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Yep, I hear you.

I am in the same boat. So far I have only told my parents I am pregnant and I get loads of unwanted advice. Last night it was about how I shouldn't gain anymore than 20lbs (I am normal BMI now). I was like, "Well I was told a pound a week is what I should aim for". And she was going on and on about how that cant be the case and 20lbs was the maximum I should be "allowed" to gain.

Sigh.

Recently it was how my cats are going to kill my baby. That wasn't stressful at all.

Double sigh.

She might not be being judgmental but she sure isn't being sensitive. I'm sorry:(

@yoursilverlining: I know.. I told that to my Mom and she said QUOTE "Well, that's one thing I am going to put my foot down about!".

I was like whatttt????? You don't get to put any foot down. I am nearly 30, having a baby with my husband and I am keeping my cats.... Hisssssssssss!

I eat a (mostly) vegetarian diet, and I swear every time I or husband talk to family on the phone, they ask what I'm eating for protein. "Tell her it's not just her anymore. She needs to eat some meat!" Uh, thanks. I'm aware of the baby's need for protein. Got it covered.

Also, my mom INSISTS that I'm an idiot for not wanting an episiotomy. "That baby's gonna rip you to shreds!" Ugh.

@allison: I'm vegetarian and got that a bunch too. I said my doctor is aware of what I'm eating and ok with it thank you very much for your concern.
Ugh
. People.

@yoursilverlining: my stepmom's cats do jump in DS's pack n play when we are visiting! I'm sure if we were there all the time they'd learn to stay away, but since we are only there now and then they like to "investigate". But it's not like they'd hurt DS. Or that just having a cat (these were really young cats too!) means something bad will happen.

Advice is something you just have to grow a thick skin for. Depending on the topic, I explain my thoughts, but most of the time I smile, nod, and do what I want.

I find myself getting more and more advice as I get further along and I'm over it too! A coworker asked me at a recent potluck if I should be eating deviled eggs (as I got ready to pop one in my mouth) and when I said it was fine she was like "are you sure? I don't think you're supposed to eat those." And she's never been pregnant! It was the day I got my GD diagnosis and I wanted to pop her one.

@tororojo: We got a hand-me-down drop-side crib. I went online to the manufacturer's website, and they had an option to order a kit (free) to convert the drop side into a regular, non-drop side. It was just a couple of metal brackets and some screws. But it saved us a ton of money! I love the look of the crib, though, so I'd probably feel differently if I didn't.

Oh lorrrd, my MIL tells me (any anyone within earshot) about how my dog is so mean, and bites, and is going to kill my babies and if I keep the dog she's taking the kids.

...um, what? My dog has never so much as even looked at someone mean, and i'm pretty sure you won't be taking my kids, MIL.

I heard my aunt SCREAMING the other day about how my cousins wife was giving birth to their DS and the doctor was "going to let her tear naturally! I said "NO YOU AIN'T GONNA LET HER TEAR! Can you believe that?!?! That stupid man was gonna let her tear, I told him he better snip her and snip her sew her up straigh"

I was SO embarrased for her lol

I let it slip yesterday at our shower that we are planning to cloth diaper. BIG mistake! Everyone in the room was of the opinion that we are total idiots for wanting to do it. Because they think it's still the old pin fastener. I didn't even bother trying to explain. I just said, "We'll see."

I don't get much advice, really, but I am sick to death of the comments that I am going to deliver early, or that the baby's going to be huge, or that I am huge, or that I must have twins, or whatever. It just makes me feel awful.