulKiwi

    nectarine / 2667 posts

    @Miss Ariel: your husband 100% shouldnt have said that. He should have presented it as a "we are still thinking about it." It was disrespectful to set you up as the "bad guy" and I'd be furious about the "fight your own battles" thing! You are married, he should support you, and HE should fight any battles that arise with his own family. I'd definitely be talking to my husband about this if it were me.

    As for the trip itself, I think your instinct is right here. When my son was a few months shy of 3, my dad flew with him a state away to spend time at their house. They left on a Saturday & I arrived the next Wed evening. It had been fine & my son was mostly okay, but those few days weren't easy and the most taxing thing they did was eat at a restaurant! My son missed us most at bedtime (so, tell your DH that cousins and Mickey mouse won't help there!) and had more tantrums than usual. I'm glad they went, but a whole week apart, with all the madness of a big excursion like WDW would make me say no. (My mom asked if she could take him cross-country to the beach this summer, and he'll be almost 4 but I said Hell No).

  6. gingerbebe

    cantaloupe / 6131 posts

    My husband would never do something like that because HE WOULD GET SLICED IF HE DID and he knows it. That was a dick move fo sho.

    Also, my son is 20 months old right now and I know there's literally no way he could deal with Disney World for a week even with all the stars aligned and me orchestrating every move perfectly. Much less letting him go with his grandparents without us AND with older kids in tow who have vastly different interests and abilities. One or more grandparents would have to leave for naps or do something separate with your kid the entire time and they would be MISERABLE. And they would probably complain later about what a pain your kid was and then somehow blame your parenting as the cause or something.

    No. No, no, no.

  7. catomd00

    grapefruit / 4418 posts

    That's pretty upsetting! Even if DH doesn't agree, he'd never throw me under the bus like that! In our marriage, whomever parents it is is who deals with the issues. We support each other no matter what, even when we don't agree with each other.

  8. mrsrain

    nectarine / 2115 posts

    I agree with most of what has been said. Also, o currently have a 2 year old and a 2 month old. It's a big adjustment for everyone! I think something like being away from you that long would just make it even harder on your LO.

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