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@Torchwood: I wasn't team green for the same reason, but flipped - I thought that if I was going to have any gender disappointment I'd rather deal with it during an ultrasound, not birth. I was very wrong - I felt the exact same way you did, and finding out we were having a boy hit me in an unexpected and very hard way. But if I had waited? There is no way I could have been that upset while having my gorgeous baby boy placed into my arms for the first time.
I'm torn for the second time around. I LOVE the idea of being Team Green, but am a crazy planner who LOVES designing the nursery. My husband wants to know. So what I am considering for next time is having them write it down, and then maybe a month before I'm due e-mails him two shopping lists with links - one for a boy, one for a girl. He can then look and see what we're having and buy the appropriate nursery stuff. Is that a crazy plan? Maybe, I kind of haven't discussed it with him yet. But I think something about being the only one who knows would appeal to him.
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We were team green and I loved it and would do it again. It was so much fun to hear everyone speculate by the way I was carrying or other old wives takes. It also made the last couple pushes a lot easier as I was excited to find out boy/girl.
Next time we may find out as I think DH would really like to and I made us be team green. But we will see, maybe I can convince him otherwise.
I also think for the first it is great as all out gear is neutral.
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I had to know both times. I think, for me, it helped me bond with the baby better and wrap my head around the pregnancy.
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Team Green! Nothing cooler than hearing the emotion in my husband's voice when he got to tell me we had a son and a daughter.
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We were team green for both babies and it was worth it. To me it doesn't have to do with being a planner or not... Just being on HB kind of shows we're pretty much all planners! We were plenty prepared for both kids even without knowing their sexes!
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We found out but I think I want to be TG the next time! I have to convince dh though!
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We found out but didn't tell anyone until 37 weeks (Christmas).
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Team Green x 2 here and LOVE it!!! Hearing DH say "it's a girl!' was one of the most emotional moments of my life - not to say it wouldn't be emotional with the arrival of a new baby regardless, but nine months of anticipation, hopes, and dreams culminating in those three little words was an indescribable feeling. We are five weeks away from finding out what LO #2 is and the excitement is building!
I'm also a total planner but unless you plan on buying gender specific gear, it's really not hard to plan for a TG baby at all. We have ten newborn/0-3 month boy outfits and ten girl outfits (in addition to DD's clothes), so we will be set for the first week or so with clothes, giving us (and the grandparents!) time to go on a gender specific shopping frenzy. I'll probably order some gender specific A&A blankets as well but we have a couple of neutral ones to get us through the initial days.
It's really not hard to be TG and there are so few emotionally charged surprises left in life, I would not want to deprive myself, nor DH, of that magical moment of hearing "it's a _____!" For me, I just wouldn't get that same rush of emotion hearing an ultrasound technician say "yup, it's a ____, see the _______right here?" and then waiting another 20 weeks to actually meet the LO.
I can't recommend being TG enough!
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@polkadots: I actually have read multiple articles that suggest finding out the sex ASAP if gender disappointment is a possibility. It stated that by finding out as soon as possible you have time to grieve for not having the sex you preferred and get excited for the new arrival. Plus I guess some moms are so convinced they are having one sex and then find out it's the other at birth have breakdowns after birth due to disappointment and sudden change in hormones.
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@leelee: This is a very good point, never thought about it this way. I am preparing myself for a girl..(found names I love, can reuse DD's things) so that makes me excited if it is. Haven't found any names for a boy or looked at buying any boy things. So I'll be happy if its a girl, and surprised if its a boy.
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How did the scan go?? Did you guys find out??
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Eagerly awaiting your update!
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Found out the first time, but not finding out this time. Thought it would be nice to try it both ways. I don't get the people who say they are planners. You are still planning for a baby, it's not like anyone is saying don't plan at all.
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@Vegmama: @Periwinkle: the gender is in an envelope! I gave in to my husband who wanted to find out! we will look tonight with some sparkling grape juice. there is an outfit wrapped up for dd to open! @leelee: got me thinking and thought it would be best to find out due to gender disappointment... ill update when I know!
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@polkadots: I loved being TG with our first, but if we have a second I think we'd find out ahead of time. I feel like it would help make the idea more real for DS if we could tell him he was getting a baby brother or sister, rather than just a more abstract baby.
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UPDATE: we found out and so glad we did! IT'S A BOY! I was 99% sure it was a girl since that is what we have already and we have a lot of girls in our family. were excited!
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@polkadots: congrats!!!!
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Congrats!! What a surprise!
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@polkadots: Congrats! Enjoy planning for your little man!
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Yay! Congrats!
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Congrats!!!
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Yay for a boy I was the same way and was so surprised when the tech told us it was a boy (which is what I really wanted) now I can't wait to meet my little man in a few weeks! Congrats
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@polkadots: Yay for boys!
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Woohoo!
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What a surprise! Congrats!!
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