Husband kinda wants to know and I kinda don't. Help?? Ultrasound is tomorrow! Should it just be my call?
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Well, you can never un-find out, once you know it is done. You could always pay for a gender ultrasound at a later date if you decide that is what you want to know.
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Bring a blank piece of paper and an envelope and ask them to write it down and seal it up. That way you have a little bit longer to discuss with your husband and decide whether you want to know. If you end up deciding you don't want to know, just put the envelope away in a drawer and don't look!
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Is it your only ultrasound? I had one at every visit (it was in the OB's office, so no need to go to another location) and could have found out at any point I wished.
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I vote for having the tech write it in an envelope! Maybe a compromise is to wait for a special occasion to open the envelope? Is your husband any good at keeping secrets? A friend's husband looked (with her "permission") months before she did, and then just kept it a secret.
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The envelope is a great compromise!
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Given the timing of your ultrasound, I'd suggest the envelope and then discuss with DH why he wants to know. We have been team green with both our pregnancies and while it is harder in this society (some people think we are crazy for not finding out) we have really enjoyed getting to know our LO without any expectations of who they are in the womb. Also, ultrasounds can be wrong in some cases.
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More than likely you can have another ultrasound, so if you are undecided put it in an envelope (I could never not open that though) or just wait until a later date!
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If DH wants to know, he should get to know. BUT he has to keep it a secret from you and not ruin it. Some friends of ours tried this and were fine until she had complications and the doctors started referring to the baby as "he" and "boy" in the hospital.
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@PawPrints: ditto.
And no I don't think it should be just your call. It's both of your's baby! Not just yours.
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This was our situation too. I told my husband I was totally fine with him knowing but he HAD to keep it a secret from me and everyone else. He decided he would never be able to do that and went team green along with me. But no, it shouldn't be just your decison. It's his baby too!
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I would have the tech write it down!
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DH wanted to be team green and I didn't. We ended up finding out and we're going team green for the next one.
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We are going to TRY to be Team Green. If DH wanted to find out, I would make the tech write it on an envelope and just have him read it since he is good at keeping secrets.
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My vote is for the envelope! Then you can decide later if you reallllly want to know.
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Dh wanted to know, but I did not. And there is no way he could keep that secret, I would know right away what it is depending on his reaction. We went to our US and baby decided it wanted to be team green too.
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I didn't read these in time. We didn't find out. I was too stressed with the idea of knowing. I mean, sure I would like thinking "oh, we have a son!" or "oh, we have a daughter!" But I figured I have their entire life to experience that and buy cute clothes.
Unfortunately I found out I have placental previa so will have to go in for another ultrasound anyway. So I can always change my mind!
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@purrpletulips: I like that, "no expectations." No need to talk about ballet or football...it's just baby.
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@jedeve: Just wanted to say I had placenta previa too and I'm now 28 weeks and it has totally resolved itself so try not to worry about that!
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