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You need to point blank ask your DH for more help. He's not a mind reader, and he can't tell that you're tired and not feeling well unless you tell him. If it helps, show him this post. Let him know he needs to take responsibility for dinner, or the house clean up, or something. And then trust him with it. If he forgets to pick up dinner and asks you what's for dinner when he gets home, remind him that he was supposed to pick it up and send him back out.

Something's gotta give, and your health is uber important right now since you're growing a human. He needs to pitch in with some of the day to day. It will get him used to taking on more responsibility once the baby is here.

I find it's important that when you ask your DH to do something, to trust him to do it and not criticize. The more you criticize, the more he'll leave it to you to do.

I had ridiculous morning sickness with my eldest until like 26 weeks and then I felt AWESOME for 2 months, and then felt like a sleepy whale until delivery. With him, I was working full time and it was a high risk pregnancy. With DS2, I had an easier pregnancy (MS lifted at 16 weeks), but I had a toddler, I was working half-time, and DH was in business school while running his business and working another job. With DS2, I didn't get my energy back until 20ish weeks either. I get it.

Basically, you throw money at the problem until your energy comes back. I basically always kept the ingredients to like 3 easy meals I could knock out in 20-30 minutes in my house, made enough to serve like 8-10 (i.e. eat at least twice in a week plus a lunch) and froze half for another day. I think I aimed to cook twice a week, eat leftovers of each meal once, eat out once, eat takeout/delivery once, and hope between those things we had leftovers for one more dinner. Once we had a toddler, I aimed to cook 3 times a week, eat leftovers of each meal once, eat out once, and cover dinners that way. We ate a lot of pizza. I ate a lot of McDonalds for breakfast on the way to work in the morning. I ate out for lunch basically every day. With DS2, we hired a housecleaner twice a month. We have a gardener maintain the yard. DH was specifically assigned laundry, dishes, garbage, and gassing up the cars. We got a Roomba to vacuum. DH was in charge of his own breakfast and lunch. We used a lot of paper plates and plastic forks when we couldn't deal. I still did the shopping and cooking and packing any toddler lunches and daycare bags.

In the long run, its just a few months where its rough like that. You will survive and soon you will feel energy + nesting kick in and you will make up for it!

@2peasinapod I agree. I don't know why he isn't doing more? He can pack your lunches and prepare simple meals. It is not hard to pick up take out. Or buy some easy freezer stuff that just requires heating up. Think mandarin chicken from Trader Joe's - put on cookie sheet, put in oven, put steamer bag of veggies and rice in microwave, done. You need to sit down and specifically delegate to him what he has to do. He needs to get used to it now before the baby comes.

Prioritize. I agree to stop worrying so much about the food and if you can throw money at any problem like food then do it. But first put it on your husband. If he forgets dinner he can get back in the car and deal with it! I know with this pregnancy when I push it just makes it worse, everything from nausea to dizziness and pain. Also for me social engagements are mentally relaxing but also tiring so maybe cut back a little on that and see if it helps. Hang in there- that second trimester energy boost is relative too. Ive had different periods of different energy levels throughout all three of my pregnancies. Right now I'm at the tail end of the second trimester in my third pregnancy and some days are great and others I barely wanna stand up.

You have to delegate things to others. Don't have time to clean, then hire a housekeeper. Don't have time to meal prep, then buy or hire someone else to meal prep. Don't have time to do laundry, then hire a laundry service. You would be surprised that some of these things are not very expensive. I had someone come over and deep clean my home. It released so much stress. Now I can focus on the smaller and more manageable things that I need to do.

Also think ahead to when the baby is here. Yes you may not have school work, but you'll still have to figure out how to get out of the house in the morning (plus a baby and more stuff!), add in daycare pick up drop off and the amount of time that would take, and assume not really being able to run errands on weeknights. Reflect on say how much time it takes you to get ready in the morning. Will you have that much time with a baby? What can you cut back on in your schedule now? Set out an outfit the night before, wash hair the night before and dry overnight, limit make up? For meal times do you spend time gathering ideas and supplies and prepping? How can you reduce that? We can have a meal on the table in like 20 minutes most nights.

You'll be forced to do all this once baby comes. And DH will have to step up to help then anyways. Get him on board now.

During my second pregnancy I got really sick (bronchitis, maybe the flu? Non-stop chest and nasal congestion, a sinus infection, exhaustion, etc) because I was doing what it sounds like you're doing. I finally took a day off work, and then a second day, but by that time I think it was too late--I really never got better until after I had the baby. I would have taken even more off, but my older daughter was hospitalized with RSV and I had to take another 3 days off for that. I finally stopped doing anything I didn't absolutely have to because I knew how much harder labor and delivery would be if I was run down. I would highly, highly recommend slowing down just like your mom is saying.

Others advice about delegation and also figuring out what you can let go of is great. If you have to make dinner and get your child in bed alone because your husband gets home late, he could always do the dishes when he comes home, for example. For easy meals, this post was great: http://www.hellobee.com/2017/09/12/10-dinners-i-make-and-serve-in-ten-minutes-or-less/

There were a lot of things I let go of after having #2, and knowing it was temporary made it much easier. We still eat very simple meals, but I know when #2 is closer to 3 years old I'll have more time to get creative. I barely exercised for months due to sleep deprivation, but 9 months in I was finally able to sleep enough that I could work out more. Another thing: I don't bring work home anymore.

I hope you can get into a groove and step back a bit

Just wanted to say I sympathize, as I'm 23 weeks and feel like I have yet to experience the 2nd tri energy boost. I'm also trying to figure out what I can further cut out, and the suggestions here have been great. I hope things calm down and you feel better soon

@CC Mommy: I am ALL about delegating and my DH doing his fair share at home but I still do feel that twinge of guilt sometimes when I ask him to do something, especially if it's normally my task. But I feel it and then I just let. it. go. Hopefully it will lessen for you as time goes on and you develop a new normal.

Also I feel you on the trader joe's meals, those used to be almost a luxury for us and only when I really didn't have time or energy to cook and now it's like once or twice a week we have them. It's just what is necessary for this life stage! I love cooking but it's too much while working full time, pregnant for me a toddler too. Save the real cooking for when you feel up to it!

Hope you are feeling better and less stressed soon and it's almost Friday!

On ironing... My mom always did my dad's shirts and it was a huge chore because she hated ironing.

I think it was the luck of getting married later in life, but DH has always taken anything that has to be ironed to the dry cleaners to be washed and ironed. I'm so thankful I never had to keep up with them (especially when he was working daily in a shirt and tie). It's usually inexpensive for shirts, and I think my time is worth more than the dollar or so we spend per shirt.

@CC Mommy: Glad to hear it! And if he's offering to help you, you really need to start saying yes. The household responsibilities do not fall squarely on your shoulders. He lives there too, and even though he started a new job, he's OFFERING to help you. Just say yes!